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Rose,
Thanks for the update. I also read your new post on the caring bridge site. Thanks for making the effort to let us all know how things are going. I will be hoping for the best for you and will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI too am sorry to hear of all your latest problems. I will be hoping for the best for you and will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.
Darla
I was thinking about her too. I checked her caring bridge blog but she hasn’t posted on there in the past week either. I too hope she is OK. If anyone knows how she is doing, please let us know.
Darla
Dear Sarah,
Your Mom does sound like she was an amazing women and I know how large the void must be that her passing has left in your lives. Just remember that she will live on in your hearts and memories forever. Rant & rave, scream, cry & vent all you want. I do it often. It doesn’t make it go away, but it does help & relieves the stress a bit.
I know how you feel about everyone going on with their lives when yours will never be the same. For me, I feel like everyone else has someone and that no matter what I do or where I go, I always come home alone. Atleast on this site there are others who understand our feelings of loss and loneliness as they share in our pain. It makes me sad to know that there are so many of us affected by this horrible unpredictable disease.
I still wake up some mornings thinking this was just a terrible nightmare & that Jim will be here beside me. I often say that I just want to go back to the beginning of last summer, before all of this began, and stay there forever. Unfortunately, that is not reality. So for now all any of us can do is put one foot in front of the other and take things as they come, one day at a time.
Take care and know that here you have friends who care & understand.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Sarah,
So many of us here know what you are feeling. Our experience was very similar to yours. My husband passed away Sept. 2, 2008 right at the time that your nightmare was beginning. He was 62 and had his first symptoms only 7 weeks before that. He too was otherwise healthy. We were told it was CC, also intrahepatic, and he didn’t have long to live (days to weeks) only 1 week before he passed on. So I truely do know how you are feeling & what you are going through. You are so right. People tell you that they know & understand how you feel & that it will get better with time. They just don’t know. They can’t possible understand how dealing with this horrible cancer changes your life forever, unless you have been through it.
I am glad that you found this site. I found it a few days after Jim passed on and it has been a Godsend to me. Without this site & all of the wonderful people on it I don’t know how I would be able to deal with all of this.
Please come back often. We are all here to help each other.
I would also like to share a poem with you that will hopefully help to easy your pain.
She is Gone
You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left.Your heart can be empty because you can
Dear Sarah,
So many of us here know what you are feeling. Our experience was very similar to yours. My husband passed away Sept. 2, 2008 right at the time that your nightmare was beginning. He was 62 and had his first symptoms only 7 weeks before that. He too was otherwise healthy. We were told it was CC, also intrahepatic, and he didn’t have long to live (days to weeks) only 1 week before he passed on. So I truely do know how you are feeling & what you are going through. You are so right. People tell you that they know & understand how you feel & that it will get better with time. They just don’t know. They can’t possible understand how dealing with this horrible cancer changes your life forever, unless you have been through it.
I am glad that you found this site. I found it a few days after Jim passed on and it has been a Godsend to me. Without this site & all of the wonderful people on it I don’t know how I would be able to deal with all of this.
Please come back often. We are all here to help each other.
I would also like to share a poem with you that will hopefully help to easy your pain.
She is Gone
You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left.Your heart can be empty because you can
July Girl,
That is wonderful news. It is always good to hear positive things on this site. Good luck to you. We do all share this common bond of having to deal with this monsterous type of cancer in one way or another. I am so glad that you found this site, as much as I hate the reason that you have to be here. I will look forward to your updates, hopefully all positive.
Darla
Everyone is different. In my husband’s case it went really fast. I stayed with him 24/7 the last week and one of our sons was also there with us the last two days. We really didn’t know what to expect & had planned to take him home to hospice care, but he passed on in the hospital the morning we were planning to take him home. From what you describe, it may very well go quickly, but no ones knows for sure. If at all possible, I think I would try to work something out with the family to have someone with her as much as possible. Again, know that you are all in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaKelslilSis,
Thanks for the update on your sister. I am glad you have joined us but sorry for what you & your family are going through that has brought you here. As you know, this horrid disease doesn’t play fair. It is sneaky and unpredictable. Nothing is consistant & it treats everyone differently. Keeping your sister comfortable & out of pain is very important now, so you are on the right track. It is all so very hard on everyone.
Your trip to Monterey sounds like it was a nice break for both of you and something you will always remember.
My heart breaks for you. Your sister is too young and it is so unfair. As you said, it real does SUCK!!!!
Just remember that we are all here if you need us. Even just to vent your feelings. You, your sister & your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaRalf & Fiona,
I too will be thinking of you tomorrow & hoping the results of the scan bring good news.
Darla
Dear Kris,
I am so sorry you have to be dealing with all of this bad news. You have already been through so much. I think your attitude is pretty darn good under the circumstances. You have every right to be upset, frustrated, angry & scared. It really is hard to understand how you can feel so good & be so sick, isn’t it? But that seems to be the nature of this horrible disease. I hate this monsterous cancer. It is so sneaky & unpredictable. There is just no way of knowing what will come next. Come back & vent all you want. We are all here for you. Take care of yourself Kris and let us know how things are going. Keep that great attitude. That is what will get you through.
I will be thinking of you and hoping for the best.
Lots of Love & Hugs,
Darla
You have come to the right place to vent all you want. We all need to do that now and again and we all understand what you are feeling & going through and are here to listen. Right now all you can do is what you are doing. keep on being realistically hopeful. Nothing about this horrid disease is easy, so all you can do is the best that you can under the circumstances that present themselves. I will be hoping for a positive outcome for your Dad. Take care & know that my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
Darla
