December 10, 2009 at 5:26 pm #33618lainyMember
P.S. Gavin, I know I had my turn but Walk jarred my mind about my dad and I felt it bore repeating:
My dad at the age of 93 had gall bladder surgery. Came home and was fine. The next day he went in to a very deep, peaceful sleep. We could not wake him. I called the paramedics and they could not wake him. They did the infamous breast rub and he jumped awake. Mom sat on the bed and said, Norman, “I was so scared you wouldn’t wake up!”
(At this point I have to interject that my dad believed in nothing he could not explain. Heaven, magic etc. He also was not very descriptive.)
He answers mom, “I just had a beautiful dream, I saw Heaven.” We went to ER and my daughter joined us there. She said “Grandpa, I heard you had a dream.” He said, “Yes, Robin, I saw Heaven and it was so beautiful.” He came home and passed the next day. If I never believed before I sure did after that.
Heaven is Beautiful!December 10, 2009 at 5:04 pm #33617amyleaParticipant
I am so sorry for you loss. I know that your heart is breaking. I went through the same journey in September, when my wonderful Mom passed away. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.
I am amazed at what a wonderful, loving son you are. I really feel like I got to meet your dad through your posts. He was so incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful fighter as you on his team.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers,
AmyDecember 10, 2009 at 4:29 pm #33616cherbourgMember
I didn’t want to see this post but I sensed it was coming. My heart goes out in sadness to you and your Mom but I rejoice that your Dad’s passing was peaceful and dignified.
You are an amazing man and a wonderful legacy left by your Dad on this earth. I know his passing was made much easier knowing he was leaving your Mom in your capable hands.
I know the emotions you will go through in the coming days will stagger you at times but I promise you’ll find the strength to see you through.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Much love and many, many hugs…
PamDecember 10, 2009 at 4:11 pm #33615ashleyMember
I am so very sorry to read about your Dad’s passing. My deepest sympathies to you and your Mom. You are a wonderful and caring son to have been there for him throughout this painful journey.
You are in my thoughts,
AshleyDecember 10, 2009 at 3:59 pm #33614walkMember
I am sorry for your loss. I hope you can find comfort in knowing he is pain free now.
I heard a remarkable story last night. A new friend had lost her best friend to cancer 7 years ago. When the final news from the doctor was delivered, she promised her friend she would remain by her side until the end. The friend’s children stayed at her house with her husband while she and the friend’s husband were at her bedside– for 4 months! At the moment of her passing, her friend opened her eyes, looked at her and said “It’s so beautiful!”
I hope you can find comfort as I did that wherever they are, it is a beautiful place!December 10, 2009 at 3:59 pm #33613BazelParticipant
Seeing your post this morning brought a great deal of sorrow and I was immediately thrust back to this same point in my life 2-years ago. And while saddened, I was also relieved to read that your dadDecember 10, 2009 at 3:59 pm #33612lalupesParticipant
Dear Gavin, I’m so, so sorry to hear your news; this is a post I did not want to appear on the boards, although it was becoming clear that it would not be long before it did. You have given me such strength as you journeyed through this with your dad & I am so grateful to you for sharing the journey with us.
My heart goes out to you & your mum & family. I, too, hope the grieving process soothes the pain of your loss & that your wonderful memories will soon outweigh the sadness.
My very, very best wishes. I wish I could say more.
Julia xxDecember 10, 2009 at 3:51 pm #33625karenMember
Sending my deepest condolences to you and your Mom. You are a wonderful, kind and caring son. I know your Dad was so very proud of you. I hope the grieving goes well for you and your Mom. This next battle is very difficult. My heartfelt prayers to you both.
KarenDecember 10, 2009 at 2:22 pm #33628elainewParticipant
I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. I have followed your posts and know you were devoted to your father and to his fight against this horrible disease. Your description sounds very much like the peaceful passing of Gary 8 weeks ago. Hospice is wonderful and they truly do give your loved one all the respect and dignity they deserve. We cannot be sorry they are relieved of their pain, but they will be missed forever.
Fondly, ElaineDecember 10, 2009 at 2:20 pm #33627lainyMember
Dear Gavin and to your mum also. It is with a heavy heart I read your post.
You and your dad together fought a mighty battle and in a way you did win in the end as dad passed with Peace and Dignity. Your hearts are sad but your dad will still bring you great comfort as he walks beside you and he will love you for eternity. Teddy and I send our loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family.December 10, 2009 at 2:05 pm #33626darlaParticipant
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your dear Dad. I am glad his passing was peaceful. Your posting is a wonderful tribute to him. I know how much you and your Mum will miss him, but atleast he is no longer suffering from this horrible disease. He will be with you forever in your heart and memories. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as you now travel the sad journey of mourning and grievieng. Take care of yourself and your Mum now Gavin.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDecember 10, 2009 at 1:51 pm #2982gavinModerator
It is with the greatest sadness that I say that my dad’s journey ended this morning at 12.30am on the 10th. His final hours were very peaceful and he slept the entire day and into the night.
Mum and I were called to the hospice at 8.30 yesterday morning and spent all day by his bedside. We were joined by my aunt in the afternoon and for some of the evening. Dad took his last breaths with me by his side holding him and with his nurse also with him.
Dad fought a brave fight and we are glad that his final hours were peaceful. His hospice nurses were amazing and took the utmost care to ensure that dad was comfortable and could spent his final hours with the dignity that he lived his whole life with. They also took the best possible care of Mum and I and for that, I am also so grateful. Shona, dad’s Macmillan nurse was also with us and spent some time with mum on her own. I know dad would appreciate that and everything else she did for us all.
Dad, it was a great honour to stand shoulder to shoulder with you in this fight and to see it through to the end with you. And all the time being with you by your side. You took a lot of knocks along the road, but you always came back swinging and fought this with great bravery, pride and honour.
You will never ever be forgotten and are loved by us all dearly.
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