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Lisa,
My condolences to you and your family. The only positive thing I can think about is my Dad is not suffering anymore. Your dad is now at peace…..I will keep you in my prayers.
RitaRichard,
As I have just lost my dad 6 days ago, I know the feelings you are going through. I couldn’t tell you when the last time my dad went to church or even thought about God. His side of the family are Baptist and Protestant and my mom’s side are Catholic. I never heard him talk about religion but we had Father Louis from the Catholic church that us kids went to when we were growing up, come to the hospital and pray with him and you wouldn’t believe how receptive he was to him. He came back 2 days before he passed and did Last Rights and you could actually see him become more peaceful. I know he is in Heaven with his family.
We had a family member sing “I Can Only Imagine” and it was beautiful. Live life to the fullest with your dad for whatever amount of time he has here and remember, all it takes is FAITH.
My heart and prayers go out to you and your mom.
RitaThank you to each and every one of you. We have laid my dad to rest with full military honors and I was presented with the flag which is a great honor, but the real honor was to be his daughter and be loved by him. I was his chosen one, his first born. He adopted me when I was 1 1/2 and I don’t know if he ever knew that I knew but I never told him because he was My Dad!!! Love and Prayers to all.
RitaWendy,
Oh my gosh, I can tell how much you loved your daddy. He sounds like he was a wonderful man. It brought tears to my eyes. I am soooooo glad he got to walk you down the aisle. I will join you in your fight for all the unanswered questions that we all have about this horrible cancer.
RitaHi Wendy,
So, so sorry about your dad! I am doing all of those things, thankfully. I am glad that I have more days with him instead of him just being gone at the blink of an eye, but I doubt that it is a good trade off for him, having to suffer with this horrible disease. I try to look at the bright side. When did your husband graduate? I graduated in ’86 and lived here all my life until I got married. I will have to pull out all of my annuals. Thank you for the prayers!
RitaI have no clue about it, but I just wanted to tell you that I hope everything goes well whatever decision y’all make. I am praying for him to make a speedy recovery and take care.
RitaIrene,
You and your husband are in my prayers also!! I hope and pray everything gets better with your husband and make sure you take care of yourself too.
RitaThank you Patrice,
I am doing everything I can, but it is not easy to keep my spirits up either, but yes, I definitely put on that front when I am with him. He had a good day today. He even got out of the bed and sat in the chair for about an hour and that is the first time he has gotten out of bed in more than a week. I feel as if he ran a mile. Take care of yourself and Dave and thank you for the hugs!!!!!!!!!
RitaThanks Joyce!!! He did tell the radiology oncologist today that he was probably depressed because of everything that we have learned in the past few weeks. He did eat almost all of a muffin this morning along with a few bites of cereal that he let me feed him and drank some apple juice so that was very good. He has tremors also that interferes with his hand mobility to get a fork or spoon to his mouth without everything spilling. This has been going on for a long time so it is nothing new but it seems to be getting worse. They are going to start radiation treatments on Monday on his hip. His bilirubin is climbing so they are consulting with the G.I. doctor again. They also feel that the tumor in the hip is interefering with the bone marrow. They put him on the duragesic patch yesterday and that has helped with pain but his blood pressure is dropping each time they take it. Before I left the hospital tonight it was 82/52. Don’t know what all of this means!!!! It seems if one day is pretty good the next is pretty bad so I am not looking forward to tomorrow but I am trying to keep my hopes up.
RitaMy dad is still in the hospital. The congestive heart failure is better but he is in heart failure so his heart is just slowly giving out. His blood sugar has bottomed out a couple times. His sister came in from Dallas to see him for a few days.(We live in Long Beach, Mississippi) On Saturday morning when we walked in his room, I smiled and said “Hey” and he looked at me and said ” Yeah, I want to know what is going on.” I didn’t know what he meant so I asked and he wanted to know why he was there, how he got there,who brought him there and what was wrong with him. He didn’t know anything! Inside, I was FREAKING out but I calmly answered his questions and then told him I was going to find the nurse. My aunt stayed with him. The night nurse said she got the impression that he was like that when he came into the hospital so she did not know that it was new. We figured out that his blood sugar had dropped and they had given him darvocet for the first ime so we thought it was a combination of that because slowly he came back to normal. It took a few hours. They changed his pain med to dilauded and I stayed with him that night to make sure it didn’t happen again. He was fine. It happened yesterday morning again after his sugar dropped too low so I guess it is just a side effect of low blood sugar. The Dr. says that every time your sugar drops too low it kills brain cells. They did a needle biopsy on his hip in Tuesday and Yesterday they said it was adenocarcinoma in his hip but still dont know the primary site.(pancreatic or bile duct) He has an appt. with the radiology oncologist today to discuss maybe doing palliative radiation on that hip to stop the terrible damage it has done. It is at the breaking point. My dad is hoping to just not wake up. He told my brother that he wished it was over. It has only been 3 weeks since we learned of this. He cannot eat anymore. He drank a little soup yesterday and drank enough glucerna to take his meds. and the day before that he had nothing to eat and hardly drank a drop. He spiked a fever last night and I looked at his urine bag to his output and it was so cloudy and dark and looked like blood was in it. Of course, I freaked out and the nurse didn’t even know it was like that when I got her in there. They sent a sample to the lab so I am waiting to find out what is wrong. This sucks sooooooo bad. I am 39 years old and don’t want to lose my dad yet, but I just have a feeling he will not be here very much longer. My heart goes out to all of you as well.
RitaDear Joyce,
Thank you for those wonderful words. I know I will have no regrets but I am not sure about my brothers.
RitaHi Irene,
That is wonderful news that your husband has surpassed his prognosis. Your husband sounds just like my father when you talk about him being a very private person. My dad is the same and is very ornery and I was pregnant when he had his valve replacement and his bypass and I had to travel about 45 miles round trip every day to make sure he was o.k. and visit at the hospital and then at rehab. When he got out I did the same to visit and get him to Dr. appts. He had an appt. one day at 9:00 a.m. and I got to his house about 20 min. till because he lives 3 min. from the office and he jumped on me about he was gonna be late and everything. For the first time in my life I felt that I disrespected him but I had to jump back on him because I felt I was doing all I could and I didn’t deserve for him to make me feel that I was not doing just as he felt I should. I was crying still at the Dr. office and he appoligized and never has he said a cross word to me again. I love my dad but I have never heard those words out of his mouth. I just told him when he was diagnosed. My 4 year old daughter told him she loved him when we were leaving the hospital a couple weeks ago and he said” I love you too……go take care of my dog.” I about fell on the floor. He is being humbled by this disease as we all are and I am gonna miss him when he is gone!!!! I will update and you do the same. Let’s all hang in there.
Rita
