Darla–I understand how you feel. Everyone says that time helps, but so far it just gets harder all the time. I miss my routines, I don’t like going to bed alone or sleeping alone. When special times come up, like being with the grandchildren, I miss Tom being with us. Friends ask me to join them, and occasionally I do , but I feel like a 5th wheel. I do talk to Tom everyday–he helps me through some difficult times. So many people say”you were so lucky to have 39 yrs. of such a good marriage”–but all of our friends still have each other and I feel cheated. I want back what we had–Tom was too young to die at age 58. It helps to vent-especially with those who understand. (I am registered under my daughter’s name-I had trouble logging on) Love to all, Marilyn