December 12, 2012 at 1:51 am #67485
i didnt call her,i gave george a sponge bath a few minutes ago,and it took so much out of him just to lift his legs so i could dress him,he was breathing hard like he ran a marathon,i lost it,i got him settled and lsft the room to have a good cry.his mother and i talked today and started making arrangements.its just been a very trying day…December 12, 2012 at 1:36 am #67484marionsModerator
Lynn…someone needs to be with you. This is not something any of us are prepared for. Where is the Hospice nurse?December 12, 2012 at 1:32 am #67483
i cant do this…im breaking im aloneDecember 11, 2012 at 10:49 pm #67482pamParticipant
Lynn, so sorry to hear of your falls. I have experience with this and it is tough. Besides the bedside toilet maybe they can provide George with a rolling walker that has a seat. Don’t mean to scare you, but my dad became very confused and unpredictable. Falling is a big concern. Hope things stabilize. Lots of good thoughts coming your way. Pam MDecember 11, 2012 at 8:15 pm #67481gavinModerator
I am real sorry to hear what you and George are going through right now. I wish that I could say things that would help right now. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and George right now.
GavinDecember 11, 2012 at 8:08 pm #67480
AW, Lynn, I am so sorry about this, just is not supposed to be this way! I believe that Miss Kay is the best one to handle this. I just wish I could take all of this away from you and George!December 11, 2012 at 7:53 pm #67479
every day this gets harder and harder,early this morning george fell,he took me down with him,hes ok,it took awhile but i got him back up and in bed,george is a very stubborn man he wants to do things on his own his way.with what little strenght he has,he puts up on heck of a fight,and it was because of this he fell.I was walking him back to bed after going to the bathroom,and just as i turned him to guide him back into bed,he pushed me away,and we both went down.thats not all,a few minutes ago,he got up to go to the bathroom,i tried to help him up,at first he said leave me alone im alright,he tried but couldnt,so again i helped,when he got to his feet i was still holding on to his arm,he pushed me away,so i followed close behind,he made it,ok,when he started walking back to the recliner i was right behind him ready,well,he started falling sideways i caught him,but if the back door wasnt there,we would of went down again,i hurt my little toe.Miss kay is getting him a bedside potty and comming by this afternoon.i will talk to her about what else i can do.he is so restless,he dont know where he wants to be,in bed or his recliner.i will let you all know when miss kay leaves and what she sugests.love and hugs LynnDecember 11, 2012 at 8:41 am #67478marionsModerator
Lynn…know that you and George are surrounded by love in this so very precious time. Stay strong and know that we are here for you.
My heart is with you.
MarionDecember 11, 2012 at 1:09 am #67477pamelaParticipant
I am so very sorry for all you and George are going through. I am glad his Mom is coming to see him. Family is everything. Take care and much love being sent to all of you.
-PamDecember 11, 2012 at 12:53 am #67476
Dear Lynn, you always make sense. I am glad George’s Mom is coming and his Sister has been stopping by. Thank goodness I have never lost a child but I can only imagine the pain. You are a strong woman Lynn, and you know you can keep calling me as you want to. Sending you gigantic hugs!December 11, 2012 at 12:44 am #67475
thanks everybody.im taking your advise about how to answer george,miss kay(nurse)was here,she ordered george something for his congestion,she can hear it in his lungs.george talks about odd things,im doing the best i can.his sister came by after work,she broke down,then went to their moms and to her just how bad george is,then she called me a few minutes ago,she was crying,and said shes comming in the morning.george is her first born,on top of the pain and heartache im in,the pain is much deeper when you lose a child,i know,i lost a son 28 years ago,so i the burning heart ripping pain that she is going through george is her son.sorry rambling dont know if i made sense…love and hugs Lynn.December 10, 2012 at 11:34 pm #67474lalupesParticipant
I wish I could add some helpful comment, but all I can do is hug you across the Internet.
This is a dreadful time for you all and my heart is with you.
Love Julia xxDecember 10, 2012 at 6:37 pm #67473willowParticipant
I’m sorry you and George are having such a rough time . I don’t know the “right” answer but because I am caring for my Dad with Alzheimer’s, I can tell you that there is no harm in going along with someone’s thoughts even if they are not real. Sometimes I gently correct Dad (telling the truth so he doesnt get hopes up for something thats not happening in reality) and sometimes I just sort of agree/ go along with it or change the subject (depends on situation). The director told me another strategy is to ask more questions or details about George’s statement/idea and he may end up answering his own question or changing to a new subject. Avoid getting frustrated trying to convince him of anything he can’t grasp. Hope this helps. Keeping you both in my thoughts. WillowDecember 10, 2012 at 6:32 pm #67472
Lynn, do you feel like he really wants an answer? If so just make something up like, Oh Keaton is playing with some other children. Once George asks something not sure he remembers it. Is Geroge pretty much without pain? Has he mentioned Chemo again?Hang in there Lynn. Be strong!December 10, 2012 at 5:57 pm #7731
hello everybody,theres no change in george,its been a rough night,george mumbles alot,most things i dont understand,but when i do how do i answer him?for instance,a few minutes ago he asked me who keaton was outside with,keaton is our grandson,hes not here.how do i answer him when this happens?
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