Loving Wayne
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Hi Terry,
I am so sorry to hear about your Mum passing away so soon after your beloved Wayne.
Just to say I am thinking of you and yoru family, particularly at this Christmas time.
Sending you strength and peace,
Katie
Everyone heals in their own time. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Be kind to yourself. I think my mother is crazy half the time too which only leads to giggles and misadventures. Perhaps that is what you need.
Kris
Two weeks ago they called in hospice for my Mom. My brother and I sat at the nursing home both day and night. She went to Jesus on Nov. 21st. It has been 9 months since cc took my Wayne away. Two major losses in nine months. During that two weeks at the nursing home, a couple of my friends came over to check on me. I guess I had let my guard down a liitle because I let them in my box I have surrounded myself with.
Some of the thoughts that I told them about was unbelievable to them. You seem so strong, that’s on the outside. Neither one has expericenced a great loss. No one knows how they would handle it unless they live it. I would be very happy to change spots with them. Having my loving husband at home, and my Mom a phone call away.
Sometimes it feels like it would be a lot easier to give in to my feelings and give up. Then I realize I have a wonderful daughter that loves me very much, she thinks I’m crazy a lot of the time, but we love each other. My son he seems to love me if he needs something.
As long as I’m talking to people I know and my couselor I can carry on a half way good conversation. Just let me talk to someone else I start stuttering, I mix up my language, and can’t remember anything.
One week for one and 9 months for the other, Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!
After dealing with CC and it’s aftermath I can categorically state that: NORMAL IS JUST A SETTING ON A DRYER……….
Hang in there…Grief is the hardest job you’ll ever do and there is no instruction manual, no timetable and no two people will face it in the same way. Fortunately everyone here understands and will be here to help you in your journey.
Hugs and prayers headed your way!
Pam
You know it seems that days go by so slow, then all of a sudden it’s been six months, but as I look back it seems like yesterday. My doctor told me to let myself get angry and mad, but most people don’t understand why you would have those feelings. I’m still going to individual therapy, thank goodness, one week I feel like I’m OK then the next week I’m falling apart all over the place, I guess it’s normal, but what is normal these days. Thanks for listening.
Hi Terry,
Sounds like you have a rough month ahead of you. I sure do know how you are feeling. Our situations are so similar. It seems like everything is a hugh challenge now that we have to deal with it all on our own. You will deal with it all, tho’ and it will be OK. Before you know it September and all these challenges will be behind you. Take care, Terry and try to stay strong. Know that I am thinking of you and hoping everything works out for the best. Keep posting your feelings and let us know how you are doing. It doesn’t change anything, but it does help to share your feelings and to know that others understand and care.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI miss Wayne so much it makes me sick. My therapist says we were so close, I was not only his wife of 35 years but also his caregiver for the pass 21 years. Our lives, she says, were so intangled that one would have trouble identifing one from the other, but here I go trying to go on by my self. Sept. month I wish I could sleep through. Thrusday I go to the eye doctor to find out about my right eye, the l3th is my birthday (great). On the 23rd I’m having a colonoscopy then to top the end of the month is our anniversary. I’m ready to sleep right through the month. Gotta go back to work now, I just needed someone who knows how I’m feeling, Thanks!!!!
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