First holidays without Frank.
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OMG, Cousin Duke! That is so old, my Dad said that when we were kids. Another one of his famous sayings: he had a Candy Store smack dab in the middle of downtown Kansas City. Every summer he would close for a month and we would travel all over the USA. Why? Don’t know he really didn’t like to site see. Anyway, one of his favorites on the back roads we used as highways then if he saw a farmer working in the fields he would say, “see that farmer? He’s outstanding (!) in his field.” Well he would crack himself up and laugh until he’d cry. Robin and I are the same way. We laugh so hard at our jokes it doesn’t matter if anyone else doesn’t laugh.
Lainy –
Look at a particularly amorous one and say, soulfully, “You’re teeth are as bright as stars, and I bet them come out at night, too.”
Duke
I hope those men realize how lucky they are to have such a gem on their site Lainy. With Teddy and the Good Lord looking out for you, you are in good hands.
MargaretMargaret, I can only tell of my experiences but the way I see it is if Teddy is still getting very much in touch with me and we had a beautiful 16 years of marriage with the deepest love, and I can go on a dating site, anyone can. I do find it entertaining though. Yikes. If anyone is interested it is Senior Meet up and for those over 60. Nothing much has changed over the years, older men but same lines! Good for a laugh or 2. At least they are trying, not sure they get too far. One does have to be cautious like I only meet them if I do, in a Mall restaurant and never give out personal info until you get to know them. I also tell my daughter where I am going. All bases covered.
What a wonderful revelation for you from that experience. I am taking your wise words to heart Lainy. Thank you for your encouragement!
MargaretTo All You Fabulous Ladies, I wish you each a little easier year this new year of 2015. I know it is hard for all of us but I have to admit that I do LOVE seeing your names pop up on here if for nothing else than to say you are doing a tad better.
I NEVER thought I would want to meet someone but I did, however short the time was to be with him but I let him go Dec. 30th. Too much of a drama queen! BUT the important lesson from this is that it showed me I can want to be with someone especially for the companionship. As I believe in the here after I also believe in destiny and you just never know what is in store for you.
This is funny but if you saw on here that I got stung by a scorpion about the same time I met this man? Well, a dear friend of mine said that maybe it was a warning by Teddy. I laughed and said man, he really drove his feelings home!
Keep on keeping on girls because LIFE is for the living!• I wish heaven had a phone so I could hear your voice again.
• I thought of you today, but that is nothing new.
• I thought about you yesterday and days before that too.
• I think of you in silence, I often speak your name.
• All I have are memories and pictures in a frame.
• Your memory is a keepsake, from which I’ll never part.
• God has you in his arms…I have you in my heartTo all you dear ladies,
Nancy I am so sorry for what you are enduring. And you also Shellina. Wonderful that you carried through with your lobster and crab tradition!It is so tough making it through the holdays. I just made it through my second round of holidays since my husband died in October 2013 from cc.
It has been such a different experience from the first. Sad, yes. But I realize now how much shock I must have been in because I don’t even remember getting through it last year. Don’t know if it has been that way for you also.
My 13-year old really brought it home for me when she told me she really liked Christmas so much better this year because last year I just drove the kids to the stores and had them pick out their own presents. I don’t even recall doing that!I send up prayers for you and all others here for healing and comfort.
Haven’t checked in for awhile, but just want to say to Lainey that your poems continue to bring comfort and inspiration for me. They are always right on the mark and so beautiful, so I always enjoy them, and appreciate your wisdom. Praying you’ll get some relief from your health issues. (Have to mention too that my John contacts me by leaving feathers for me. They always show up when I’m most in need!)
Wishing warmth for you Darla up there in The frozen north!
I hope for Nancy and Shellina much comfort. God bless!
MargaretNancy, I also lost my husband seven months ago. The holidays were really hard. Harder than I imagined they would be. I know it will get easier. This year I made sure to hang a beautiful ornament on my tree with a picture of Al. We also had a tradition of eating lobster tail and king crab legs every New Years Day. Well you know what, I went to the store today and got myself a lobster tail and a couple of legs and I loved it. I talked to him while I was eating.
I hope we all find peace and comfort in this new year. I wish peace and comfort to all who are fighting this disease. Peace and comfort to all of the caregivers. Peace and comfort to all of us who have lost our loved ones. We have to keep fighting the good fight and make sure everybody knows about cholangiocarcinoma. It’s the only way we will one day find a cure.Dear Nancy,
I wish you strength in the coming year also. Slowly these feelings will continue to change. You will always have a feeling of part of you being gone, but more and more the good memories of your life will Frank will over take the sadness and emptiness you are feeling. It never totally goes away, but it truly does get better in time. Just take it one day at a time.
Hugs,
DarlaDear Horses, it will take time and all of a sudden one day all the good overtakes the bad, I promise. I wrote the poem below when I was feeling like you are now:
How Are You Doing?
Everyone asks me how I’m doing since you went away,
With a smile on my face I answer, “I really am okay”.
Matter of fact its very hard but I promised to be strong,
Until the time we meet again, in your arms where I belong.In the morning when I wake, once where there was warmth all night,
There’s nothing but an empty space and a pillow to hold tight.
Our closet now holds all my clothes it still looks kind of strange,
I try to make it look like more and constantly rearrange.When I’m in the kitchen and working at the sink,
Many times I stop and this is what I think…..
If Teddy was here he’d grab me to give a little cue,
That he was about to hug me and say his, “I love you”.No more are the corny jokes that grew longer by the year,
What I wouldn’t give now for just one more, to hear.
When someone calls, your message is still kept on the phone,
That way no one knows I am really home alone.When day is over and dinner is eaten by one,
No more thank you-s for the meal well done.
Can’t find anyone to scratch my back,
There’s just a big hole here, a hole of midnight black.But, how am I doing? I’m doing okay,
I know that you would want it that way.
And I know you are with me morning to night,
Still watching over me, that every things all right!I got through my first Thanksgiving and all the many family Christmas celebrations with a smile on my face and a huge hole in my heart. I know Frank is celebrating Christmas in heaven, my faith is strong, but my heart still aches. It has only been seven months since my beloved husband passed away. I don’t cry every day now. I can enjoy many things. But there is still such a feeling of emptiness, something missing. I pray for everyone who is suffering from this horrible disease and wish everyone strength in the New Year.
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