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Bruce,
I too am so sorry to hear that your Mom has passed on. Try to take comfort in knowing that she is now in a better place and no longer in pain or suffering. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts at this sad time.
Take Care,
DarlaLainy,
I am so glad things are working out for you and Teddy and that your are both comfortable with hospice. The attitude you both have makes a big difference. I think about you both often and am hoping for the best for you both.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Sarah,
Our situations are so similar except that I lost my husband, my soulmate of 45 years, and you lost your dear Mom. It will be 2 years for me on Sept. 2 and I still feel so lost and confused. Yes, the pain and sadness are sometimes overwhelming. I am beginning to realize that it will never truely go away. It will always be there. After such a tremendous loss, life will never be the same and you do not have to get over it. No, it’s not fair, but somehow we just have to learn how to live with it and try to go on.
You are so fortunate to have that darling little boy and a loving supportive husband in your life. You will never forget your Mom, grieve for her, remember her fondly and try to enjoy the life you have been given with your husband & little one.
Know that I am thinking of you and share your pain and sadness.
Take care Sarah and keep coming back here when you need to. It really does help.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJen,
The VA stated that there was no evidence of a parasitic infection when Jim got out of the service nor in the years following and before the illness was diagnosised. However, that is the nature of this disease. Since he had none of the other things that could cause this and the fact that it usually does not show up until 30-40 years later, I really do believe that this was the cause of Jim’s CC, however, so far they are sticking to their story and me to mine! I do think that as more is known about this disease and how it develops, hopefully that will change. For now I will just keep trying. I think they are well aware of the situation and just don’t want to admit it as there will be so many claims in the coming years. CC is a silent killer and is often not found until it is too late and our government has kept silent about it. These vets deserve to atleast be made aware of the possibility and given a chance to fight it. So Jen, keep getting the word out and so will I.
Darla
Wow Jen,
I’m impressed with your efforts. Keep up the good work. We are all trying so hard to promote awaremess of this rare cancer. I too tell everyone who will listen.
I am glad you have been in contact with Sheila. She is a good person and will do all she can to help. I had planned to email to tell your Mom to contact her. So far, my claim has been denied, but I am still going to keep trying. I figure eventually there will be so many vets with CC as they are all getting to the age where it seems to show up, that they will have to admit to a connection, so the more of us making claims the better chance of that happening. Together we can all make a difference.
Take Care,
DarlaDear Jseidel,
I agree, that your poppop willl be there with you on your special day. You will feel him all around you.
Unfortunately I know too well how you are feeling. My husband passed away from CC almost 2 years ago in less than 2 months from his first symptoms. He was 62 and was also a Vietnam Vet and I am also fighting for a service connection. Tell your mommom not to give up. We do need to get the word out.
Know that I am thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and your family.
Darla
Dear Kearton,
I too would like to extend my deepest sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your beloved Anne. Thank you for sharing both your thoughts & feelings and hers. Anne is now at peace and no longer suffering and she will be with you forever in your heart and memories.
Darla
I too would like to extend my sympathy to Barbara’s family and friends. Her fight is now over and she will always be with you in your heart & memories.
Darla
Linda,
First off, know that everyone here is behind you 100%. That said, is it possible you husband is having a hard time accepting that you have this cancer and this is his way of dealing with it by ignoring it and acting like everything is just fine? That wasn’t the case for me, but everyone reacts differently when faced with difficult situations. Just a thought. I have found that in some situations I too get more support here and from others who I have met that are living with the same loss that I have experienced than I get from some close friends and family who just can’t seem to understand. Atleast we know we have somewhere to go to get the help & support we need. Yes, please do stay in touch and let us know how things are progressing with this new treatment regime.
Thinking of you and hoping for the best results.
Darla
lsisman,
I have been where you are now and yes, all you can do is keep on doing without thinking too much about it. There were days I didn’t think I could go on, but I did. As you said, one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time. Try to carve out a little time for you. You need all the strength and support you can get to get you through this and to be able to be strong and to be there for Tad. Sometimes it may only be a few minutes, but you need to take a deep breath and regroup now & again. Take care and keep us posted as to how you are both doing. I will be hoping for some improvement in the near future.
Darla
Hi Lainy,
Glad to see you back. I agree with Margaret. Although I would have loved to get together and meet you both, The quality of time spent with family is much more important. Glad everything went well and that you are safely back home. Thought of you often. Look forward to your future posts. My best wishes to both of you.
Love & Hugs,
Darlalsisman,
I too agree with everything that has been said. Hang in there and try to take a little time out for you. My experiences were so similar to what you two are going through and you have been dealing with it for a lot longer than I did, so I do know what you are going through and how you are feeling. Stick with us, we are all here for you when you need us.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Margaret,
Yes, I’m with you. I hate the word “WIDOW”! I didn’t want to be one and I don’t like to be referred to as one. It is all so strange, isn’t it? I said that right from the beginning shortly after Jim passed away and now it has been almost 2 years and I still don’t like it. Another thing we will probably never truely get over.
I hope you are doing OK or atleast as good as possible under the circumstances. The way you are dealing with the whole hospital situation does seem like a positive step in the right direction. Keep in touch. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
