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middlesister1 wrote:Sharon,
We are here to listen.
Mom was diagnosed with CC on their 54th anniversary. She told us later that they spent the evening having a quiet dinner together, putting music on and dancing. We are so blessed that she so far has beaten the odds (she was given a year) and they celebrated 56 years in October. However, yesterday we got confirmation that Dad has cancer which has spread to his brain. Mom is very sad and mad as well. She said the only way she will be able to deal is by looking at how we face today; she does not have the strength to look at the future and what they may face. We spent the afternoon in the hospital with them playing cards while waiting for Dad to go for a bone scan.
Scared for tomorrow, but trying to appreciate today.
Take care,
CatherineOh Catherine…….you hit the nail on the head. “Scared for tomorrow but trying to appreciate today.” Thank you!
Sharonmkc228 wrote:We laugh. We cry. We hope and pray. We listen to our doctors and we challenge them to find a better way. We face whatever comes because we know we have to.Mary was diagnosed in January and it’s been a fight ever since. I’m sure we’ll do the same this year, as will you.
I am learning to lean on friends and family even more, hoping they can build a relationship with Mary before she goes. I’m also finding time for silence to listen where we’re supposed to go and do. Only God knows. It is a great comfort to know we’re not alone.
I hope this helps.
JimJim,
Thank yo. You have been very helpful. We will do the same : laugh, cry , hope and pray.
Praying for you and your journey.
Thanks again
SharonIrishMac wrote:I understand the anger fully and the lack of hope re a New Year. The other day I found myself shouting and swearing in the car whilst driving on my own.I wish you both well in the fight. I’m just taking each day as it comes happy that my Dad is still with us.
Thank you for your response. I have done the same thing-screaming and crying in the car. Just knowing we’re not alone is a comfort. I also wish you well in your fight.
Thank you Lainy. I wish he had the strength to go somewhere, but his pain and energy level won’t allow for much. We were very active before this- riding bicycles, hiking, camping, kayaking and scuba diving- this disease put an abrupt stop to that and robbed us of our future.
I appreciate the advice and I will cherish each moment we are together. It does help to express my anger here- a much needed outlet.
Thanks again and my apologies for dampening new year’s spirits.
God bless you for your listening ear.
Thank you Malinger2. I am in that “anger” stage right now wrestling with the why’s with God. I know He’s in control in my mind, but my heart is a little slower. I very much appreciate the prayers and we will do the same for you and your family. He does drink the Boost every once and a while, but also supplements with the Carnation instant breakfast. The nutritionist suggested it and it is the best thing to jump start his appetite.
Middlesister1, I may have to ask about increasing his fluids. If it would give him more energy, I’m up for anything. He hasn’t worked since September. He tried to do some from his laptop, but once again, the fatigue gets him every time.
You all are awesome and a great help.
Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much Marion and Lainy. His diagnosis and treatment are taking place here in Thomasville, Georgia. He did get a 2nd opinion from Moffit Cancer Center in Tampa. They confirmed original diagnosis and agreed with the regiment of gemcitabine and cisplatin. He has also been seeing a pain management specialist because his pain is a major issue. The doctors, both at Moffit and here, told us that the chemo won’t cure him, but that it would hopefully shrink the tumor to relieve the pain. So far, he can control pain as long as he takes his pain meds every 4 hours. If he goes longer than that, the pain is back and usually a much worse pain.
There are more tests and scans planned for February when he finishes this first regiment ( 8 cycles) of chemo to see if the tumor has shrunk.
