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SpectatorDear Charlene,
It is nice to hear from you. I am glad that you have found some sense of peace now that John has returned home to you. I too felt better once I had Jim’s ashes back with me. As you said, it gives you a sense of peace & you feel less lonely. It doesn’t really make it all go away, but it is somewhat comforting. I don’t think we every get over the great loss we have all suffered. We just learn how to live with it & try to go on. Some days are harder than others. As Joyce said above, atleast we are not alone. We are all here to help, support & comfort each other when we need it.
I have thought of you often & am glad that you are doing OK. I think we are all just holding on & doing the best we can under the circumstances. Take care Charlene.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Marc,
I too am so sorry to hear of your Mum’s passing. Atleast she is now at peace and no longer suffering from this horrible disease. I know how hard this is for you, but remember that she will always be with you in your heart & memories. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers and as Joyce said, know that we are all here for you in the days ahead.
Darla
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SpectatorSue,
Another wonderful experience. I truely think that Ray is somehow instrumental in this and is reaching out to you. What a great early birthday present! I have had a few incidents, but nothing that profound. I will keep patiently waiting & hoping. I do still have the light that goes on now & again. Sometimes in the middle of the night.
I too find myself weary & exhausted most of the time. I think that everything we went through & now going through the grieving process does seem to just drain the life out of you, doesn’t it?
My son is on a business trip so my daughter-in-law came up to help me with the shop for the day & we then went out for dinner. That was enjoyable. She would have stayed on a while longer, but there is snow predicted, so I urged her to go back before it got too bad. She would have stayed over, but the dog was home alone, so she did need to go back. Here I thought it was spring, but it seems that winter is not ready to let go of us just yet!
Everyone take care & try to have a nice day tomorrow. I will probably be snow bound, once again!
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorJamie,
As I said before, great attitude & I love the story about the “oops”!
Darla
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SpectatorJamie,
Thanks for sharing your experience with this cancer with all of us. I agree with what everyone else has said. It is always good to hear something postive. I am sure that your great attitude has helped you along the way. As I am sure you know from all the reading on the site, there is no rhyme or reason to how this cancer affects everyone differently. You have proven that there is hope and everyone dealing with this awful type of cancer needs hope.
Good luck to you and I will be hoping for more clean scans for you in the future. Keep that great attitude.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorRose May,
I am so sorry that the surgery didn’t work out. I agree, you need to give yourself a little time so that you can think things through with a clear mind and make the decisons that you feel are the best for you and your circumstances. Take care. I hope you get out of there soon. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorSue,
Thanks for sharing that wonderful experience with all of us. It truely is a sign that our loved ones are not far from us. A big congratulations to Sam. I am sure that Ray knows and is very proud of her accomplishments.
Love,
Darladarla
SpectatorCongratulations Tess. What wonderful news.
Darla
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SpectatorRose,
I too am sorry to hear that things did not work out with the surgery. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Janet,
I agree with all that Sue & Joyce have already said. Your post is not at all trivial to us. We do all understand what you are saying. If you are comfortable with your decision and are doing it for you, not for everyone else, go for it. You & your feelings are what is important right now. As you said, it is not on the actual day & you can do something for you on his birthday. Then go to the party as if it is just an “end of summer drinks” event. Your Mom will also be there for support so that is a plus. We will all be hoping that you have a nice time. If I could, I like Joyce would love to go with you!
You will have to post & let us know all about it afterwards.
I too am sorry you are approaching winter. Since we have just been through it, we all know how hard it is. Atleast you don’t have to deal with the snow, but I know that doesn’t make it any easier, does it? Just remember that we all got through it together & are all here to help you & cheer you on when you need it.
This whole grieving thing is so complicated & hard to deal with. We all just keeping going by putting one foot in front of the other and taking things as they come. One day at a time.
Take care.
Love & Hugs To All,
Darla
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SpectatorI am so sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing and the grieving that you now are experiencing. Take comfort in knowing that she is in a better place & no longer suffering or in pain from this horrible disease. I know how hard it is for those of us left behind, but remember that she will be with you forever in your heart & memories. Take care & know that you and your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Darla
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SpectatorMarc,
I am so sorry to hear what your Mom is going through. I will keep her, you and your family in my thoughts & prayers. Please keep us posted as to how she is doing when you can.
Darla
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SpectatorJanet,
I agree with Joyce. You have to do what feels right for you. I know that people mean well & try to do things that they feel are right, but there is no way that they can know what we are feeling and are all going through unless it has happened to them. Only you know what is right for you at the moment. All of the first anniversarys are so hard to deal with as we are all finding out and we all have to do it in our own way & time. Right now we have to take care of ourselves and do what we feel is best for us. From what you said it sounds like she has been very supportive and I am sure she will be understanding of what ever you decide to do. I think it is great that your Mom is so supportive and understanding of your feelings also.
End of summer sounds strange to me too as we are looking forward to spring & the end of a cold and snow filled winter!
Take care Janet.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorRose May,
I am glad that you finally got some answers. At least it is still on for Wednesday, so that is a good thing. I am also happy to hear that you plan to file a grievance. You have every right to. Waiting until after the surgery is probably a real good idea, too. I think I saw somewhere that you are being treated at the University of Madison. If it is any consulation, I have heard nothing but good about them.
I will be thinking about you on Wednesday and hoping that everything goes smoothly from here on in.
Darla
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SpectatorRose May,
You have good reason to be frustrated. You should not have to be doing all of this yourself. This is not typical of anything we experienced. I agree, I think you need to make some phone calls to get answers to your questions. Just having CC is enough to cope with. You don’t need all this aggrevation & uncertainty, too.
I will be thinking of you & hoping for the best.
Darla
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