Posted on Feb 15, 2016

I lost my beautiful sweet daughter, Karen Montrois to Stage 4 Cholangiocarcinoma with metastasis to the bones on November 16. My heart is aching for her loss. I miss her so much. She and I had a special relationship because she had had several health issues throughout her life and that required more involvement in her life than a mother and daughter normally would have. Karen suffered a lot throughout her dying process. It was agonizing to watch.
We did not choose chemotherapy for Karen because her Oncologist stated that she could not have tolerated the caustic chemotherapy that was suggested for her. In May 2015 he estimated that she would live 3-4 months so that would have been the end of August. I had her until November 16. She loved going out every morning so that is what we did. She would pick the place and we would go until she got tired. Many times we met friends for coffee or just shopping.
We had Hospice services from July until her death. They were very helpful in trying to achieve pain control. We started with Morphine & Dilaudid, but eventually that did not work so then we went to Methadone, Oxycodone, Haldol and Valium (all liquid). My heart just ached watching her deteriorate. She was a beautiful, kind person inside and out.
We had a good time during the summer, I got to tell her I loved her every day and what a good daughter she had been. I miss her terribly.