I dont know if this will help, but my dying and leaving Hans terrifies me. I am scared to leave him alone. I talked about it with my psychologist and she pointed to a study that people who lose their loved ones are very likely to find love again. It comforted me to know that he is likely to move on.
I hope this doesnt offend you or upset you, but I am sure your loved ones (like I do for hans) wants you to treasure your love for your lost loves, but not to give up on your futures and finding someone to share your life with. I know it is too soon to think about for some of you, and there is no timeline for grief. But I felt the need to share how relieved I am that after I am gone, statistics show Hans will find someone else and have a happy life despite the pain this cancer causes. I think hope is the most important thing we have to offer…hope for survival, hope for a cure, hope for a peaceful passing, and hope that life goes on.
Please dont be offended or hurt by what I wrote, it was offered in the spirit of hope and kindness.
Kris