Anthony died on 30th July in a London Hospice

Butch never bought me an engagement ring – I didn’t want one. Well, about 4 years ago, he gave me a beautiful citrine ring for Christmas, and I wore it a lot. It turned up missing, and I could not find it – looked everywhere. Last year, between the Mayo Clinic and the University of Pittsburgh, I was weeding in the front flower garden, and it turned up – in the dirt there! I must have pulled my gardening gloves off, and it came off, at some point? Well, I was thrilled , and NOW – I have that ring – the only ring Butch ever bought me. I wear it every day. So – maybe you WILL find that earring some day!

Love – Joyce

Dear Sue
how lovely to find the bracelet,these things can give a lift and we need that.I too am very tired,I think this whole grieving thing is absolutely exhausting.
love from Janet

Thank you everyone, I will pass your kind messages onto Sam.
I have had another of those coincidences today which are difficult to expain. I have a bd habit of losing bracelets. Ray bought me a gold necklace one Christmas, then the next year bought me a bracelt to match it. Then nine years ago we were away for the weekend and I noticed that my bracelet was not on my wrist. I assumed I had lost it whilst on holiday. So Ray bought me a similar one, but slightly differenhnt, true to form, I lost that one a couple of years ago and he bought me a third on, a chunky one with a safety chain so I couldnt loose it!
Anyway today I was taking out some dead flowers and one dropped by the back door and fell between two planters which are there. When I bent to pick up the flower, I noticed something in the gravel behind one of the plant pots and when I picked it up I couldnt believe it it was the first bracelet I had lost all those years ago. I cant understand it because I must have moved those pots every year for the last nine years to replant them and I never saw it!
It has cleaned up beautifully and is now back on my wrist – I will call it an early birthday present from Ray!
I dont know about you all but I feel very tired at the moment – I think we all deserve a good restful weekend!
Sending you all my love,
Sue
x

Sue,
What a wonderful thing to happen – I have no doubt that our husbands are watching over us , and, every once in a while, we are blessed to have something happen which tells us that this is true. It hasn’t happened in a while for me now, but – I am waiting.
Also – hooray for Sam – you go, girl!

Love – Joyce

Hello my friends,
My daughter Sam had her written final exam today this was the first big exam she had taken since her Dad died. Before he died we were always together waiting for her phone call to let us know how she had gone on – beleive it or not when she phoned today I was at Rays grave changing his flowers. so I was able to tell him that she thought she had done OK. It was incredable moving to us both, and, we think, too much of a coincidence for it not to have been meant to be that way – Rays main objective once he had been diagnosed was that he saw Sam qualify as a Doctor, in my way of thinking this was his way of showing us he is still there with us.
Just wanted to share with you all that there are somethings we cant explain which lifts your heart.
Goodnight to all and god bless.
Sue x

Janet,
I, too think that is a good decision. Nothing is trivial – we do like to hear about what is going on in each other’s lives, and also what it is like in different parts of the world. As a matter of fact, I would like to go to your Brother’s house with you! Too bad about the winter coming on, though – autumn must be lovely, and Darla and I envy you the “no snow” part. I am with Sue – put on the “Glad Rags” and go – we hope you have a lovely time, or, at minimum, forget about your problems for awhile.

Love – Joyce

I hope that last post didnt sound a bit trivial I think that really it seems a good idea to get away from here and all the problems for an afternoon
Janet

Hi Janet,
I think you should do what you feel is best for you, but I would imagine your sister-in-law is also hurting?
As it is not actually on your husband’s birthday do you think it would be a little more bearable?
The thing is if you go, you may have a few tears, but you will have made the effort and can always leave early. I am just worried that if you didnt go, you might sit at home and feel worse?
But everyone is different, and only you will know how you can cope in such a gathering. In any case, if you decide not to go, perhaps you could do something for your sister-in-laws birthday another time???
Lots of love,
Sue