Mom had unsuccessful surgery today, trying to absorb the news

Dear Amy,

Sending tons of love and hugs your way. Spend as much time as you can with your mom. Be positive, eat ice cream for breakfast, watch the sunrise, go away on vacation put your feet in the ocean, feed the ducks, take tons of photos, sky is the limit, enjoy every moment.

Just because hey gave you a time frame does not mean mom has an expiration date on the bottom of her foot. Physician’s work off statistics and remember the Bell Curve….They gave my mother 6 months, she made is 19.5.

I am here if you need to talk 443-496-6163 or you can email me at ronidinkes@yahoo.com or you can find me on facebook.

Hugs always,
Roni

Amy,
I am so sorry for your news. Try to stay strong for your Mom. Live each day one foot in front of the other, and spend much quality time together. Support and prayers to you and your Mom.
~Amy

Amy –

I am so sorry to hear about your mom’s bad news. This is always a devastating situation, as 10-20% of the time conventional imaging (CT, MRI, PET) fails to diagnose disease that has spread in this pattern (small nodules throughout the abdomen).

My only advice is to say that if your mom is feeling well, take full advantage of this time with her and continue to do as much as she wants and is able to do. While the typical estimate on survival in this situation is 3-9 months, I have seen patients live much longer than that. How much time chemotherapy could add to that time is unclear, but it could be considered as long as any side effects are tolerable and the administration schedule does not interfere with any plans she wants to make to travel or do other activities.

I wish your mom a quick recovery from her procedure such that she can get back on her feet quickly. I wish you many more wonderful days with her. She sounds like an amazing and strong woman.

Chris Sonnenday
University of Michigan

Amy:

I’m so saddened by this as I know you were hoping for a much different outcome. I agree with the others, take whatever time you have left and make it memorable. Take lots of pictures and just enjoy being with your mom.

Hugs,
Margaret

Dear Amy, loads of love, hugs and positive thoughts winging their way to you from London. xx

Dearest Amy, I am so very sorry. Not sure in what way you want to know how to be prepared or how much you want to know. For now I would say, spend your time making more loving Memories, expect it to be true but still HOPE for more time. I don’t think there is anything to do until Mom starts showing signs, like weakness, no appetite, swelling or pain. Take a step at a time and the first is to allow her healing from the Surgery, that will take some time. If the ONC is saying to be prepared please know that you can have him call in Home Hospice at any time. Hospice does not mean it is the end but they are terriffic and could be of help as well for recuperation from the surgery. If you have specific questions flip me an email and I will answer them. Again I am so very sorry and wish the news had been different. Mom is still a Hero to us all.