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Hi Lainy,

I don’t come on this site all that much but I just saw your post. I’m so sorry for you. You are so precious to me and everyone else that knows you. I wish you the best possible outcome with your surgery. I don’t have to tell you to be strong because you already know that drill. Blessings to you, lovely lady.

I love you,
-Pam

Hi Pat,

I would like to welcome you to this site. I am very sorry to hear about your husband. This cancer seems to creep up out of nowhere. I sure wish there was a way to diagnose it in the earliest stages. There are many wonderful people on this site that are always willing to help whether it be with medical advice or to just lend a supportive shoulder. I wish you and your husband all the best.

Hugs,
-Pam

Dear Linda,

I am very sorry to hear of Terry’s passing. My heart goes out to you. May you one day find peace.

Love,
-Pam

Hi Matt,

What a wonderful uplifting post. I am so happy that Lisa was able to have surgery and you both have hope. I think the most important thing is to never give up hope, try to keep a positive attitude, and treasure every day!!

Hugs to you both,
-Pam

Dear Dee and Lou,

I am sorry you had a bad time with the doctor. I just wanted you to know that my daughter and son-in law are both doctors. I talk with my daughter almost every day and she is wonderful with her patients and often brings the sadness she sees home with her. Some doctors may be brilliant, but have no people skills when it comes to showing empathy. Luckily, my other daughter, Lauren, who had CC, had a surgeon and oncologist who were wonderful. Her surgeon was with us when she passed and cried along with us. He also drove four hours to attend her funeral and has told us recently that he still thinks of her daily. I am so sorry, Dee and Lou, that you have experienced the opposite and have bad feelings in general for doctors. It must be such an awful feeling to be treated in such a callous and uncaring way.

Love and hugs to you,
-Pam

Hi Adjuster11,

If you wish to seek yet another opinion, you might want to speak to a wonderful liver surgeon at University of Michigan named Dr. Chris Sonnenday. He is very approachable and would answer an e-mail from you. You can mention my name (Pam Kunklier) if you should decide to do so. I wish you all the best.

-Pam

Dear Catherine,

I am very sorry to have upset you. My intention is to help others. This is why I tread lightly on this site. I know our story is very sad and I have to deal with it every day, but I hope I can help in some small way by writing about our experiences. My daughter and our family were blessed as well and always had family around. Continue to have hope. That is what helped us.

Love and hugs,
-Pam

Hi Catherine,

I would like to welcome you to this site, but I am very sorry to hear about your Mom. In answer to your question about second opinions, I would go for second opinions and more until I found a surgeon that I was happy with and I trusted completely. I know many people seek more than one opinion to make sure they are making the right decisions. My daughter, Lauren, was the one with cancer and we did not seek a 2nd opinion. We were happy with her doctors and loved and trusted them. I think our situation was different in that my daughterand son-in-law are both doctors and had done surgeries with her surgeon. They saw first hand the brilliance of his work. Lauren was inoperable, but became operable after two years of many treatments. Sadly, she passed away after complications from her surgery, but to this day we do not regret our decisions. She wanted a shot at a cancer free life and took it. It is a personal choice and I believe a smart one to seek second opinions. If you are asking if you need a second opinion, you already have your answer. I wish your Mom all the best in fighting this disease and strength for the family.

Hugs,
-Pam