gavin

Hi all,

Many thanks once again for your wishes, support and kind words. My dads been in a bit better mood the last few days, even managed to stay out of his bed yesterday afternoon! Went back in the evening after his tea but thats better than all day! He had a good day on Friday at day care, had some laughs and they all did some baking so he came home with some cakes, millionaire shortbread, tasty!

I spoke with one of the gp’s about everything and they are waiting for the blood test results and will look at the calcium, pottasium and ammonia levels. Pain meds have been upped from 6 solpadols 3 times a day to 8 tablets 4 times a day every day. They want to monitor how he does with this for a bit and may then look to change the meds to something else if need be. Just a case of waiting for the onc’s app, so more of the waiting game.

Julia,

Glad to hear that you’re feeling up to and writing again and I hope that your blogging is doing you some good. How’s your sister doing just now?

Jolene,

Thanks for sharing your experiences of helping your dad make decisions, that cant have been easy to do for him. My dads not the greatest of talkers so it sometimes takes a bit of digging to see what he’s feeling and thinking. I like what you say about just going with your gut instincts in all of this. I guess thats what I’ll try and do, that and getting him to open up a bit more.

Thanks for lighting a candle for us all.

Val,

I’m sorry to hear about your dads dementia and diabetes, that cant be easy to deal with. I worry about dad spending so much time in his bed and how that can affect him physically, I wouldn’t have thought that spending that much time lying down can be good for the body. I guess that a chest infection needs to be added to the list if things to look out for.

Thanks for the advice on the protein shake. That is definitely something for me to look into as his specialist suggested soups as they are easy to digest. I like to make soup and dad loves soup, especially in this weather so pea and ham soup sounds good! I’ve never made smoothies either so that is also something to consider. Many thanks.

My thanks once again for all your support and my very best wishes to you all.

Gavin

Hi Bazel, Marion & Kris,

Many thanks for your kind words and support, it means a lot to me. My dad was a bit more upbeat tonight which was good to see, big improvement from earlier on today. Pity his last horse riding lesson was last week as that would have helped take his mind off things for a while. I think whats maybe best just now is to wait and see what the onc says then take things from there. So I guess it’s more of the waiting game untill then!

Bazel

Thanks for your advice. I will speak to dad in the morning about UTI and tell him to keep a close eye on things and let me know immediately of anything at all that may need further checking. As to his potassium levels, I will try and see his GP on Friday at day care and mention that to see if we can get that looked at and will also try and get him to drink more. Instead of asking if he wants a drink, I’ll just give him one! I’ll stress to him the importance of keeping hydrated so that should do the trick.

Marion

Thanks for that. I will look into the results of the study. I remember you posting links regarding it on the chemo board earlier this year. You are right in that we will get more info once we have seen the onc, and I would like to do some more reading before we meet so I can have any questions ready. My dad is sort of looking to me just now for advice on what to do here, but I think it best to see what the onc says before making any decisions. Although, if he was able to start chemo then stop if it got too much then that might sway his decision to try it. And yes he most definitely will have my support in what ever decision he makes regarding this.

Kris

Thanks, positive thoughts are also coming your way. I hope you are feeling a bit better today and are ready to get back on with the Swedish lessons!

Many thanks to you all once again and my best wishes to you also.

Gavin

Hi All,

Just back from the hospital, not the news we were wanting to hear. The cancer has grown since the last CT scan in April. The specialist is arranging an app with the oncologist, hopefully for next week to discuss chemo and to assess dad to see if he is even fit enough to handle chemo. Mentioned gemcitabine I think and another drug but I forgot which one. Asked dad how he felt about chemo and dad said he would try it if it would get rid of the cancer, but was told that at best it may slow it’s progression down. I think dad was thinking that chemo would stop it in it’s tracks, but that does not seem to be the case. As you could imagine, he was pretty gutted so I was trying to make sure he was okay and talk with the doc at the same time.

Checked dad for jaundice and saw no signs of it at all and said that if we were going to even try chemo then now would be the time to do so as if the jaundice comes back then we wouldnt be able to even try the chemo. Took more blood for tests to look at calcium and ammonia levels so waiting on results for that. Doc says that the pain dad is getting is most likely related to the spreading of the cancer and asked if the current painkillers, Solpadol worked with the pain which they do so these are not getting changed just now.

Has a bit of bloating around the stomach area which I think is down to the cancer growing around a tube leading off the stomach I think. Says that fluid is getting down the tube okay but food not so well so advised a change of diet a bit and to eat less but more frequently.

Asked about what comes next treatment wise if we don’t do chemo or if we do and that doesnt work, but there is no other treatments to try. He wants dad to keep up with going to his day care twice a week just now as the GP’s up there will be monitoring him closely. Also wants us to get in touch immediately if any signs of jaundice or fever etc.

Talked about the tiredness and quality of life and wants dad to think about whether he wants to try chemo etc before the meeting with the oncologist. I always thought that dad would try it if offered, but not so sure anymore. Coming home in the car dad didnt say anything really as was too upset. Right now he is spending all this time in bed as it is, so I guess that the side effects of chemo will only make time just now even worse for him physically. i think he’s thinking is it worth going through all of that for something that might only slow it down a bit. Anyway, will just have to wait and see what the oncologist says first.

Thats pretty much how the app went, might have missed some stuff out as trying to make sure dad was ok and talking with the doc at the same time and remembering everything that was said was not too easy to do. He went straight to his bed when he came home so i will see how he’s feeling later when he gets up.

Best wishes

Gavin