Lynn Apple
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Gap
I totally understand your husbands reasons for keeping his cancer a secret. The few people we have told, mainly my husbands parents and family, have sometimes made our situation harder. We not only have to deal with our own feelings and emotions, while keep this cancer secret from people around us and the media, but now we have to deal with his parents sadness as well. They will call and want to talk about how they are sad about the possibility of losing their son. I just feel like we do not need that extra emotional turmoil.
You mentioned that a CT scan found nodules in your husband lungs. Does he cough? I am asking because my husband coughs a lot and I am worried it might be the nodules in the lungs but the doctors do not seem so concerned.
Lynn Apple
Hey Mary,
Thanks for reading my blog and for your kind words. I think my husband is choosing to keep his diagnosis a secret for some of the same reasons you did not want to tell people. I think he does not want people to pity him. He wants people to see the same capable person he has always been. I also think we both chose to keep it a secret in the beginning because we thought we could beat it and no one would need to know. Little did we know we would still be fighting it two years later.
Lynn Apple
Hey Gap,
Thanks for taking the time to read through my blog. Sorry, that you are having to go through the same thing that I am going through. Having to keep such a heavy secret isn’t easy. Keeping it is taking a toll on me as well. That is why I started the blog. It is nice to just share my thoughts and feelings. I just could not keep it all inside anymore. How long has it been since your husband’s diagnosis?
Lynn Apple
