My Sister’s Blessing

Tommy,

I am so sorry for your loss. Try to find some comfort in knowing that for Judy the fight is over. She is no longer in pain or suffering and has moved on to a better place. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dearest Tommy, I am so very sorry to hear about Judy but then again she deserves to be at Peace. I know it will be hard at first but your life will go on with 3 daughters who will make you both very proud. Judy seemed to be a remarkable woman and I am positive she felt the great love around her through this awful journey. She will never be far in spirit and her love for all of you.
From a book of blessings called “Benedictus” by John O’Donohue
When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
Your heart has grown heavy with loss.
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.
There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.

Minkzy, thank you for sharing your story.

It seems that our situations are quite similar and it is lovely to hear you talk about times with your sister so fondly, even at the most challenging of days. It seems you shared a very similar, close relationship with your sister and the ability to pick up each others spirits and comfort each other even when things look desperate. It sounds like your were an incredible support to your sister and you shared that unique level of understanding for each other that can often been found between siblings.

My only sister died of BDC at the age of 27 last August, less than 6 months after original diagnosis. She too put up an amazing fight, never gave up and kept very strong throughout treatment.

The loss of a sibling is irreplaceable and something I can sincerely sympathise with. While I am truly sorry for your loss, thank you for posting; it is of some comfort for me to hear of someone who has been through a similar situation and is so positive. I feel like the grief will be a very long journey which I am only just beginning, but that is perhaps a topic for one of the other forums.

Thanks again, your sister sounds like an amazing woman and I wish you the very best.

Mark, Your message gave me goosebumps. Your sister was truly remarkable and so are you. Thank you for sharing your story it gives many of us comfort. Nancy

Dear Minkyz,

I agree with everyone else. What a great attitude. Thanks for posting this and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.

Darla

Dearest Minkzy, welcome to our wonderful family. That was a beautiful letter about your sister and I believe the biggest blessing was that you had each other for a sister. I know it sounds absolutely bizarre to call a disease like CC a Blessing, but it really is in so many ways. I also like her expression, “Life on Life’s terms”. Excellent. I am so very glad that you shared your story with us and I wish you many blessed memories!