Thanky you for your replies, our family tends to take care of things ourselves, having to rely on other services that may take over our part in Mum and Dads care has been something we have had to consider.
The part we all agree on is that we want no suffering for our Mother this is first and foremost, we hope the treatments we can get access too will maintain her Quality of Life.
Im usually viewing situations from the outside, having it so close to home makes me feel wierd at the moment, I hope I get more feedback from others.