moms end stage
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Codergirl- I was in a coma for 3 weeks with second transplant. I have now learned that so many of my “dreams” were related to my what my family was talking to me about. I don’t remember hearing them but apparently I did. One vivid memory is my littlle sister rubbing my head and saying she loved me, I remember thinking what a sweet voice she had. So believe me that your mom is feeling you and all your good thoughts. You are making a difference for her, you are helping her be at peace. Many many prayers-Cathy
Codergirl,
You come here as much as you want over the coming days and weeks and we will all be here for you as you go through this. I was my dads carer during his fight with CC and I was with him right to the end, so I can so relate to how you are feeling right now and what you are going through.
Thinking of you right now.
Gavin
Thanks Pam It does make it easier hearing that others are here toshare thier experiences It helps to try and see what to expect. God Bless You All. I will probably be on here alot over the next few days/weeks. Thanks
I am so sorry that your mom is so sick. My sister and I lost our dad on November 6h. It was a mirror situation where I was with him during the day while my sister worked and then we took turns at night with her having more nights. It is a tough road but in the end you will feel you did everything you could for your mom. It was an honor and privilege to take care of him.
Just remember a few things. Everyone on this board told me to talk talk talk to my dad when he went in his coma. My sister and I talked to him about the whole summer and all the adventures we had. Then of course we had the serious talks with him when we told him it was okay to let go and that we loved him.
Also when he went into the coma and we started to here congestion we gave him secretion medication around the clock. Aniexty medication and liquid morphine around the clock kept him very peaceful. We made a chart and set phone alarms as reminders. My dad lasted eight days in a coma with no food or water. It wasn’t scary at all. We just loved him.
I am saying all this partly because it helps me to grieve. Mostly because it might help even thought each death is different. I wish you and your sister everything you need to get through this. You sound like strong ladies. Your mom will be in
a better place soon. Take care, PamThank all of you so much. Your words give me new strength. The poem is awesome. I will keep all posted. Have a great day!
Hi,
I was my mom’s main caregiver and my sister who is a nurse told me that it would be the hardest thing I ever did and she was right. This will change you forever. Your mom has made peace with her death, I hope you and your family can find some peace as well. As her bags are packed, here is a poem about a traveler seeking refuge:
Up-Hill
Does the road wind up-hill all the way?
Yes, to the very end.
Will the dayCodergirl…I am wishing for peace, serenety, and strengths to surround you in the coming days.
My heart is with you,
Hugs
MarionDear Codergirl, it sounds like your Mom has made her Peace and is truly ready to take the journey. She has been lucky to have 2 wonderfu l daughters by her side and in turn when she leaves the room she will be watching over you. Sending you many thoughts and Prayers.
Dear Codergirl,
I am so sorry to hear about your mum. You are right that it is so hard to sit there and watch a loved one go through this. It is nearly a year since I was in your shoes watching my dad go through this and I can so remember what it felt like. But please know that you and your sister are doing exactly what your mum needs right now. You are both there for her by her side, watching over her, caring for her and taking care of her every needs. And I know that your mum will be so grateful for this and also that she has raised such wonderful daughters.
And yes, you are not alone as you go through this, we are all here for you. We know what you are going through right now and we care.
My best wishes to you, your sister and your mum,
Gavin
Dear Codergirl – It is so hard to watch a loved one getting ready to leave us, but it sounds like your mom knows where she’s going so she’s packed her bags. There is comfort in that and knowing that you have been blessed to be able to spend time with her. She has loved and been loved as evidenced by you and your sister spending time caring for her. God bless you, your mom and your sister. We are here if you want to talk about the process from here. Blessings, Susan
Hi all my mom was diagnosed in Feb 2010 she had 2 chemoembolizations the tumors just got bigger in Sept she stopped all treatment. She now weighs about 90 lbs, eats very little. Nausea, weakness and itching are her major issues. In the last week she has become very jaundiced. Hospice is her 2 x a week. I stay with her at night and work during the day my sister stays with her during the day. She asked for the minister yesterday. She will be out later today. I feel like she is near the end. This is the hardest thing in the world to watch. I have been reading on this site for a few months. Thanks to everyone here It is nice to know that I am not alone. Sis just called to say minister just left. Mom Told her “my bags are packed I am ready to go” . This is just so hard.
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