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I forgot to say as well. Should you wish to, you can submit a question to Dr Giles here on the site. He is a licensed psychologist and has helped many of our members with many issues. He can be found here if you wish to submit a question to him –

http://www.cholangiocarcinoma.org/ask.htm

Gavin

Dear Kirsty,

I am so very sorry that you lost your mum. There is so much support and understanding here that might offer you some comfort.

Kindest thoughts,

Clare

Dear Kirstie,

You have my deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear mother. My husband also passed quickly from this disease and I try to console myself in knowing that atleast he did not suffer for a long time. Keep her forever in your heart & memories. Thinking of you.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Kirstie, I am so very sorry about your beloved Mom. There are no wrods to describe how devasting this CC Monster can be. I do know that a ways down the road your wonderful memories will take over and they will be a Blessing to you. Please accept my heartelt Prayers and thoughts.

From a book of blessings called “Benedictus” by John O’Donohue – Irish Poet & Philosopher
When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence
Your heart has grown heavy with loss.
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.
There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.

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