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I don’t think there is any room for judgement in regards to this story. I don’t believe human suffering at the end of life should be something we just accept. I do feel that if one has a terminal illness, they should be able to chose the time of their passing. I hope Randall rests in peace.
Hi all. So they were able to place the stent, but they also put in a feeding tube. It was suppose to be an outpatient procedure, but she is still in the hospital. She can’t poop and is really weak. My husband called the onc today and asked if he could please do a CT while she is in the hospital so she doesn’t have to go back later this week. My MIL also told my husband that she doesn’t think she could do another round of chemo, which I couldn’t agree more with!
I guess we wait for the CT tonight and see what the doctor says. I’ll keep everyone posted and thanks again so much for all of your support.Thanks,
LindsyIlias- I just wanted to say welcome to this amazing support group. I sadly don’t have a positive story to share. My mother n law was diagnosed on Sept 5 w/ Inoperable, stage 4 CC. She is 66 y.o. She just finished her 3rd round of Oxilplatin/5fu intravenously, but it is now being placed on hold due to her increase in pain, an occluded bile duct, and elevated labs.
This has been a very hard thing to watch. I am more and more sad as the days go by because for our family, I feel this is definitely the beginning of the end. But this is my experience. Many people on this board have survived years with this cancer. Every person’s body reacts to chemotherapy very differently. There are definitely commonalities from story to story, but the the story themselves are very individual.
I want you to know that you are not alone. I am so so sorry that you and your family are having to go through this.Please keep us posted and I am sending good prayers and thoughts your way!
Lindsy
Thanks so much ladies. We will know more info this afternoon. I will keep you posted. Pamela- I checked out your blog…it’s amazing. Your daughter is a lucky girl to have such a terrific mother.
Keeping you all in my prayers,
Lindsy
Thanks Lauren. I guess we just have to wait and see. I HATE this waiting game…it is so horrible! PLease keep us updates on your mom. I would love to know the results.
Take care,
Lindsy
Thanks guys! I have told them to get a second opinion sooner than later. I have called everyone I know and received a number credible references for them to see, but as they say…you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
Just frustrating for me. I am a fixer…a mover and shaker and in this situation my hands are somewhat tied. I love her like my own mother, but when it comes down to it…she is not. I don’t want to over step my boundaries. I have already been labeled “the negative one”, when really I just want want to be realistic and have the correct information so we can have the best possiblt outcome.
Thanks again everyone,oh and…my name is Lindsy
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your post! My MIL is 66 years old and I would not consider her a “healthy” person. She is not an active lady, has beginnings of emphysema from smoking, and now weakend from pain and not eating for sometime. The onc told her 4-6 months if she did nothing.
I got in touch with the outpatient palliative care team at my hospital and they said that they could work on her pain management, even if she decides to go through with the chemo. I think the palliative care team would be a great benefit to increase the quality of her life. Support not only for her, but for the entire family. I passed the info on to her- hopefully she will utilize them . I keep telling my husband’s family that they must not be complacent during this time, but rather extremely pro-active and assertive about her care. I did tell my MIL to ask ther onc tomorrow.
We will see!Daughter-n-law
