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SpectatorSuzanne,
Glad to see you back on & that you are doing so well. Take care & keep us posted as to how you are doing.
Darla
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SpectatorDear Grace,
I am so sorry for your loss. I truely understand the shock & pain you are now experiencing and how overwhelming it all is. My experience was very much the same. My husband passed away 7 weeks after his first symptoms and only 1 week after being definitively diagnoised with CC. He was 62. I know how hard it is to believe that this could happen & so quickly. Just know that your Dad is now in a better place, free from the suffering & pain of this monsterous disease. He will be with you forever in your heart and memories.
I found this site shortly after my husband passed on. The people here are all so kind, compassionate and understanding. Feel free to come on & post whatever & whenever you want or need to. The help & support of everyone here is just phenomenal. Try to take care of yourself now and know that my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorHeather,
Say what ever you want here. We are all going through the same thing as you & truely understand how you are feeling. We are all here to gain strength & support from each other. I lost my husband a little over 6 months ago and I come here often. Sometimes it is hard, as you said, but mostly it is comforting. I too think it helps me to be able to try to help some of the others who come here for help & support. It is good to know that we are not alone & that here everyone understands as others who have not dealt with this monster cancer can.
My heart goes out to you & Em. I will keep you both in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Roma,
Try not to beat yourself up too much on this. You are going through a lot right now. It is all so over whelming. All you can do is deal with things as they come at you and do the best that you can. Take it one day at a time. Everything has a way of working itself out in its own time.
I know this is hard to do, but try to take some time for you. You need to take care of yourself too so that you will be strong enough to deal with everything else.
I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorHi Jennifer,
I too want to welcome you to the site. I found it a few days after my husband passed on and it has been a God send to me. Everyone here is so helpful & supportive. They all truely understand what you are going through & are here to listen. As Barbara said, here you know that you are not alone. Come back as often as you need to, to ask questions or just to vent your feelings & frustrations.
Darla
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SpectatorNatasha,
I am so sorry for your loss. This must all seem so surreal right now. I too believe that everyones day of death is written & that no one or nothing can change that. Remember that your Dad will be there waiting for your Mom. Try to get some rest as you will need all the strength you can gather to support your Mom through the rest of her journey. She is very lucky to have such a wonderful caring daughter. Take care. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your Mom.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorNo doctor here either, however, in my husband’s case, he did not have lung mets, but experienced chest pains several times & EKG’s etc. were done. They concluded that in his case it was caused by anxiety. I agree with Lisa, he needs to mention it to his doctor.
darla
SpectatorTeresa,
You can’t help but get negative at times. We have all been through so much. I get negative too. It is so hard to stay postive all the time. Like you said, it just doesn’t work. We are all here to help & support each other when we need it the most. You are right, this site & the people on it are all amazing.
Darla
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SpectatorI have to agree with Janet. It is difficult & so sad. Gentle touching, hugs & kisses and holding hands is about all I can offer. Share what you can, while you can. All of that is what I miss the most now. As Lainy said, it really does redefine your life & what is truely important. It affects not only the patient & caregivers, but everyone around you.
darla
SpectatorDear Teresa,
You are absolutely right. Everything about this SUCKS!!! I know just what you are saying. It is so hard to believe that they are gone & will never be here with us again. I saw the picture you posted & Shirley was a beautiful person and so are you. I can only say again what keeps me going. They may be gone, but they will all be with us, in our hearts forever.
I too hate this cancer for how it has affected all of us. Atleast we all have each other to lean on for strength & support. God bless this site & everyone on it.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorHi Everyone,
I too go from soft gentle tears of sadness to times of gut wrenching sobs. I also feel that the uncontrollable crying comes from frustration. I do feel somewhat better when I get it all out.
I agree with all of you that the person we were before is gone & we will never be the same. I feel like a part of me went with him when Jim passed on. Our lives have changed forever. I am beginning to think that the sadness & grief will never truely go away. It will always be there. I think we just have to learn to live with it and go on. The questions is trying to figure out how to do that. I have good days & bad days, but it is always there in the back of my mind.
Everyone try to have the best day that you possibly can under the circumstances. I am thinking of all of you & the grief that we share.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorPam,
This also will sound odd, but I think it is “normal” that we have these breakdowns, if that makes any sense. It is also probably a healthy reaction as it does seem to relieve the stress of everything that we are going through. I have had this happen so many times. Sometimes the smallest of things will set it off and I do usually feel better afterwards.
I have been told that the more we love and the more we care, the harder it is, which is actually a testament to that love. As you said, it is just one more part of this awful journey that none of us wants to be on.
I think we would all agree with you that we too hate this monster of a cancer that has affected so many, patients & caregivers alike.
I too think that you will be OK for now. Stay strong & know that we are all here for you. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers along with everyone else that is dealing with this horrible disease.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorHollie,
Sending more love, thoughts & prayers to all of you. Thanks for keeping us up to date on what is going on with Sophie. Kepp us updated when you can.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorYes, he was a Vet & it was a fluke. Interesting play on words!
Thanks Patty for posting this. I also believe that the immune system plays a part in all of this & hope for the day they figure out how to use this information to more aggresively attack this horrible cancer.
darla
SpectatorKatie,
They do have a bracelet, however, right now I think they are waiting for new ones. I believe it will be posted on the site when they get them & they can be ordered.
Darla
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