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Dear Janet,
Thanks for giving a name to your posts. I am glad you are going to stick with us. Without going into all the details, I will tell you that I too am dealing with a lot of other responsibilities along with trying to deal with my grief, so I do understand why you are feeling so overwhelmed, as so am I. I just try to remember that right now I have to come first or I will not be strong enough to handle all the rest. Everything else I will deal with one day at a time.
I feel much the same as Joyce and agree with everything that she has said above. Join us on our thread whenever you want or need to.
Love,
DarlaMagic,
I believe that you too are a very caring person. You are going through a terrible time right now and as I am finding out, nothing about the grieving process is easy. I am hoping you will stay with us as I am sure that in the future you will find that you can also be a help to others that come here for strength & support. I think that helping others can also helps us to deal with our grief.
Take care of yourself & try to be strong. I will be hoping you will keep in touch with all of us here.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaThank you Joyce. I can honestly say that I feel the same about you. Your Mom was also very lucky to have you. I can not begin to tell you how much your posts & so many others on this site have meant to me. I couldn’t have gotten through the past 6 months without all of the love, help & support I have gotten from all of the wonderful caring people on this site.
I have often felt as you have when reading some of the posts and also hesitate to reply as I also do not want to take hope away from anyway and as we all have found out, this disease is so unpredictable & treats everyone differently. Our experience may not be the same as theirs.
Take care Joyce & keep posting as I feel that by being here & trying to help others deal with this horrible disease we are also helping ourselves.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Magic,
I have already posted on your other post, but want to tell you once more how much we all need each other here & hope that you will continue on with us. We all need all the help & support we can get and welcome you to stay with us.
Love,
DarlaPam,
Thanks for sharing. I also have tears in my eyes. Know that you & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love,
DarlaElizabeth,
I can only mimic what everyone else has already said & welcome you to the site. I am sorry you need to be here but am glad that you have decided to join all of us. I will be hoping for the best for you with the clinical trial. I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.
A lot of hugs & love,
Darla
Lisa,
I love your attitude and totally agree. I am sorry that you had to recieve this bad news tho’. Keep your spirits up if you can & know that you & your family are in my thoughts & prayers along with everyone else on the site.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMagic,
I did not find this site until a few days after my husband passed on. I too thought that at first it was too late for me & that I wish I had found it sooner, that it may have made a difference if I had know what I know now before he passed on. I have come to realize now that is not true. It would have been good to know what was happening but it would not have changed the out come in our situation. This site has been a God send to me & I have formed some true friendships with many of the people here. Without this site & all of these wonderful people I don’t know what I would have done. Having to deal with this monsterous cancer is something that only those of us who have been touched by it can truely understand. We all need each other to share the victories & the grief. Please know that just by being here, you have become a part of this wonderful club that as Lainy says “no one wants to join” but that we are all happy to be here. I do respect your opnion & it is your choice if you are comfortable posting here or not, but please do not think you do not belong. We are all here to help & support each other and will be here for you too if you let us.
Teresa, I hope you too will stay with us. I know how hard it is and how much you miss Shirley. We all need to help, comfort & support each other as we travel down this road of grieving.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
Irene,
You are so right. Unless you have lived with it or been touch by it in some way, you can not possibly understand what it is like. There is nothing even close in comparision. I am not a doctor or nurse, but my personally feeling is that in cases such as yours & Judy’s I too would opt for no chemo or radiation. I also am convinced that it may do more harm than good. Again, this is just my personal opinion. Each person has to know there own body & make ther own choice in these matters as to what they feel is best for them considering everything that is involved. I do wish you both the best of luck on this scary journey that you did not chose to go on but are now having to cope with.
Darla
Irene,
I have wondered the same thing. In a lot of cases the age seems to be 50’s & 60’s, but it seems that the tumors could have been there long before that, (sometimes possibly for many decades) just hiding & waiting to attack with a vengence. Now there seems to be a lot more younger people showing symptoms & being diagnosised. As usually, nothing about this disease is consistant or makes any sense what so ever!
Darla
Terri,
Thanks for passing on all the good news about Suzanne. I also am so happy for her. It must be a great relief to her, you & your whole family that things have gone so well.
Darla
Dear Magic,
It is still very early for you in this process of grieving. I have been told that it takes time & is different for everyone. It is something that we did not expect to have to experience and have no way of knowing how to deal with. I do understand what you are feeling. April 2 it will be 6 months since my husband passed on. It went quickly & we had no time to prepare. I too am overwhelmed by the grief and also by realizing that now I have to go on alone dealing with everything that we once shared without his help & support. I agree with what Joyce said. I have just been putting one foot in front of the other and dealing with things as they come along, one day at a time. It isn’t easy & I still feel overwhelmed & don’t know how I am going to get through all of this, but I have managed so far, so I will keep trying. This whole process of grieving is so exhausting & feels so hopeless at times, but we all just have to try to be strong & do the best that we can. You need to think of yourself & take care of yourself now so that you can stay strong enough to deal with what is to come. My thoughts will be with you as we all travel this journey of grief that no one wants to have to bear. Come back here often for help, support or just to vent your feelings. We are all in this together. None of us is alone.
Take Care,
DarlaDear Steph,
You are a wonderful, caring daughter & your Dad is very lucky to have you. My son said something similar to me when his Dad passed on. He too is filled with grief, but said that he can not imagine the loneliness, pain and loss that I must be feeling after so many years together. It is hard, but having your family and friends to help and support you along with every one here does help. Grieving is not an easy process to understand or go through as I am finding out. It is just something that has to be done. We aren’t given a choice.
We are all here for you and for you too Magic.
Love,
DarlaDear Steph,
What Pauline has said is so true. All of us that have lost a loved one to this horrible disease know what you are feeling. We are all experiencing the pain & grief that you are now going through. Come back and vent all you want and yes, it is OK to feel sorry for yourself. Know that our thoughts are with you today and that we are all here for you.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
