March 27, 2014 at 12:52 am #80943lindarSpectator
I’m so sorry for your loss Michele. I know we exchanged some posts a few weeks ago when our husbands were both so ill. My husband Terry died on February 15. I thought I was prepared but it was still such a shock when it actually happened. Please know that you are in my thoughts as is Stella. It’s hard to be strong but we will all get through this somehow.March 26, 2014 at 4:36 am #80942stella1960Member
My beloved Peter passed away 2 days after your husband, on 21 March 2014. May I say that I know exactly how you are feeling, the yo-yo of emotions, the business of getting everything ready for a funeral and even the choas you are experiencing in your life. I would like to hold your hand and walk this path with you. You are welcome to email me privately. XXXMarch 24, 2014 at 5:53 pm #80941darlaSpectator
What you and the kids are experiencing, your feelings, thoughts etc. are “normal” under the circumstances. Yes, he is no longer in pain or suffering, but for those of us left behind it is never easy. Everyone grieves in different ways at their own pace. There is no right or wrong way to deal with it. It is what it is and we just have to take it one day at a time. Slowly things will start to fall into place. I don’t think we ever totally get over it, but we learn how to live with it and keep going. It will get better. It will never be what it was, it will never be the same, but eventually the good memories will out weigh the bad. He will always be with you through those memories and in your heart. He is no longer with you physically, but his spirit is never far away. Time does heal the pain and know we are all here to help and support you in any way that we can.
My best to you and the kids. Thinking of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 24, 2014 at 3:29 pm #80940pamelaSpectator
I am so sorry to hear of your dear husband’s passing. Try to find comfort that he is no longer suffering. I know that is easier said than done because you want him to be there with you and your children. I’m sure it will be dificult for all of you for a long time. Grief is a pain I wish none of us had to go through, but we must. I will pray that you all find peace and acceptance one day. Your husband will always be with all of you. Watch for and be open to the signs. I feel my daughter around me all the time. Love to all of you.
-PamMarch 24, 2014 at 2:47 pm #80939lainySpectator
Dear Michele thank you so much for letting us know how things are going for you and I do have one suggestion that was given to me. For a while try leaving a television softly on at night as somehow it seems to fill the voided space. If you want you can also tell your son that his dream was his Dad coming to tell him that he was healthy and happy and your son did exactly what your husband knew he would do by sharing the news with you. I went to Palm Springs for Teddy’s Granddaughter’s Engagement Party last October. His Granddaughter came up to me and was mumbling something. She said, “Grandma that was the strangest thing, a song that I was compelled to sing came in to my head and I don’t even know the words”. I asked what the song was and she said, “What a Wonderful World”. That was the first song Teddy and I danced to at our wedding. I knew he would be there. She too was the messenger. Michele I have a list of what to look for if you are a believer and would like a copy. It brings comfort as you will be looking for signs instead of that deep ache of missing. Wishing all the best to your family.March 24, 2014 at 11:54 am #80938iliasMember
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I find comfort that my mother has woken in a better place and is no longer suffering.
Please know that your husband is there with you. My mother was with me a few nights ago and told me in my dream that she was fine. She looked woinderful and told me that she was well enough to mother another child.
My mother passed 40 days ago and passed when all her children left the room to move their vehicles into another parking bay. But I find comfort that my wife and father were with her during her passing. I truly think this is what she wanted.
Please take care and look after yourself and the children. He will always be with you guiding you and your children.
IliasMarch 24, 2014 at 5:05 am #80937shel15Member
Thank you everyone for all your support and prayers. I wish one day this cancer gets the recognition like all the others.
I truly dont know what I would have done without all of you. Its so nice having a place to come and have people understand what your going through.
The kids and I take it day by day. We keep reminding ourselves that he is no longer suffering and is happy again. If we cry too much we also remember how much he couldn’t stand us crying. We joke about how he would get after us for getting so worked up about him being sick.
Tonight is our first night home alone with no one staying with us. Its Diffenetly one of the hardest nights by far. My anxiety is at an all time high.
The kids and I have been camping out in the living room together. I’m sure we will be doing this for a while. My daughter has a hard time going into her own bedroom by herself. I have to walk in there with her and she don’t like being left in the house on her own. She’s afraid she’s going to walk in the room and see him standing there.
My son has been kept pretty busy between my dad and my nephew. He has his moments but seems to be dealing with it better then I expected. He told my mom he had a dream about his dad and that he was with his friend and that his dad looked healthy and young again. It seemed to make him feel better.
I just wish the day my husband passed away he wouldn’t have done it when I walked out of the room. I feel like i didnt get the chance to say good bye. If I would have had an idea it was going to happen I would have never left the room. He just had a small fever the night before and hospice came in the fever broke. Hospice told me all his vitals were normal. The nurse had given him 48 hours to a week so the next morning when he passed totally threw me off guard. I just so wish he would have given me the opportunity to be in there when he went. I feel bad for walking out. Within 2 minutes of me stepping out he was gone.
Thank you everyone for always being here.
MicheleMarch 22, 2014 at 12:39 pm #80936RandiSpectator
So sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. There are no words.March 21, 2014 at 9:58 pm #80933willowSpectator
Thinking of you and your family at this sad time of loss. May you find comfort and peace.
WillowMarch 21, 2014 at 9:23 pm #80935claremSpectator
I am so very sorry to read this and cannot begin to imagine now heart broken you and your children are.
Much love to you all.
XMarch 21, 2014 at 4:24 pm #80934yellow77roseSpectator
Very sorry for yours and your kids loss. Absolutely devestating. Make sure you take care of yourself and accept help from others. I’m sure you have a lot of people that want to help and support you. I’m sure everyone on this site is praying and thinking of you also.March 20, 2014 at 7:09 pm #80932darlaSpectator
I am so sorry to hear of your husbands passing. You and your children have my deepest sympathy. Try to take some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering and is at peace. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this sad and trying time.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 20, 2014 at 6:38 pm #80931gavinModerator
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your husband. Please accept my sincere condolences. I wish there was something that I could say that would help right now. Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family right now.
GavinMarch 20, 2014 at 5:32 pm #80930lisasSpectator
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Yesterday, strangely, was the 3rd anniversary of my little brother’s unexpected passing(not from cc). I know I walked around in a fog for weeks and months. The best thing someone told me us that grief is a process, not an event. I hope you are surrounded by family and friends for the time to come. We are here too.
LisaMarch 20, 2014 at 5:11 pm #80929kris00jSpectator
I am so sorry. May he rest in peace, now cancer free.
My prayers and healing thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
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