flowerlover

Thank you all for your responses. My FIL is still in the hospital and they haven’t drained the fluid yet. i think they are checking to see if it is cancerous. It’s so hard to see him in pain. I would love to get him to another doctor for a 2nd or 3rd opinion but he won’t go. A family meeting isn’t possible even though all the kids are on the same page and get along. My FIL is used to being in charge and he wouldn’t tell us anything at the meeting and would be angry if we pushed him for answers. It’s like he is ignoring that he is sick. I wouldn’t want him to live like he can’t do anything and I wouldn’t want to be talking about his disease with him every time I saw him but it would be nice to know what the doctors told him, what it is recommended that eat or not eat, do or not do. I understand keeping his routine makes him feel better but I worry that he over does stuff and ends up in the hospital. For now we will take care of what we can without asking and try to keep his spirits up. Thank you again.