darla

Dear Charlene,

It is nice to hear from you. I am glad that you have found some sense of peace now that John has returned home to you. I too felt better once I had Jim’s ashes back with me. As you said, it gives you a sense of peace & you feel less lonely. It doesn’t really make it all go away, but it is somewhat comforting. I don’t think we every get over the great loss we have all suffered. We just learn how to live with it & try to go on. Some days are harder than others. As Joyce said above, atleast we are not alone. We are all here to help, support & comfort each other when we need it.

I have thought of you often & am glad that you are doing OK. I think we are all just holding on & doing the best we can under the circumstances. Take care Charlene.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Sue,

Another wonderful experience. I truely think that Ray is somehow instrumental in this and is reaching out to you. What a great early birthday present! I have had a few incidents, but nothing that profound. I will keep patiently waiting & hoping. I do still have the light that goes on now & again. Sometimes in the middle of the night.

I too find myself weary & exhausted most of the time. I think that everything we went through & now going through the grieving process does seem to just drain the life out of you, doesn’t it?

My son is on a business trip so my daughter-in-law came up to help me with the shop for the day & we then went out for dinner. That was enjoyable. She would have stayed on a while longer, but there is snow predicted, so I urged her to go back before it got too bad. She would have stayed over, but the dog was home alone, so she did need to go back. Here I thought it was spring, but it seems that winter is not ready to let go of us just yet!

Everyone take care & try to have a nice day tomorrow. I will probably be snow bound, once again!

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Jamie,

Thanks for sharing your experience with this cancer with all of us. I agree with what everyone else has said. It is always good to hear something postive. I am sure that your great attitude has helped you along the way. As I am sure you know from all the reading on the site, there is no rhyme or reason to how this cancer affects everyone differently. You have proven that there is hope and everyone dealing with this awful type of cancer needs hope.

Good luck to you and I will be hoping for more clean scans for you in the future. Keep that great attitude.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Sue,

Thanks for sharing that wonderful experience with all of us. It truely is a sign that our loved ones are not far from us. A big congratulations to Sam. I am sure that Ray knows and is very proud of her accomplishments.

Love,
Darla

Rose,

I too am sorry to hear that things did not work out with the surgery. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

I am so sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing and the grieving that you now are experiencing. Take comfort in knowing that she is in a better place & no longer suffering or in pain from this horrible disease. I know how hard it is for those of us left behind, but remember that she will be with you forever in your heart & memories. Take care & know that you and your family are in my thoughts & prayers.

Darla

Janet,

I agree with Joyce. You have to do what feels right for you. I know that people mean well & try to do things that they feel are right, but there is no way that they can know what we are feeling and are all going through unless it has happened to them. Only you know what is right for you at the moment. All of the first anniversarys are so hard to deal with as we are all finding out and we all have to do it in our own way & time. Right now we have to take care of ourselves and do what we feel is best for us. From what you said it sounds like she has been very supportive and I am sure she will be understanding of what ever you decide to do. I think it is great that your Mom is so supportive and understanding of your feelings also.

End of summer sounds strange to me too as we are looking forward to spring & the end of a cold and snow filled winter!

Take care Janet.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Rose May,

You have good reason to be frustrated. You should not have to be doing all of this yourself. This is not typical of anything we experienced. I agree, I think you need to make some phone calls to get answers to your questions. Just having CC is enough to cope with. You don’t need all this aggrevation & uncertainty, too.

I will be thinking of you & hoping for the best.

Darla