matilda
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My dad is in the hospice now as they have found lots of mets. It’s unbelievable that my dad is going after 2 months from his diagnosis. In Italy now it’s 5.30 a.m. and I have been awake for three hours now. I can’t sleep anymore. I want to go to Forl
Walk wrote:Mathilda,I am not aware of your location, but is there a hospice type organization you can contact to help with your dad?
Your father should be checked for bowel impaction. Continuing to give him laxatives that aren’t working should not be acceptable. We went through the same ordeal.
Jan
We are in Italy and there are hospices, we are ready whenever doctors say it’s his moment. My father today has been visited in the hospital and they postponed the chemo as he was too weak. He should get his chemo April, 9th. However, tomorrow he will go again to the hospital with my mum because they want to see if he has resolved his constipation. My daddy is still constipated and he has been in that way for 11 days now. Doctors said that he must go to the toilet in three days time. My mother is giving him lots of vegetables and fruit but nothing seems to work. We are very demoralized.
Matilda
Monday my dad saw the cardiologist. He said he’s heart is in good conditions. He has taken laxative since last Wednesday but he is still constipated. In fact, he has been constipated for 10 days now. He is very weak and has pain all over his body.
Tomorrow my dad will see his oncologist and fortunately my mum is there to help him. My father is also becoming very emotional. Sunday, when he saw my older btother, he couldn’t stop crying. This is very sad!Matilda
My dad last night has been very ill and this morning he could not get up because he could not move. His bones are very painful and he panicked. Tomorrow he will see the cardiologist. However, the bad thing is that when he called his doctor telling him he was ill, he just said that it is the effect of chemo. Unfortunately, I live in Bari and my dad is in Forl
Hi Kate,
I do not know why doctors say that chemo is working for him as my father does not want we talk to them. However, he is experiencing swelling and he has also got fever. They gave him lots of medications but he is loosing weight and he’s becoming very weak.
In Italy we also have counselling, however it’s up to the patients to get that help. If the patient does not want, they will not give him counselling.
It’s difficult to deal with my father as once I told him to consult a counsellor and he was hurt by this.
Sometimes I am afraid to speak as everything I can say can be hurful for him.
Matilda
Hello everybody,
Many thanks for your support. Lainy we are from Bari. Unfortunately, Sicilian dialect is very particular and difficult to understadn from us. Kris and Kate you are right about moving to another country to get PDT. I was just thinking about that because my father is experiencing bad side effects with the chemo. However, he is also depressed and he does not want to accept he has this bad cancer. I just want to help him. I must add that he is having a strange reaction as he does not want we take him to the hospital for the chemo and he wants to stay alone. He wants we go and visit him for one afternoon for example, but then he wants we go home. i think this is because he cannot accept the fact that he is ill. It is painful to see him so ill and in the meantime it is painful not to be able to help him as he does not want it.
He trusts his doctors and he thinks they will save him his life. I know it’s not a good idea to move him in another country but i just want he lives!In any case, thank you a lot for the support you are showing me. Thank you!
Matilda
