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My husband Ken was treated by Dr Karyn Goodman at Stanford and she has since moved to Sloan Kettering. She is a radiation oncologist- very nice lady with a great bedside manner. I would recommend her to everyone.
Best of luck for your family.
All of my thoughts are with you. I went through the same thing this time last year with my husband Ken and I can honestly say I know what you are going through. Ken was given 6 mo and made it 4. He made it through Christmas (with a strength I wish I had) and he left us on Dec 27th.
Cherish every moment you have with him!
I know exactly what you are going through. My husband Ken passed away in December 06 and watching him go through what he did was almost unbearable; The pain, the disorientation, the VIOLENT episodes of vomiting, etc. It is coming up on the 10 month anniversary and I know what to expect. Every month on the day of his death, I break down. I just figured out last month why I was doing that.
I would have to say that the best thing for me was starting antidepressants. Ken was on them when he was first diagnosed and my doctor suggested I too start them. It kept me from having the lowest of lows! You need to take care of yourself while you are taking care of your husband. I don’t know how many times I heard that but looking back, everyone was right. Try to eat right and if you have any free minutes- get some fresh air!
My thoughts are with you.
You definitely need to apply for Social Security Disability- not the Supplemental Income.
My husband Ken saw Dr. Karyn Goodman at Stanford, since then she has transferred to Sloan Kettering. Awesome DR!!!
I would suggest that you apply for Social Security Disability. If you go to there website, they have “liver cancer” listed as a diagnosis that guarantees coverage. Ken was able to get it and it saved us from losing everything!
You can check out Ken’s site at Hembree.us
I am sad to hear all of this. Ken was given 6 months to live at the end of Aug and was with us for 4 months. He went directly to hospice from the last visit at Stanford. Hospice was wonderful!!! Thank God there are people out there who love to do that. The difference with Home Care and Hospice is that hospice basically makes you comfortable and does no life lengthing care. Therefore, there is no TPN- which is Total Parenteral Nutrition- food source through an IV. They brought a hospital bed which made a world of difference in Ken’s comfort for sleeping. They have massage therapists, spiritual therapists, CNA’s to help with bathing, foot massages, etc. ( I am a nurse so I preferred to do everything myself but it is a VERY physical and emotionally taxing job. ) One thing I was thankful for is that towards the end, Ken had such a buildup of ammonia in his brain, he wasn’t feeling any pain. It was sad because he wasn’t really with us. He was able to turn his head towards me whenever myself or my daughters would enter or leave the room. The last month I was able to take off of work and be with him, I even slept in that twin hospital bed with him til the end. I am glad I did that because I was with him when he passed away.
Sorry, if I am rambling on, but I try to type through the tears.
I am so sorry for you and your husband. I am actually sorry for anyone who has to bear going through this experience. Unfortunately, I think the violent episodes of vomiting were the worst thing my husband had to endure. No matter what meds we tried, home remedies, etc we were unable to control it and I felt so helpless watching him. He eventually lost his appetite and he did not eat anything substantial for 7 weeks. His last bite was 1 bite of cranberry salad on Thanksgiving. He passed away 2 days after Christmas. He did not drink for 21 days. The hospice doctors were amazed. His heart was so strong, he made it to Christmas like he said he would. I just wish someone could have received his heart as a donor.
I miss him …..
I think my best advice for a family dealing with this is to just let the patient do absolutely whatever he/she wants to. That is the last bit of control they have left.
Once again, I am sorry for you and your family.
TerriSeptember 26, 2007 at 6:28 pm in reply to: possible resection/liver surgeons? dealing with ascites? #15438
My husband had his resection at Stanford by Dr Esquivel (head of the liver transplant team). When they went in, they did not expect to see what they found. He had a softball size tumor with 2 daughter tumors. Dr. Esquivel came out after about 7 hours and told me that they almost closed Ken up and let him go but because of his age, 45 years, they decided to go ahead with it. I would absolutely recommend Stanford as a place to go for anyone needing a specialist.
TerriSeptember 24, 2007 at 5:36 am in reply to: SIR-Spheres: Selective Internal Radiation Therapy (SIRT) #15536
My husband Ken had the sir-spheres treatment at Stanford. It worked great! Ken tolerated the procedure very well. At his 6 week check-up, he had no tumors. Unfortunately, at his 3 mo check-up, there were tumors in other parts of his liver and we were told that they couldn’t radiate anymore. They gave him 6 mo and he was with us for 4. My point is, the Sir-spheres worked on the tumors that were targeted.
Please see My Husband Ken- in Remembrances.
I miss him so….
TerriJuly 26, 2007 at 4:10 pm in reply to: Friend just diagnosed with intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma #16181
My husband Ken(45) was diagnosed with intrahepatic CC in June of 2005 after all of the various testing. He had a liver resection at Stanford due to the fact that we live in Reno, NV and no one here would touch him. They went in and were surprised- he had a softball sized tumor with two “daughter” tumors. After about 8 hours of surgery, the doc came out to tell us that they had almost closed him up and sent him home but discussions re: his age led the team to go ahead with the surgery. Ultimately, it was an 80% resection. Recovery went well- he was very healthy otherwise. He was at Stanford for 7 days. The margins were clear and there was no node involvement. The oncologists at Stanford conferred with the oncologist here and decided to do 6 mo of Gemzar because that is what is used for Pancreatic CA and that was the closest match they could find. 6 mo of chemo was tolerated fairly well by Ken. He was not able to work and Social Security disability was actually wonderful to us!!! Surprise! The unfortunate thing for alot of people, I believe, is that there are no advocates for pt’s in my husbands position as far as financial, emotional, support. I recommend everyone with CA to go to Social Security!!!
Ken had a follow up CT right before his last chemo tx which showed that the CA had returned. The docs here spoke to the docs at Stanford and decided he would be a candidate for sir-spheres. It, too, was tolerated fairly well by Ken. His 6 week check up showed no recurrence. the next 6 week check up showed that the CA had returned in another spot. They could not radiate his liver anymore. So, we do know that it zapped the CA it targeted which I believe was some great news for the docs research. They told Ken there was nothing else they could do and gave him <6mo to live. He was with us for 4 mo before the CC finally got him. We miss him dearly every single minute!
Best of luck for you and your loved one.
PS- The radiation Oncologist that we saw at Stanford- Dr Karyn Goodman was absolutely wonderful!!!! She has moved to MD Anderson.
Ken had Intrahepatic Cholangiocarcinoma- Bile duct cancer inside the liver.
TerriJuly 13, 2007 at 5:04 pm in reply to: possible ressection of HUGE liver tumor hope or ??? #16095
I know you asked if anyone has experienced large liver resection and I can tell you my husbands experience but unfortunately, it was not good in the end. Ken had been having some slight abd discomfort- that he had ever mentioned to me. One morning he woke with severe Left sided abd pain. I assumed it was a kidney stone because he had one in the past. The doctor ordered an Ultrasound. The left side was clean but very suspicious looking on the right. CT, PET scans,bloodwork all followed. The surgeon here in Reno was not about to touch Ken so we were referred to Dr Esquivel at Stanford. Biopsy was done- confirmed CC. Resection was scheduled in 2 weeks- He was in surgery for over 8 hours. Dr came out afterwards to inform us that the team had considered just closing Ken up and letting him go home but they took a chance because of his age (46). He had a softball size tumor that was in his liver and gallbladder and what he called 2 “daughter” tumors. Recovery went very well. They didn’t know what to do with him after that. Trial of Gemzar for 6 months- tolerated that pretty well. Had afollow up CT before last chemo dose and found the CC had returned. Ken decided the chemo was not a choice for him to continue. The docs at Stanford decided to try thera-spheres. Went great- 6 week follow up CLEAR! Very hopeful! 12 week follow up- still clear where the tumors were radiated but new ones had formed. They were unable to radiate any more of his liver. Told us Ken had less than 6 months. It was only 4 months but Ken was able to grant a wish for a patient of Make-A-Wish. A 9 yr old named Jared had leukemia and always wanted to go fishing on a big boat. So, Ken with his CA and Jared with his had a week up at Eagle Lake and had a blast! Ken passed away 12/27/06 and Jared is in remission!
My best wishes go out to you and your family.
My husband Ken had sir-spheres at Stanford and it killed all of the tumors he had at that time. Best of luck to you!