darla

Dear Grace,

I am so sorry for your loss. I truely understand the shock & pain you are now experiencing and how overwhelming it all is. My experience was very much the same. My husband passed away 7 weeks after his first symptoms and only 1 week after being definitively diagnoised with CC. He was 62. I know how hard it is to believe that this could happen & so quickly. Just know that your Dad is now in a better place, free from the suffering & pain of this monsterous disease. He will be with you forever in your heart and memories.

I found this site shortly after my husband passed on. The people here are all so kind, compassionate and understanding. Feel free to come on & post whatever & whenever you want or need to. The help & support of everyone here is just phenomenal. Try to take care of yourself now and know that my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Roma,

Try not to beat yourself up too much on this. You are going through a lot right now. It is all so over whelming. All you can do is deal with things as they come at you and do the best that you can. Take it one day at a time. Everything has a way of working itself out in its own time.

I know this is hard to do, but try to take some time for you. You need to take care of yourself too so that you will be strong enough to deal with everything else.

I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Natasha,

I am so sorry for your loss. This must all seem so surreal right now. I too believe that everyones day of death is written & that no one or nothing can change that. Remember that your Dad will be there waiting for your Mom. Try to get some rest as you will need all the strength you can gather to support your Mom through the rest of her journey. She is very lucky to have such a wonderful caring daughter. Take care. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your Mom.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Teresa,

You can’t help but get negative at times. We have all been through so much. I get negative too. It is so hard to stay postive all the time. Like you said, it just doesn’t work. We are all here to help & support each other when we need it the most. You are right, this site & the people on it are all amazing.

Darla

Dear Teresa,

You are absolutely right. Everything about this SUCKS!!! I know just what you are saying. It is so hard to believe that they are gone & will never be here with us again. I saw the picture you posted & Shirley was a beautiful person and so are you. I can only say again what keeps me going. They may be gone, but they will all be with us, in our hearts forever.

I too hate this cancer for how it has affected all of us. Atleast we all have each other to lean on for strength & support. God bless this site & everyone on it.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Pam,

This also will sound odd, but I think it is “normal” that we have these breakdowns, if that makes any sense. It is also probably a healthy reaction as it does seem to relieve the stress of everything that we are going through. I have had this happen so many times. Sometimes the smallest of things will set it off and I do usually feel better afterwards.

I have been told that the more we love and the more we care, the harder it is, which is actually a testament to that love. As you said, it is just one more part of this awful journey that none of us wants to be on.

I think we would all agree with you that we too hate this monster of a cancer that has affected so many, patients & caregivers alike.

I too think that you will be OK for now. Stay strong & know that we are all here for you. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers along with everyone else that is dealing with this horrible disease.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Yes, he was a Vet & it was a fluke. Interesting play on words!

Thanks Patty for posting this. I also believe that the immune system plays a part in all of this & hope for the day they figure out how to use this information to more aggresively attack this horrible cancer.