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Gavin,
I am so sorry to hear your sad news, but I can also say that I know heaven is a beautiful place. I was with my Husband Butch when he left this world to go to heaven, and he did it with a smile on his lips and eyes that were at peace. We still mourn, axs we are “left behind”, but we have the assurance of knowing where they are.Joyce C.
LoveMyMom
I count the time at the end with my husband as among the most precious that we spent together. I know how difficult this is for you, but you will look back some day and be so grateful to have been able to be there for your Mom at this time, comforting her and showing love. You are doing a wonderful job, and God will continue to give you strength.
Joyce C.
Sharon,
Just to let you know that I am thinking of you. I know how difficult this is, and you are doing a great job. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.Joyce C.
Dear All,
Janet – that sounds so exotic – the novotel in Wollongong, I mean! I hope it is a lovely place, with wonderful food!I hope you all had a good meal on Thanksgiving, and that the holiday wasn’t too bad for you. I did find it easier this year than last, but I still miss Butch so much – he just loved Thanksgiving.
I have been keeping busy – and I went to NYC last Friday (bus trip) – saw “Wicked” – what a great play. I went with 2 women I met in my bereavement group, and we had such a nice day.
Other than that – digging in for the winter – it has been very warm but is cooling off fast now. It is hard to believe that another winter is upon us, and I have been alone for over a year. Time marches on, doesn’t it? The job is still busy – budget season right now is driving me crazy – but – busy is good, I guess – less time to think!
Love – Joyce
Kristi,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. I know how sad you must feel, and want you to know that our thoughts and prayers are going out to you.Joyce C.
Kristi,
I just read your post and it makes me so sad to read what your Sister – and your whole family – is going through. I wish you strength to get you through this tough struggle. Being there for your Sister, as you know, is so important, and you are doing so well. We will all be here for you in these tough times.Joyce C.
Dear Cyndi,
I have had some very strange experiences since Butch has been gone, and I have come to look at them as a “gift” from him – and do believe that our husbands have tried to get word through that they are “around” and watching us. At least I hope that is true – it is comforting, isn’t it?I hope that you are doing better now, and that your foot is recovering. It sounds like you have had it rough, Cyndy. Fortunately for you – I can still see you have your sence of humor – it helps a great deal. Just check in here whenever you want to talk – we are all pulling for you.
Love – Joyce
Hello Everyone,
Sounds like everyone is busy – Sue – those salsa lessons sound like a great idea – fun and exercise at the same time. Made me think about the Tai Chi classes I was talking about again – I need to sign up! I, too am on Facebook now – my daughter got me going – I will have to look for you all = it is the latest thing to do, isn’t it? My friends and I are going to “The Producers” this weeken, and “Mamma Mia” in a couple of weeks. We are also talking about a bus trip to NYC – to see he Radio City Christmas show. We try to keep busy. My Mom and Dad leave for Florida Saturday, si I will miss them. I have been raking leaves for awhile now – not so many more to go and the lawn will be clean! – I have a TON of leaves! I hope you are all doing well – keeping busy is the only way I know to keep from getting depressed. I start a new 8 week group next week – from hospice – about surviving through the holidays w/o our loved ones. I dread the holidays, as I am sure you all do also – and maybe this group thing will help.Love – Joyce
The Docotr does not get an “A” in bedside manner! Many of them don’t. It is VERY common for a Doctor to do an exploratory in this type of cancer, looking to be sure that the cancer has not spread to the lymph nodes. If it has, most Doctors will not continue, as they feel if the surgery can’t get it all out. it will not help. I think it is important to be getting this information from a Doctor who has optimum experience in this type of cancer. Also, I believe that it is common with this type of cancer to be given very little hope – I know that my husband was not, and he was at the Mayo Clinic. Each person’s case is different, however, and some people are much more furtunate when it comes to treatment plans. I am glad to see that your Step-Dad has advocates and wish you all the very best.
Joyce C.
Lorna,
I am so sorry to hear about Mark, and want to offer my condolences. I now how difficult this is, but hang on to the thoughts that Mark is not suffering any more, and that you were able to provide him with his last wishes. That is the way it happened with my husband and I ,and it has meant a great deal to me to have been able to provide that for him. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.Joyce C.
Margaret and Blair,
My condolences to you in your loss. I, too, alwasy enjoyed reading Ron’s posts – what a guy! And – he fought a great battle, didn’t he? We shall miss his wit on our board. Thoghts and prayers going out to your family.Joyce C.
Hello,
I don’t want to discourage you from a resection if that can help, but in our case it wasn’t wise. We were told by the Mayo Clinic that a resection could not be done – for all the reasons you gave (there were lymph nodes affected in my Husband’s case, however – at least one lymph node). We continued on and the surgery was performed on Jul 15 at the University of Pittsburgh Medical School. A tumor that we belived to be 8 CC was 17 CC in the right lobe at the time of the operation, and showed up in the left lobe a month or two later. My husband was 66, and never recovered from the surgery – he had three serious infections, etc. He passed away in early October. Now – this is not to say that your Mom should NOT have the resection, just to say the decision should be very carefully made. The U. Of Pittsburgh knows livers well – liver transplants started there – as well as does the Mayo Clinic, so we made the decision to move ahead – it is my believe that the surgery “grew” the cancer, as well as the regeneration of the liver. I hope this will help you, and wish you the best as you make this very difficult desicion.Joyce C.
