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SpectatorDear Deb,
I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I know all too well how hard it is on everyone. I am hoping that your Father will be kept comfortable & free of pain as much as possible. I will keep you, your Dad and your family in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaAugust 5, 2009 at 1:19 pm in reply to: My Darling Husband, Anthony. How has a year gone by without you? #29790darla
SpectatorDear Pauline,
What a wonderful tribute to Anthony. I know how much you love & miss him & also how much he loved you. Yes, he will be with you forever in your heart and your memories. That is something that will never go away. Thank you for sharing some of that with all of us.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Ashlea,
I am so sorry that you have lost your Dad, but he has moved on to a better place and is no longer in pain or suffering. It is harder for those of us left behind. You do have a great attitude and that will help get you through this sad time. Your Dad will always be with you in your heart & memories. Know that we are all here for you as so many of us have lost our loved ones to this horrible disease and know what you have & will be going through. Stay strong. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorMarilyn,
I too feel like you and Janet. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of Jim & our life together. I too just want that back. Seeing so many happy older couples spending there “golden years” together is sad & painful. I am thinking of you & all the others that have lost loved ones to this horrible disease and hope for better days ahead for all of us.
Darla
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SpectatorDear Kris,
I too am sorry to hear the news is not better. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Booklover,
I am so sorry for your loss, but am glad that you found this site and were able to gain knowledge & strength from all the information here. You and your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Darla
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SpectatorHi Cyndi,
When my husband first became ill, a stent was put in his right ureter for what they thought at the time was a kidney blockage. He developed a blood clot in his leg and when he continued to develop clots even though he was put on blood thinners is when they started to suspect there was cancer somewhere in his body even though to that point they had found nothing to explain the symptoms he was experiencing. I was told that there is an association between uncontrolled clotting and cancer. I too believe this has been stated on this board by others, so you may want to do as Marion suggested & try a search. I am sure you will also be hearing from others with similar experiences.
Darla
July 23, 2009 at 11:49 pm in reply to: missing my husband Tom, (Dad of 2 and granddad of 3: Didi) #30060darla
SpectatorMarilyn,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts & feelings. I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone. I too lost my husband to this horrible disease Sept. 2, 2008 in less than 2 months. He was 62. We were married almost 42 years. I share your sadness and loneliness. I too am grateful that at least he is no longer suffering. I feel they will always be with us in spirit in our hearts and memories. You & your family are in my thoughts and prayers along with all of the others that have been affected by this terrible disease.
Darla
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SpectatorHi Everyone,
Pauline, I am glad the memorial went well and am sure it gave you some comfort to do this now at a time when all those memories are closing in. I am thinking of you as we both go through the events of the last weeks. It is all still so hard to believe it all happened and now it has been almost a year.
Cyndi, I think we can all relate to what you are feeling. After what we have all been through, nothing else seems to matter much, does it? We just keep on going taking one day at a time. I have to agree that although I would have wanted more time with Jim I am glad that he did not suffer long or needlessly. How is your friend doing?
Janet, I hope your Mom starts to improve soon. I know what it is like as I am dealing with my Dad’s health problems and the toll it is taking on my Mom. I am glad you are getting some relief through the massages & swimming during your long winter months. I went to dinner with my daugther-in-law Saturday night and to an Art Festival on Sunday. It does help to fill the hours & keep busy, especially on the weekends. We are actually having some nice summer weather for a change, but it is still unseasonable cool, especially in the evenings. The swine flu is hitting here too, especially in Wisconsin. We have actually had several deaths (6 I believe) so far, related to it. My brother-in-law just got over a few days of being very ill & thought it may have been the flu. They now are thinking it was effects of severe migrane.
Sue, It sounds like Sam”s graduation was lovely and I know Ray was there in spirit & so very proud too.
Joyce, I’m glad you had a nice time in the Adirondecks. I too understand that lonely feeling of having to come home to an empty house. No matter where you go or what you do in the end you are still alone. It is all so sad & lonely, isn’t it?
Patty and everyone else here, I hope things are going OK for all of you. Keep in touch. We can all get through this, together, one day at a time.
Love & Hugs To All,
Darladarla
SpectatorI am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. My husbands experience was much the same and my sons & I also went through what you are now experiencing. There is no easy way to get through all of this, but you will. Try to be strong & know that we are all here for you. I will keep you, your Dad and your family in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Danielle,
I too know exactly how you are feeling as I have and still am going through a lot of that myself. Unfortunately I guess it is just a normal part of this grieving process that we have no choice but to endure. Keeping busy does help some. It doesn’t really change anything, but it helps to occupy your mind for a time. I have come to the conclusion that a lot of these feelings never really go away. We just learn to live with them and try to go on. One day at a time.
It does help to know that what we are going through is “normal” under the circumstances. Being able to communicate with others who are experiencing the same things and knowing we are not alone does help to give us strength to go on.
Know that I am thinking of you and share your feelings of loss & loneliness. Take care of yourself and keep in touch.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Charlene,
I have no experience with antidepressants as I chose not to take any & just go it on my own. There are days I feel like that was a big mistake and that I should re-think this, but one thing I did worry about was the fact that eventually you need to get off them & would that be even harder than just dealing with the pain on my own. No matter which way you go, it is not easy. We can only hope that as Janet said, with or without medication we will eventually get to a better place. Let us know how it is going. We are all here for you. I am thinking of you and know you will be strong enough to work your way through all of this. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Stan,
You and your family have my deepest sympathies. For your Dad the struggle is over. He is no longer in pain or suffering from this horrible disease. He will be with you forever in your heart & memories. I like Janet know what you are feeling and going through as do my sons who are close in age to you. My husband was also very healthy until CC reared its ugly head and our lives will never be the same. It is humbling & overwhelming. It is not an easy road, but you will manage to get by one day at a time. You are not alone. We are all here for you. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers at this very sad time.
Darla
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SpectatorAmy,
I am sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing, but you can take some comfort in the fact that she did not have to endure this horrible disease for too long and is now free and no longer in pain. Talk to her whenever you want to as she is never far away. She will be with you in your heart and memories forever.
Darla
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SpectatorDear Deborah,
I am so sorry to hear of William’s passing but am glad that it was peaceful. As sad as this time is for you and your children, atleast William is no longer in pain or suffering from this horrid disease. He will always be with you in your heart and memories. Know that we are all here for you for strength and support as you now travel this road of grieving that so many of us are on. Try to take some time for you so that you can stay strong for your children. Take care, my thoughts & prayers are with you and your family.
Love & Hugs,
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