Helping Friend

Lainy, That is great advice. A home cooked meal and a house cleaner are never wrong. perhaps if they don’t have cable tv, a subscription to it would be good or maybe a Netflix subscription (I found that very handy when I was in bed a bit of the time).
My kids just wanted me to be normal mom, so getting out of the house and doing something fun, even if it’s just sitting by the water or in a lawn chair in your own backyard, while family life goes on could be helpful.
My thoughts are with your friend and her family.
It’s not easy for anyone dealing with this disease.

-randi-

Dear aeolson, welcome to our wonderful family and I am so very sorry about your friend. From the care takers end, I am a planner, take control person, I can handle it, thanks but no thanks. I realized that when my husband’s prognosis came down to months I needed to let others in. They wanted to be with him too. It was almost funny as we got calls from dozens of friends all wanting to take us to eat dinner. I bet for 6 weeks we were going out to eat 2 -3 times a week. We even chuckled about it but we realized they needed to do something. As time went on the best thing was for Teddy to have visitors althought I timed them and no more than 2 couples a day as he would wear out quickly. My suggestions would be for friends to get together and perhaps get a house cleaner to come in once a week. Go to the market for your friend and perhaps bring in a couple of meals a week. Don’t under estimate the kids. They are pretty smart when it comes to these things. Maybe taking them to a movie now and then. Perhaps a lunch and at that time let them know you are there if they need to talk. Above all follow your friend’s lead. This is a very exhausting disease and she should not be pushed for anything as only she knows how she feels and she must reserve her energy to fight the CC. What a blessing for your friend to have friends like you and all the help available to her. Good luck on this and please keep us psoted.