Miss my mom :(
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12 weeks ago today I lost my mom. Some days are better than others. I love to put on her night gown and spray it with her perfume. I never knew I could miss anyone so much. Whatever you feel is normal we all do it different. Hugs and prayers your way!
Dear Molly,
I also lost my soul mate1yr 4 months ago & go through the same as you are
but please take good care of yourself.My 16 yr old son is my strength.
Try to remember the good times.
May God give you a lot of strength.
nkMolly,
Grief has no timetable and no two people experience grief in the same way. I lost my mom to CC april 3, 2009 and I still have bad days. I can still be reduced to tears by smelling someone wearing my Mom’s perfume.
Here is a website that was helpful to me.
http://www.connect.legacy.com/
Come back to the boards as often as you need. We are all on different parts of the CC journey but we are all here for you!
Hugs,
PamMolly,
Just to say I am thinking of you at this time. 4 months is no time at all, be kind to yourself, seek out the friends and family that make you happy and share memories of happy times with your Mum. No-one can take your memories away, as Lainy always says, ”Mothers never really leave their children”.
Take care,
Katie
Molly, Darlene said it just perfectly. My husband, Teddy passed December 6th so I am also coming up on 4 months. I don’t think there is a time limit for grief. I will go along and feel the same as you. I won’t cry for awhile then all of a sudden something sets me off, but I have noticed it is not like it was. When I feel I miss him terribly, don’t laugh, I go take a whif of his cologne! That seems to help me. I think we need to allow the time to heal and I don’t think 4 months is that long. Please try not look back. I did that this morning upon waking up and honestly it serves no purpose except to make us feel worse that we are here and they are not. We cannot go back and change a thing but we can try to move forward so that they don’t worry about us. I know they are happy when they see we are happy.
Dear Molly,
Everything you are feeling is normal for what you have experienced. Grief is a very personal thing and everyone grieves in there own way and in their own time frame. I have and still do experience a lot of what you are going through and it has been 2 1/2 years since my husband passed on. There are good days and bad and all we can do is deal with the feelings as they come and take things one day at a time. Your life will never be the same as it was before and you will always miss your mom, but she is with you in your heart and memories. When things get bad, try to remember all of the good times before CC.
Keep coming back here when you need to talk or vent your feelings. All of us who have lost loved ones to this disease know and understand. You may also want to contact Dr. Giles. You can contact him by clicking on Patient Support and then Ask Dr. Giles. He lost his best friend to CC and has been a source of comfort and support to so many of us. He may be able to help you sort through your feelings.
Take care Molly.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaIt’s been nearly four months since mom passed away and I still don’t feel like it has hit me! Now and again it comes in waves of emotion where I can’t think of anything else but when she was sick! I keep thinking to myself maybe we should have pushed the doctors harder to make sure the bilirubin levels were coming down or demanded that she be sent to a specialised hospital, but we didn’t and now I have to live with that! I know it was the best thing for mom and was a happy release for her. I just ask should I be crying more and be more upset then I am. It’s not that I’m not upset cause I am I just feel guilty that I don’t cry more or then I think maybe it hadn’t fully hit me! B4 I go to bed I think of how jaundice she was and how sick she really was and it brings on a wave of emotions, panic, guilt, and saddness! Does anyone else feel the same about the loss of a loved one or am I abnormal? I have bad days maybe once twice a week but nothing like I
expected! I just miss mom so
much its only when I think of her not being here when I come in from work or not being here on my wedding day or birth of my first child that it hits me! Please tell me your thoughts!
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