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Thank you Dee and I am sending those thoughts right back at you. My heart also goes out to you and all others who have or are now going through the same. Hoping you too can find some comfort as you deserve it, too.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaKerri,
Thank you for your kind words. Supposedly everything happens for a reason, but what reason can there be for this? I still have days I think back to what happened and even tho’ I lived it, it is hard to wrap my mind around how quickly he went from a very active, seemingly healthy man to dying so ravaged by this disease. I had never even heard of Cholangiocarcinoma before all of this. It is a very aggressive form of cancer. I know that even if he had survived any length of time, he would not have had the quality of life he deserved so for that I am grateful. Their passing quickly is a blessing, but is so much harder on those of us left behind.I do understand your pain and how you are feeling. Cherish the memories of those 8 months that you shared. It will now mean more to you than you could ever have imagined. Jim and I were together almost 45 years. Married for 41 and for most of those years were together pretty much 24/7. I take comfort in knowing that I had more that most people ever are lucky enough to experience, but that doesn’t stop me from wanting more.
I too was pretty much non functional in the beginning, but I realized that I just had to push through it and try to go on. In time you will find that although it never totally goes away, you will have more good days than bad and will be able to think more about all the good times than those last 2 months. It does get better with time.
The poem Lainy posted above is one that I pretty much keep in my head for times when I am feeling down. In the beginning I said it to myself daily.
Just take things one day at a time. That’s all you can do.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Kerri,
You and your family have my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mom. I truly know what you are going through. My husband passed away from this disease 5 years ago in less than 2 months also. Until that time he appeared to be healthy and active. Like you, I found this site within days of his passing and have been hang out here ever since. I have gotten so much comfort and support from the people here. They all have dealt with this disease in one way or another and truly care and understand. I have forged some very close relationships through all the support I have gotten and being able to give my support and understanding to others helps me too. So welcome to our unique group. I hope you will stick around as you will find so much care and understanding and it will help you to heal. There is nothing that can take away the pain and loss you are feeling now, but everyone here is willing to help in any way that we can.
Take care Kerri and know that we are here if you need us.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this sad & trying time.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaElsy,
That is a beautiful post and wonderful tribute to your dear grandmother. I am so sorry that you have lost her and all that she meant to you, but take comfort in knowing that as unfair as all of this is, at least she is no longer suffering or in pain. It sounds like you shared so much. Keep all of those memories close to your heart. She will always be with you in your heart and memories of happier times. No words can heal your pain and sorrow, but in time the wonderful memories will help to ease the pain of your loss.
Take care and know that I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Kathy,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Nothing can easy the pain and sorrow, but know that he is no longer suffering or in pain and is in a better place. Keep him with you forever in your heart and memories.
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad and trying time.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Tammy,
You and your family have my deepest condolences on the loss of your dear father. It sounds like he was an amazing man and will be greatly missed by many.
Nothing can ease the pain and loss you are feeling right now, but take comfort in knowing he is now in a better place and no longer in pain or suffering. Keep him with you forever in your heart and memories.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI too am sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. Try to take some comfort in knowing that at least she did not have to suffer long and is now at peace and no longer in pain. Keep her with you forever in you heart and loving memories. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaGigi,
What a beautiful tribute to Al. It sounds like our husbands and situation are much the same. Everything you said I can relate to me and Jim also. Other than that he only suffered for 2 months and has been gone almost 5 years, we seem to have pretty much lead the same life with the same kind of man. Still love & miss him so much as you do Al.
Love,
DarlaHi Again Gigi,
All I can say is that you will come to realize that you are stronger than you think and you will survive. There are days that is hard to believe, but it is true.
I thought the same way, but 5 years later, I am still here and taking it one day at a time.Darla
Dear Gigi,
I have been dealing with this for almost 5 years and all I can tell you is to do what feels right to you. It’s a real rollercoaster ride both before, during and after. You will have good days & bad and all you can do is deal with it as it comes. Try to take it one day at a time. You can always come here for all the help and understanding you could every want or need. Even just venting helps. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Tiffany,
I can only echo what everyone else has said. Since Jim passed away I have experience much of the same.
All you can do is try not to let it get to you and take care of yourself. That’s what’s important and you know you have everyone here to listen and support you. We all understand and we all truly care. Eventually things will work out as they are supposed to and although you may only have a few people who stick by you, they will be the only ones that count and deserve to be a part of your new life.
I hope things keep going well for you in your recovery. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Katheryn,
I am so sorry for your loss and truly know what you are going through. I’ve been there too. Nothing can easy the pain right now. Keep him with you forever in your heart and memories of the good times. Gradually those memories will help you through the bad times. Patrick was so young and had so much to live for. What a wonderful tribute to donate to the foundation in his name.
I know I don’t really know you except for your posts on the site, but feel some connection as my husbands mother’s name was also Katheryn and one of our sons is Patrick. Strange coincidence that we should be connected by this terrible disease that has taken both our husbands.
Know that we are all here to help support you through this sad & trying time.
Lot’s of Love & Hugs,
Darla
