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Lynn, my husband was diagnosed a year ago. CT scan in mid-Oct 2021 showed what the radiologist determined was “favored to reflect cholangiocarcinoma.” Biopsy confirmed it in late Nov 2021. PET scan showed it was Stage 4 — nodules were found in his lungs and near his heart in the mediastinum. Later, in the winter of 2022, suspicions of combined hepatocellular carcinoma and intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma were locked in as an updated diagnosis.
One reason (of many reasons) my husband wanted to keep it a secret was that some well-meaning friends/relatives can be very upsetting. We know a man who beat a stage 4 cancer and he told us how at the beginning, and then again if he’d had some difficult updates to his condition, he’d get phone calls from people who would turn the conversation into how traumatic it was for them to hear the news, as they were sobbing and carrying on… expecting HIM to console THEM. And then, of course, the people who “helpfully” told him about the cousin of the friend of the guy at the gas station who had some very extreme and dire outcome from something similar, so “omg,” they “know how difficult this must be for you.” My husband wanted to avoid all that since he was having a hard time absorbing the shock of the diagnosis back then and just one thoughtless comment could have easily haunted his thoughts forever. He was too emotionally and psychologically fragile to share his news. Now I think he hopes to ride this out and have no one know the better, as your husband had hoped he’d be able to do.
GapSpectatorHi Lynn. I read through your blog and it seems like a wonderful way to deal with the emotional toll from keeping this secret. I am also dealing with my husband’s secret cancer. I’m sorry you’re in that position and I imagine it’s incredibly tough for your husband not to feel as though he’s free to share his diagnosis with co-workers/friends. My 86 yr old mother lives with us and so she was told (since obviously he’d be unable to hide such serious “doin’s). And my husband told our adult son and daughter-in-law who live in Canada. But none of us are allowed to tell any other family members including his sister and my siblings, or any of his lifelong friends, or any of our very friendly and potentially helpful neighbors. My husband is a nice guy but he has a difficult, intense personality. The kind of person you either find to be a real kick or the kind of person you’d like to really kick, if you know what I mean, haha. Caring for him, and dealing with him, entirely on my own is wearing me down physically and psychologically. I hope to read good news about your husband in the upcoming months.
September 13, 2022 at 9:18 pm in reply to: Adding Durvalumab to on-going treatment with Gemcitabine and Cisplatin #101985GapSpectatorI’m happy to answer any questions you have about his treatment or experience so far (for his privacy I’ve chosen to be anonymous on this board). I’m not especially strong in biology, anatomy or any of the life sciences, to be honest. I’m learning the hard way through my husband’s diagnosis. He is 77 yrs old, turning 78 at the end of this year.
He did have a biopsy sample sent out for genetic testing, but unfortunately for him, due to “low tumor purity,” the sample wasn’t usable. His result was “no reportable alterations.” Not because there weren’t any, but simply because they didn’t have a workable sample. His oncologist even tried to have a second testing done with whatever was left of the biopsy sample, but still no results. We were very disappointed. It was bittersweet because the GemCis had knocked the mass on his liver out of existence so there was nothing to get another sample from. I mean, that’s wonderful news, right? But it also meant we couldn’t find a targeted therapy for him. And my husband chose not to pursue any clinical trials because he was not up to the travel they might require. His oncologist decided to put him on Opdivo and Yervoy. I assumed it was not just the best option, but also probably the only option for him. Someone with real knowledge can correct me, but I believe that Opdivo and Yervoy are PD-1 checkpoint inhibitors. What you’ll be taking, Durvalumab, is a PDL-1 inhibitor. (I don’t have any knowledge of the difference between PD-1 and PDL-1). PDL-1 testing was requested on my husband’s biopsy sample, but there was insufficient sample left to do it. I guess we’ll never know how any targeted therapy might have worked for him, but his non-targeted therapy has been effective, so he’s justifiably happy with it. Durvalumab sounds like a great option… when will your first treatment be?
Back in the winter when my husband was on GemCis, and it started to really kick up his peripheral neuropathy, his doctor wanted to try eliminating the Cisplatin and have him try Gemcitabine alone, but my husband was just… done. He wanted to stop all treatments at first, actually. But once a few weeks had passed and the side effects had started to even out a bit, he decided he wanted to continue treatments as long as it wasn’t with cell-killing drugs. I understand not wanting to change your existing treatment when things are going well because I felt the same when my husband stopped GemCis. It was working beyond our expectations but he wasn’t in full remission yet. His oncologist tried to reassure us at the time by reminding us that these treatment plans/schedules are very fluid and they’re always based on a careful balance between adverse side effects and success. Sometimes you need to take your winnings and leave the casino, right? It was a little like that for my husband when he stopped GemCis. Hard to see him stop when he might be able to get just a little bit more of the disease knocked down. However, the gamble would have been even more extensive peripheral neuropathy pain. So yeah, sometimes a person has to gather up their winnings and walk away. And if your doctor has told you that you could return to GemCis treatments later, if needed, you should take comfort in that, eh? No doors are being closed. You’re just trying something new to see if it works better for you… successful but with less adverse side effects.
We had that rough spot in June when he developed adrenal insufficiency from the Opdivo/Yervoy treatment and landed in the hospital with adrenal crisis, so these checkpoint inhibitors aren’t without the potential for serious side effects, too. But all in all, it’s been a much easier experience than GemCis had been. Bit of a roller coaster ride… one month we’re dealing with diarrhea, the next month it’s extreme constipation. He’s a fall risk because he’s sometimes lightheaded or has muscle weakness (he’s recovering from a nasty fall right now, in fact). That definitely seems related to dehydration at times, so I’m on active Water Intake Patrol duty nowadays, ha ha. He has some confusion at times, but he does have other health concerns so it’s hard for me to know when something is related to his cancer and cancer treatments or if it’s something else.
I’m sorry that I don’t have any resources to suggest regarding genomic testing/genetic alterations. Since we didn’t get any actionable results I didn’t study up on it much. But everything I have found out has been through endless hours of Google searches. I look for academic publications with articles that are over my head but fascinate me anyway, simplified explanations on cancer organization sites, people’s posts on this board, etc. Gavin posts articles on this board every day it seems and he was kind enough to point me toward https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/ for my own searches. Enter in a keyword or string of words and you’ll pull up numerous articles to read through (they can be a heavy read, but they can also give you enough information to expand your next Google search with some new keywords).
Hope to keep hearing from you… it’s lovely to chat with someone my husband’s age and who is also sharing a similar treatment course. Wishing you the very best.
September 12, 2022 at 7:09 pm in reply to: Adding Durvalumab to on-going treatment with Gemcitabine and Cisplatin #101978GapSpectatorHi Jjet65. It’s wonderful that you’re having great results with GemCis. My husband is also stage 4 (nodes in his lungs and pericardium, as well as mass on the caudate lobe of his liver, so he was not a candidate for surgery). He was diagnosed with combined ICC and HCC, so he gets to battle cancer on both those fronts. He started GemCis in early Dec and discontinued it in mid-February due to it causing severe peripheral neuropathy pain. He already had peripheral neuropathy prior to cancer/cancer treatments, so it was no surprise that GemCis was going to aggravate his condition. However, in that short span of time, the 5.7 cm mass on his liver disappeared from view and the lung and heart nodes showed very low activity. An amazing result for him considering he wasn’t on GemCis for that long. About 6 weeks later at the end of March, he started immune checkpoint inhibitor therapy with (Opdivo (nivolumab) and Yervoy (ipilimumab). He is still receiving that treatment, although in the past couple of months he only gets Opdivo as per the recommended schedule. In June he had another PET scan and we learned that the great results from the February PET scan (after GemCis) were now even better! Still no sign of the liver mass. And the lung and heart nodes, in the words of our oncologist, look like they’re remnants of some infection/scarring rather than cancer… no real uptake activity was showing. So while I can’t speak to the efficacy/success of Durvalumab, my husband is having remarkable success with other checkpoint inhibitors. I’m happy you get to try Durvalumab and I look forward to reading about your experience with it. The Opdivo/Yervoy treatment wasn’t without it’s problems (it put my husband in the hospital with an adrenal crisis) but for the most part, he’s doing alright… close to his baseline, what he was this time last year right before we learned he might have cancer. Please do update us because I’d love to follow your progress with it and wish you continued success!
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GapSpectatorThank you, Mary. I appreciate your time in replying. I often feel very alone since my husband is keeping his cancer diagnosis a secret from everyone except my 86 yr old mother (who lives with us) and my adult son and his wife (who live in Canada right now). I’m grateful that this discussion board exists. Caring for two seniors while I’m no spring chicken myself (59 yrs) is exhausting, especially when one or both are having a health crisis.
My husband’s results have indeed been pretty remarkable but not without cost. He had to discontinue GemCis after 3-1/2 cycles due to it significantly increasing his peripheral neuropathy pain (as I’ve written about before). The fatigue and weakness were pretty extreme, as well. The cytotoxic chemo experience was so difficult for him that it made him actively suicidal. January and February were very dark months for the two of us. I want to be fully open about that because other spouse/family caretakers might find themselves dealing with a similar situation and I wouldn’t want anyone to think they’re alone in coping with an extreme psychological/emotional reaction to the side effects of chemo. It was fortunate that the chemo worked so well, so quickly, for him that stopping that treatment early in the plan still left him with a great success story.
Immunotherapy has been equally harsh for him. He completed four rounds of Opdivo/Yervoy, as was the initial standard treatment plan, but three days after the last infusion I had to call for EMTs to take him to the emergency room. He was extremely mentally confused, too weak to stand or sit up, his oxygen readings were in the mid to low 80s, and he had a fever of 103. They diagnosed him with acute metabolic encephalopathy and secondary adrenal insufficiency… his pituitary gland has punched its time card and gone off on a vacation apparently. He was released after six days and is now on hydrocortisone and levothyroxine. This happened earlier this month. He’d also been showing signs of cognitive impairment since the chemo days and the hormone treatments seem to be helping with that. My husband’s doctor is having him strengthen up for a month before potentially resuming immunotherapy treatments. He was at the next phase of the treatment plan where he’d begin taking just the Opdivo only. He’s desperately hoping that he’ll be able to continue as there are no other proposed treatments left for him to try and he will not go through GemCis again. So we wait… anxiously… and we’ll see in mid-July what the near future holds for my husband. I was hoping that the spike in CA 19-9 might have been due to the adrenal insufficiency episode (and yes, it did spike during chemo for a week or two). But because the AFP has also gone up a bit, and it never spiked up as a reaction to the chemo treatments, I’m concerned.
The roller coaster this cancer puts people through is terribly cruel. Good news! Bad news. Good news! Bad news. Good news! Bad news. I’m always thinking that this will be the last birthday he has, the last spring he has, the last rain he experiences, the last time he sees this or that or whatever. Will he see me turn 60? Will he see our son get his PhD (okay, at the rate my son is working on his dissertation I’m not sure I’ll be around to see it, either, har har). And then I’m so thrilled for him when it seems like he will experience one of those milestones again due to the treatments extending his time. We hit the jackpot to have a great oncologist working from a cancer center with a full lab, full radiology dept, full pharmacy and infusion ward… and only 10 minutes from home. How lucky is that? However, I’ve come to hate the “Looks like everything is going great!” treatment evaluations that are then tempered with cautionary remarks along the lines of “But don’t get too excited.” I really want my husband to be THAT patient who his oncologist will write papers about and discuss at medical conferences: the extraordinary case of the 77 yr old man with stage 4/grade 3 cHCC-CCA who went into full remission and continued to remain symptom free for over a full decade until he passed from some other more gentle natural cause. We’re shooting for the moon, but we’re doing all we can to make that happen.
May 19, 2022 at 2:03 pm in reply to: A Case of Unresectable Combined Hepatocellular-Cholangiocarcinoma Successfully T #101684GapSpectatorThank you for the kind reply, Gavin. I will spend a lot of time looking thru these links. The PubMed.gov site seems like a rabbit hole I could easily go down and explore for hours and hours… a wonderful resource. I hope to learn as much as I can about cHCC-CC if for no other reason than to have a clearer understanding of what the doctor is explaining to us or better insight into what the doctor’s expectations for treatment realistically are when he tells us he’s “cautiously optimistic.” I also realize there’s a psychological component to my desire to research this cancer so extensively — it’s a way for me to feel as though I’m exerting some level of control over a situation I feel powerless against.
May 10, 2022 at 4:42 pm in reply to: A Case of Unresectable Combined Hepatocellular-Cholangiocarcinoma Successfully T #101664GapSpectatorThank you for finding and posting this. I’m eager for any cHCC-CC articles as my husband has this combined cancer. His doctor has told us that predictions for treatment success and any time frames are going to be based on less data, and therefore less certainty, due to this cancer being more rare. So far so good for my husband as he did have great success with GemCis over the winter (no visible signs of the liver tumor and now only modest uptake in two lung nodules and a chest node). He’s currently receiving immunotherapy — Opdivo and Yervoy — and his biomarkers have dropped a bit in response. We’ll know more clearly how the immunotherapy is going when he has a PET scan in early June. Meanwhile, I scour the internet for more information.
April 8, 2022 at 9:02 am in reply to: Spouse/caretaker for husband w/ICC who is declining further chemo #101612GapSpectatorThanks, Mary. I just watched Dr. Li’s keynote address from 2020 (found on that link). Informative and motivating to me… strengthens my commitment to getting my husband to eat less empty or bad calories and hopefully get him back on our previous healthy-eating diet.
April 7, 2022 at 10:58 am in reply to: Spouse/caretaker for husband w/ICC who is declining further chemo #101610GapSpectatorHesw, I’m sorry to read that you’re struggling with cachexia but very glad that you’re eating well. I agree with you that diet/nutrition is so very important — gotta give our immune systems what they need for boosting and deny our diseases what they crave for progression. I know that what I eat affects my osteoarthritis for sure (goodbye yummy sugary desserts, haha). Right now I’m most concerned with getting enough calories into my husband every day. He’s 6’4″ but his appetite doesn’t match his size anymore. I sure welcome any tips/tricks from the community.
And yeah, the psychological or emotional aspect of receiving treatment has been a big issue for my husband. After he decided to end chemo he didn’t want to ever go back upstairs to the cancer center’s infusion ward for any treatment of any kind… he was really traumatized by the chemo experience. But now after a six week recovery break, he has agreed to try immunotherapy infusions and had his first round last week. I hope it goes smoothly for him so he’ll feel up to continuing indefinitely. That said, whatever he decides, he’s got my full support. His life = his choices.
April 7, 2022 at 8:12 am in reply to: Spouse/caretaker for husband w/ICC who is declining further chemo #101609GapSpectatorThank you, krissy2022. I hope you and your family have a warm and peaceful Spring.
March 31, 2022 at 7:21 am in reply to: 36 yo ICC in Philadelphia – anyone else with biopsy hang-ups? #101592GapSpectatorYes, my husband also had very disappointing genetic testing results due to a poor biopsy sample and limited quantity of it, too. The lab basically came back with nothing. And there was not enough sample to try a second time (the doctor attempted it anyway — good for him). That left us in an odd situation where we are thrilled that the tumor seems to have disappeared entirely after just 3-1/2 cycles of Gem/Cis, but now there isn’t any possibility of getting another sample for genetic testing. Additional update to his health: He also moved from intense activity (as seen on his last PET scan) in two nodules in his lungs and one near his heart to low activity in all. His doctor wanted this next phase to be targeted immunotherapy, but since the genetic testing was a dud for my husband, the doctor is going with ipilimumab and nivolumab starting this morning. Was told yesterday by the doctor that he’s “cautiously optimistic” that my husband will continue with his remarkable progress (his doctor seems quite jazzed by my husband’s response to treatment so far, haha). Considering he has advanced/metastasized chcc-cca, this is giving us a lot of hope and is re-energizing my husband, for sure. Fingers crossed that he tolerates the treatment well and has great, successful results.
February 28, 2022 at 9:02 am in reply to: Spouse/caretaker for husband w/ICC who is declining further chemo #101544GapSpectatorThank you for the welcome, Mary.
My husband is noticeably improving these past few days. Pain has subsided with medication and his appetite is increasing. I’m hopeful that he’ll accept further treatments if the side effects are mild enough with any proposed medication. He did not handle the chemotherapy well at all… not just physically but emotionally. He has said, rather emphatically, that he will NOT go back to the infusion ward ever again. That’s going to be an issue if any suggested treatments involve intravenous delivery. Essentially, he’s made the decision to decline all drugs unless they’re pain-relieving or have near to zero side effects. He is in a “let’s hasten this thing” mindset rather than “let’s fight this.” He was so frightened back in October when it seemed a certainty that he was going to be diagnosed with cancer, and most likely THIS cancer, and he was desperate to get going on treatments as immediately as possible. It’s sad to find us where we are now, just four months later — he seems to be handing the keys to the cancer and is going to let it drive (btw, he is already on anti-depressants plus anxiety medication and regularly checks in with his psychiatrist). Treatment decisions are his to make, and I respect and support that right, but I’m going to do what I can to encourage him to give some things a try before rejecting them completely. His oncologist ballparked one year for him if we don’t find a targeted therapy. As expected, the doctor also recommended we look for relevant clinical trials… a daunting task for a non-medically trained person. But that’s a moot suggestion anyway since my husband is not interested in participating in trials.
Since his tumor mass was no longer visible on the last PET scan, and the nodules/nodes in his lungs and near his heart showed little uptake, I’m not sure how long it will be before the cancer grows and spreads again (if there are no further treatments of any kind). His cancer was poorly differentiated and the tumor mass had extensive necrosis — indications that his cancer was a high grade in addition to being in an advanced stage. I truly didn’t think he’d achieve “near complete remission,” but he certainly did! Any insight or experience with remission times would be helpful to me, although I know it’s all very individualized.
Waves of grief crash over me at times when I’m alone, but for the most part I channel my energy into fighting my own private war on his cancer — keeping his weight up, making sure he eats immune system-building foods, keeping him interested in distant events like my son’s future PhD dissertation defense (things I know he’d like to see for himself or be a part of), helping him maintain his mobility and strength. I thought the physical drain of caretaking would be the hardest, but so far dealing with his emotions/psychology is, by a mile, the most crushingly difficult aspect.
February 26, 2022 at 9:14 am in reply to: Spouse/caretaker for husband w/ICC who is declining further chemo #101541GapSpectatorHi, I’m glad your oral therapy is proving to be less intense. And best wishes to you for treatment success.
CBD oil is something that’s been in the back of my mind for a while as a possibility for him. My 85 yr old mother bought a couple bottles with high hopes it would help alleviate her arthritis pain, but she felt it wasn’t helping her. The upside to her disappointing result is it means we have some on hand here in the house. I’ll mention it to him today. We’ll need to verify that none of the bazillion medications he’s taking would be a reason he shouldn’t use CBD, but if it’s a green light, he might want to give it a try. Thanks for the suggestion 🙂
GapSpectatorHi Celeste,
I’m glad to read that your GemCis treatments are having an effect. I will be telling my husband about your rib/abdomen pains as he has indeed experienced that same side effect. In fact, it’s currently one of the main discomforts he’s feeling and causes some sleep issues for him. Because he has peripheral neuropathy (a pre-existing illness he was dealing with prior to cancer treatments), it’s sometimes hard to identify what aches and pains are due to PN and what might be from the chemo. He’ll find some comfort in hearing that he’s not alone in experiencing that symptom. I hope that goes away for you eventually or you and/or your doctor find a way to manage it. Initially, I was concerned that it might be due to pressure from his tumor… worried that maybe it wasn’t responding to treatment and was growing, or maybe a new tumor had developed… but since his recent PET scan showed no sign of the tumor mass (woo hoo!), I’m going to assume it’s a GemCis side effect. He also lives with a super low pulse rate (his normal rate is in the low to mid 40s) due to heart medication and so the mom in me wants to remind you to always stand up slowly and give yourself a chance to get oriented for a moment before you step away from your bed or chair, just in case you experience a little bit of lightheadedness. Cheers from CA and I hope to continue to read good news in your updates!
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