Should I take semester off for mother’s prognosis?

Lola, my daughter was a junior in college 31/2 hours away when I was diagnosed, not only did we insist she go back to school, so did my doctor . I know it was difficult for her but it was the best decision at the time. She is an amazing child, she always made sure on chemo day there was some gift for me, a book, mixed tape….. I was a transplant candidate and during my wait for the call we even made her go on spring break, of course she went with a Southwest voucher to get home quickly if the call came!
When things went real bad for me and was on life support, she called our priest twice to give me last rites and when things got better and I was able to go home, she did take a semester off. I came home in a whee lchair, drains, feeding tube…. and there was no way she was going back for the semester. That semester was the semester she was suppose to study abroad too.
I am excited to tell you she graduated a semester late.
There is no yes/no answer, I really believe you will know when the time is right to take a break and for how long.
Lots of prayers for healing, comfort and peace.
Cathy

Dear Lola, wishing you and your Mom the best and try to be very strong, it WILL get you through. I used to tell myself, “time to be strong, I can fall apart later” and it worked for me. Please let us know what Mayo says. I am glad she is going as that other opinion is so very important. We all handle these things in different ways but if you can pull on your inner strength perhaps you could give a call here and there and talk about you and your studies and daughter not about her. We are with you in spirit!

Dear Lola, I think Debbie said it perfectly. When Teddy and I reached this point her opted for no chemo and the ONC was spot on with his timing. We were much older and there was nothing going on that would make us make a decision like yours. As said already, any decision will be the right one. I can only wish your Mom a comfortable journey and strength to all of you.