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Andie,
I am glad you were able to go on your vacation and enjoyed it. I think you are right, it was beneficial to both you and your mom. Everything you are experiencing now is normal. I have been through all of those feelings since my husband passed away, too. I feel anger along with the sadness and loneliness. I also dream of him and then have a hard time recalling the dreams. I wake up and expect him to be here. It seems it is all part of the grieving process. the feelings come & go. You never know what will trigger them or when. All you can do is go with it. Just remember that it is all normal for what you are going through. It sometimes feels a lot like those rollercoaster rides you were on.
Much like your mom, I too spend a lot of time in bed. Especially in the beginning. It is somehow comforting. I watch TV, read, have something to drink and or a snack. I try to stay up later too, but it doesn’t always work. You are right to tell her it is OK. If it gives her comfort and peace and her body needs the down time there is nothing wrong with that.
I hope you and Jamie start to feel better soon. Take care Andie. Know that I am thinking of you and sharing your feelings.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Ron,
I am saddened to hear that Lucille has lost her fight with CC. As Lainy said, no words can ease the pain and sadness of losing your soul mate, the love of your life. I have been where you are now. Our story much the same as yours and although it is almost 3 years since I lost Jim, I still miss him every day. Yes, this is the hardest thing you will every do. Try to take some comfort in knowing that she is no longer suffering and has moved on to a better place. Our loved ones will always be with us in our hearts and memories. Although we would rather they were here with us physically, we would not want them to have to continue to suffer. The void that is left can never be filled, but know that the pain does ease some with time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaGavin,
Thanks for finding and posting this. Great information. Now if I could only convince the VA of the connection between my husbands service in Vietnam and his death from CC many years later. They are still denying my claim and I am not getting much support from the VSO or the doctor’s involved. I haven’t given up yet. Just have to figure out the best way to continue to pursue this.
How’s your mum doing? Will she be able to come home this week?
Darla
I too am so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. There is no way of knowing why these things happen as they do. Why some go quickly and some successful fight this terribly unpredictable disease.
Know that your father is no longer suffering and is now in a better place. He will always be with you and your family in your hearts and memories.
My heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaGavin,
Sorry to hear mum is not able to go home yet. I’m sure she is getting anxious to be out of there. Hopefully things will improve and she will be able to come home this week.
Thinking of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaOh Julia,
What an upsetting experience for both of you. I am glad to hear that things have improved now that she is on the antibiotics. Sorry I don’t have any answers for you, but hopefully the doctors will sort it all out and she will be home again soon.
Thinking of you both.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Marion,
Have had some things to take care of and a lot of issues with my folks lately.
I would love to be able to get to Chicago while you are there, but it doesn’t look like it will be possible. I do look forward to connected with you and some of the others some time, somewhere, in the future.
I hope things go well and that you are able to bring even more awareness of CC to the convention.
Hugs,
DarlaGavin,
Sorry to hear mum is back in the hospital. I will be hoping she improves quickly and is back home by the weekend.
Think Of You,
DarlaDear Love Mom,
Thanks for sharing that lovely poem and your story with all of us. It is all too familiar to me. My husband passed away in September 2008 in much the same way as your mom. He was 62. I found this site a few days later and the people here have helped me so much. I have learned so much and shared so much with others here. I hope you will keep coming back. The support of others who truely understand is so comforting. Try to take comfort in knowing that although this is all so very hard on you and your family, atleast your mom is at peace and no longer suffering. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. Take care and keep coming back.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Gavin,
Sorry to her of your mum’s problems but glad to hear she is doing better. She is lucky to have you to support and help her as you do. You are a wonderful son. Glad you have had some time to post, as you are missed when you aren’t on here. You are so helpful and supportive to all of us here, too. Take care Gavin. Thinking of you and your mum.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaSusan,
Just wanted to let you know that you are normal and not alone in your feelings. Don’t be hard on yourself for not being what you used to be. I feel like that a lot too. Some days it is hard enough just being me and I’m overwhelmed by what is going on around me. I can hardly support myself much less anyone else. Some days are better than others. Losing 3 important people in your life in such a short time, it’s no wonder you feel as you do. I see your posts on here often, so you are being helpful and support to others here. And being helpful and supportive of others also seems to help us. We have all been put in these situations unexpectedly and there is no right or wrong way to deal with the sadness and grief. You are on your own schedule and will do what you have to do when you are ready. Take care Susan and keep coming back here where you have the best people and the best support in the world.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Mark,
I am so sorry to hear that Lori has passed on. I have been where you are now and it’s not easy. May knowing she is no longer in pain or suffering and is now in a better place help easy your pain. Lori will always be with you in your heart and memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaKelly,
I’m so sorry to hear that your mom has passed on. Know that she will always be with you in your heart and memories. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Darla
Dear Susan,
Thank you for taking the time to tell us about Harmony. I am so sorry to hear that she has lost her battle with this disease. Know that she will be with you forever in your heart and memories and that now she is free of the pain and suffering. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.
Darla
Dear Stacey,
I too am sorry to hear that your Dad has passed, but try to take comfort in knowing that he is now free of the suffering from CC and has moved on to a better place. He will always be with you in your heart and memories. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
