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Dear Nancy,

I would like to add my sympathy & support to the others. Remember he will always be with you in your heart. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.

Darla

Hello,

I tend to lean towards the same theory as Irene based on the experience I had with my husband’s illness. He had no symptoms until about 2 months before he passed on. Up until that time he only had a few aches & pains & minor fatigue. At 62 you just take that as old age setting in. In his case, by the time he was diagnoised it all went so quickly that anything that was suggested was not an option because he was losing so much weight & was too sick & weak. My understanding is that he probably had CC for years, but as it was contained in the bile ducts and had not spread & he seemed to be very healthy all his life, it was not found & the symptoms did not present at all until it was too late. He lived a normal healthy life until the very end, so I have to believe that in his case, treatment earlier would not have help, but could have actually shortened his life or atleast made him very ill at times. Unfortunately, I will never know that for sure as we did not have the luxury of being able to make that choice. It was taken out of our hands.

That said, every case is different and everyone should seek out more opinions & then make the decision that they feel is best for them.

So this is my 2 cents worth for what it is worth!

Along with everyone who has had to deal with CC I will be praying for a cure so that others will not have to go through what all of us have & many still are dealing with. And yes, as Lainy stated, it really does redefine your entire life.

God Bless Us All
Darla

Dear Chris,

I too am sorry to hear of John’s passing. Lainy said it well, so I will just add that he will be in your heart forever and you will also always have a part of him with you in Joey. I am sure that Joey will know his Dad through you. As you said, he is now at peace & you seem to be too. Know that we are all here for you if you need us in this time of sadness. Take care of yourself now, as Joey needs you now more than ever. You & Joey are in my thoughts & prayers.

Love,
Darla

Hi All,

Just want to add to the electric problem issue. I have a light that is again acting strange. Lights, radio & blinkers in the van also & my new cell phone (not exactly electrical, but close enough) is not working at all!!!! Had to have the old one reactivated until I can get another. Has anyone noticed slight scents that you identify with your husband? Usually very subtle and not real often, just now & again. Just curious if anyone else has experienced this.

Sue, I hope that both you & the dog are feeling a lot better. I also know how you feel about becoming too reclusive. Having the business right below in the same building, I really don’t have much need to get out, but I do force myself to as I need to be away from here & in different surroundings now & then or it is just too easy to just never go anywhere. Even if it is just to the bank, post office, grocery, library or just a walk when the weather is good. It just feels good to get away from it all now & then. Sometimes it is just so easy to just stay in the safety of my comfort zone, but I know that is not healthy for me mentally. Oh, and good job with the fridge. It is amazing what we can do when we have no other choice, isn’t it?

Everyone take care & try to keep busy tomorrow.

Love To All,
Darla

Lainy,

Thanks for posting the poem again. I copied it out the first time you posted it & read it every day, sometimes twice a day. It really has given me a lot of comfort, especially when I am having a really bad day.

I am hoping for the best for you & Teddy in the new year. You have been very blessed. Cherish every moment. Stay strong & keep fighting.

Pauline, Joyce & Sue along with everyone else whow is grieving for their loved ones that have been lost to this terrrible disease, may the new year give us the strength we need to go on. I am thinking of all of you all the time.

Love,
Darla

Welcome Charlotte,

I am so sorry that you needed to become a member of our little club, but thankful that you have found it as it is the best place to be when dealing with this horrible disease. As you will learn, this cancer seems to treat everyone differently. What works for one does not work for another. Some are very successful with treatment & some are not. My husband was one of the unlucky ones. By the time we knew what we were fighting it was already too late. Many on this site are being treated and doing well. All you can do is take things one day at a time. Ask a lot of questions & do your research. Second, third & sometimes even fourth opnions can be helpful. You will find that everyone on this site is more than happy to share what they can. The knowledge & support on this site is just remarkable. I am so glad that I found it & I know that you will be too. I will be hoping for the best for you & your husband on this journey that you really did not want to take. No matter where it takes you, know that you can come here any time & get all the help, support, guidance, strength & comfort that you need.

Take Care,
Darla

Dear Iris,

It is with sadness & tears that I read your post. I am so sorry for what you have & will now be going through, but just know that Peter is now in a better place & is no longer in pain or suffering from this terrible disease. It is always harder on those of us who are left behind. I am glad that he passed peacefully & with relatively little pain. Remember that he will always be with you in your heart and memories. You can be so proud of how both Peter & you dealt with your journey with CC that no one should ever have to take. Try to take care of yourself now. You will need all your strength to help yourself to go on. Know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you & Peter.

Love,
Darla