darla

Dear Deb,

I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I know all too well how hard it is on everyone. I am hoping that your Father will be kept comfortable & free of pain as much as possible. I will keep you, your Dad and your family in my thoughts & prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Ashlea,

I am so sorry that you have lost your Dad, but he has moved on to a better place and is no longer in pain or suffering. It is harder for those of us left behind. You do have a great attitude and that will help get you through this sad time. Your Dad will always be with you in your heart & memories. Know that we are all here for you as so many of us have lost our loved ones to this horrible disease and know what you have & will be going through. Stay strong. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Kris,

I too am sorry to hear the news is not better. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Hi Cyndi,

When my husband first became ill, a stent was put in his right ureter for what they thought at the time was a kidney blockage. He developed a blood clot in his leg and when he continued to develop clots even though he was put on blood thinners is when they started to suspect there was cancer somewhere in his body even though to that point they had found nothing to explain the symptoms he was experiencing. I was told that there is an association between uncontrolled clotting and cancer. I too believe this has been stated on this board by others, so you may want to do as Marion suggested & try a search. I am sure you will also be hearing from others with similar experiences.

Darla

Hi Everyone,

Pauline, I am glad the memorial went well and am sure it gave you some comfort to do this now at a time when all those memories are closing in. I am thinking of you as we both go through the events of the last weeks. It is all still so hard to believe it all happened and now it has been almost a year.

Cyndi, I think we can all relate to what you are feeling. After what we have all been through, nothing else seems to matter much, does it? We just keep on going taking one day at a time. I have to agree that although I would have wanted more time with Jim I am glad that he did not suffer long or needlessly. How is your friend doing?

Janet, I hope your Mom starts to improve soon. I know what it is like as I am dealing with my Dad’s health problems and the toll it is taking on my Mom. I am glad you are getting some relief through the massages & swimming during your long winter months. I went to dinner with my daugther-in-law Saturday night and to an Art Festival on Sunday. It does help to fill the hours & keep busy, especially on the weekends. We are actually having some nice summer weather for a change, but it is still unseasonable cool, especially in the evenings. The swine flu is hitting here too, especially in Wisconsin. We have actually had several deaths (6 I believe) so far, related to it. My brother-in-law just got over a few days of being very ill & thought it may have been the flu. They now are thinking it was effects of severe migrane.

Sue, It sounds like Sam”s graduation was lovely and I know Ray was there in spirit & so very proud too.

Joyce, I’m glad you had a nice time in the Adirondecks. I too understand that lonely feeling of having to come home to an empty house. No matter where you go or what you do in the end you are still alone. It is all so sad & lonely, isn’t it?

Patty and everyone else here, I hope things are going OK for all of you. Keep in touch. We can all get through this, together, one day at a time.

Love & Hugs To All,
Darla

Dear Danielle,

I too know exactly how you are feeling as I have and still am going through a lot of that myself. Unfortunately I guess it is just a normal part of this grieving process that we have no choice but to endure. Keeping busy does help some. It doesn’t really change anything, but it helps to occupy your mind for a time. I have come to the conclusion that a lot of these feelings never really go away. We just learn to live with them and try to go on. One day at a time.

It does help to know that what we are going through is “normal” under the circumstances. Being able to communicate with others who are experiencing the same things and knowing we are not alone does help to give us strength to go on.

Know that I am thinking of you and share your feelings of loss & loneliness. Take care of yourself and keep in touch.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Stan,

You and your family have my deepest sympathies. For your Dad the struggle is over. He is no longer in pain or suffering from this horrible disease. He will be with you forever in your heart & memories. I like Janet know what you are feeling and going through as do my sons who are close in age to you. My husband was also very healthy until CC reared its ugly head and our lives will never be the same. It is humbling & overwhelming. It is not an easy road, but you will manage to get by one day at a time. You are not alone. We are all here for you. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers at this very sad time.

Darla

Dear Deborah,

I am so sorry to hear of William’s passing but am glad that it was peaceful. As sad as this time is for you and your children, atleast William is no longer in pain or suffering from this horrid disease. He will always be with you in your heart and memories. Know that we are all here for you for strength and support as you now travel this road of grieving that so many of us are on. Try to take some time for you so that you can stay strong for your children. Take care, my thoughts & prayers are with you and your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla