Mum’s 3 years from diagnosis
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Oh Varun….lately I have really been blowing it. Sorry, second son. I have a friend by the name Arun and thought the female version was Varun. Either way, your Mom has raised a wonderful, caring, and compassionate son. She was a great lady and her spirit will live forever. My heart is with you in this difficult time and I wish for your heart to begin to heal….one day at a time.
Many hugs,
MarionDear Varun, that was an amazing post and we feel now like we really missed something not to have known your Mum. She sounds like a truly beautiful person inside and outside. As I have said before I prefer to think she went to another room and believe she will be watching over all of you and someday you will receive a signal from her that she is all around all of you!
Varun,
I have posted before that the Indian poet Tagore is one of my favorites, here is one for your mum:
Chain of Pearls
Mother, I shall weave a chain of pearls for thy neck
with my tears of sorrow.
The stars have wrought their anklets of light to deck thy feet,
but mine will hang upon thy breast.
Wealth and fame come from thee
and it is for thee to give or to withhold them.
But this my sorrow is absolutely mine own,
and when I bring it to thee as my offering
thou rewardest me with thy grace.~Rabindranath Tagore
Thanks so much everyone for the lovely replies! It makes me feel so much better.
Varun
P.S – I’m not a girl, I’m my mum’s second son
Varun….I wish for my children to remember me in the same loving way you are describing your Mom. A great Mom has raised an equally great daughter. May your heart begin to heal for that the sweet memories will nourish you forever.
Hugs and much are coming your way,
MarionDear Varun – What a special post about your mum. I am so glad that you had the opportunity to make her last 3 years complete with dreams fulfilled. Bless you for that. It is so wonderful to hear of your experience with a loving, caring mum. Thank you for posting and letting your feelings show. We relate so well to how difficult this process is. Glad you could come here to share and feel free to do so often. Thinking of you, your family and your “shining” star, mum. I am sure she is watching over you and her spirit will be with you. Blessings, Susan
Dear Varun,
That is such a lovely post and thank you so much for sharing more of your mums life with us all. From what you have said about the last 3 years of your mums life, she has seen and experienced so much and all of that will have made her so happy. These 3 years will just have added more memories to the memories that you already had of your mum, and you will never forget them.
You did everything that you possibly could for your mum with regards to her care and treatment, so please do not beat yourself up about this. Just as your mum did everything she could for you, you also did everything you could for your mum and I know how much that would mean to her. Your mum will always be there with you.
Hugs,
Gavin
Varun,
So glad to see that you are still on the website and posting. Your Mother sounds like an incredible person, and I’m glad to hear that the last 3 years of her life were so wonderful, filled with loved ones and beautiful memories. I hope you find peace knowing that she died with these memories in her mind, and knowing that she will be with you, always. I can’t imagine her being anything but proud to have had you with her through her battle.Jen
Dear Varun
What a lovely post. Your mother sounds like she was an amazing person, and she was lucky to have you to look after her so well, and to have those 3 years together. You and your family managed to fill those 3 years with a lot of experiences, fun and happiness. Those memories are irreplacable.
best wishes
Jemima
Hi everyone,
It’s been about 3 days now since mum passed.. it’s been very hard for me, i’m thinking about her all the time.
Just thought i’ll share what’s on my mind:
Mum always did everything for me, she took care of me and brought me up with so much affection and love. This horrible disease took her away from me and my family! She was only 56 years old.. she died at least 10-15 years before she should have! I keep thinking if there was anything else I could have done to save her.
She was diagnosed on 3rd Oct 2007, she passed away on 14th Nov 2010. In these three years, she had 3 stents, 11 cycles of chemo (gemox) and brachytherapy and finally was on an external drain for about 5 months.
In these 3 years we took her to the US, Thailand, Australia and New Zealand for holidays, she always wanted to see all these places.. she saw the birth of her grandson (my nephew), she was also there for my engagement in Aug 2010. This final extension of 3 years of her life were the most satisfying for her and for us. The doctors gave her 8 months to live from her diagnosis.. but she survived 3 years mostly with a good quality of life! But we lost her when we didn’t really expect it.. it just went downhill in 3-4 weeks! I love my mum so much.. she’s always gonna live in my heart, in our hearts!
I know that she will always take care of me, my finance, my dad, my brother, my sis-in-law and my nephew from wherever she is! She will be my guiding star in life! I love you so much mum from the bottom of my heart!
Thanks everyone for everything! Everyone of you on this site have been an amazing support! Love you all!
Varun
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