February 16, 2011 at 3:50 pm #47785
I can’t get you out of my mind, Andrea. I hope you are doing okay – thinking and praying for you and your family.
JenFebruary 15, 2011 at 11:15 pm #47784jemimaMember
Your dad does sound amazing, to have gone through so much illness and now still to be thinking of others. I am glad that you are able to have this time with him even if he is asleep for a lot of it. At least it is peaceful sleep and I hope for all your sakes that it stays that way.
Thinking of you and sending you strength.
JemimaFebruary 15, 2011 at 8:01 pm #47783cldymondParticipant
Andie: You and your family are constantly in my prayers.So sorry that your dad has taken a turn for the worse. I am hoping you will all be granted the strength to deal with what may lay ahead. Enjoy each smile, moment and touch as they can all be added to your “book of memories”.
Cheryl (Jennifers’ mom)February 15, 2011 at 7:51 pm #47782
I have tears in my eyes reading your post Andrea. I know it’s a difficult time, but I will continue to pray that he passes in his sleep, peaceful and pain-free. I am so glad for the little moments you are able to have with your him – he IS a hero – he sounds like such an amazing man, and certainly has an amazing family surrounding him. Thinking of you and your entire family Andrea…
All my love.
JenFebruary 15, 2011 at 5:54 pm #47781nancy246Participant
I am praying for you Andie. You have a remarkable Dad and family. I know your Dad will find peace. I pray that you, your Mom, your beautiful son and the rest of your family finds peace one day, too. We are all with you. NancyFebruary 15, 2011 at 5:42 pm #47780lainyParticipant
Andie, I have tears in my eyes and in my heart. Not that long ago it was Teddy taking Robin’s hand and telling her he loved her when he could barely speak. What did he last say to me? Be strong! That is what was most important to him. The love we knew for sure, the strength maybe not. I am praying hard for your Dad to go peacefully and so far it looks that way. I think I had mention many posts ago that your dad so reminded me of Teddy in what he would say and do. I wish I could take this horrible pain away from everyone but sadly I cannot. So I am sending you my prayers and hopefully some of my strength.February 15, 2011 at 4:39 pm #47779andieParticipant
Thank you all for your kind words. Whilst I have wonderful family and friends I feel coming on this site is the only place I can express my true feelings and people really do understand.
Dad took his first dose of oramorph at 2.15pm yesterday, he slept straight through until 7.30am this morning. He came downstairs, ate a small bowl of cornflakes, took another spoon of oramorph and went back to bed. He woke about 12ish to change his stoma bag, it took him ages to do it but he is determined to do it himself, he’s still very proud. We don’t know where he is getting the strength from. After he changed it he went back to bed where I went and spent 10 mins with him. He held my hand so tight and we had a lovely chat. It was hard to keep the tears from flowing as he is so thin and weak and his voice is now a dry whisper. Mom then came in and he said he was tired, mom said “go to sleep and dream of something lovely” and he said I will dream of you”, then he went straight back to sleep! It is 4.35pm now and he is still asleep.
I pray that he can pass peacefully in his sleep, after all that he’s been through, polio as a child, cancer 4 times, he really does deserve to go peacefully. He is the kindest man you could ever meet and everyone who meets him loves him. He really is my hero.February 14, 2011 at 11:34 pm #47778jemimaMember
I am so sorry to hear that your dad has gone down hill so quickly. It sounds like the doctor has things under control and even though your dad doesn’t want the hospice nurses in I am sure that they will really help you and your Mum as well as him.
I am thinking of you all and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
JemimaFebruary 14, 2011 at 11:16 pm #47777teresaMember
Hya Andie,mom and family
I keep thinking about you so much.
I have felt so much for you all whilst you have been on this journey.
Oramorph is really good now and will stop any pain.
My hope for all of you is for a peaceful ending. Your dad has shown so much courage and has had a fantastic family by his side. Mom will cope and be brave, she knows she has all of you by her side.
My Love and light to you all
Alan’s momFebruary 14, 2011 at 11:07 pm #47776helenmorementMember
Thinking of you and your family, Andrea.
With love and positive thoughts.
Helen xxFebruary 14, 2011 at 10:43 pm #47775pamParticipant
Andie, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know it is heartbreaking to see your dad in this condition. I know when my dad was in the same place I seemed to always be saying, I’m so sorry, Dad. I meant it, but my dad said, “What are you sorry for? You didn’t do anything.” He was a tough guy, too.February 14, 2011 at 10:32 pm #47774mollybbParticipant
I know how hard this is for you Andie, I check ur dads progress regularly as his case was very similar to my mams who passed away December 1st. She had only been told three weeks b4 hand that it was bile duct cancer. She passed away in her sleep in the local hospital which was a peaceful release for her. I pray for u and ur family at this difficult time my mam never got to this stage even. Best Wishes, Molly.February 14, 2011 at 7:31 pm #47773gavinModerator
Glad to hear that your dads doctor has started him on the Oramorph and I hope that this works well for him. In my dads case, most of his meds were stopped when he went on to the syringe driver for much the same reason that the doctor stopped your dads antibiotics today. My dad seemed to bounce back a bit when they did this and I hope that your dad will as well. Thinking of you lots, and as Jen and Lainy said to you, we are all here for you.
GavinFebruary 14, 2011 at 7:16 pm #47772lainyParticipant
Andie…oramorph good move. Oxygen helps too, not just for breathing. Oxygen helped Teddy relax so that he did breath easier but in doing that it also helped a little with the pain. Hang in, we are all here for you!February 14, 2011 at 5:41 pm #47771
I’m glad they are starting the oramorph Andrea. Honestly, the worst thing I have ever seen in my life is the pain Dad was in when he was admitted to the hospital early December, when we thought it was time to say goodbye. The pain got on top of him, and it took several days for them to get it back under control… he said at the time that he would rather die then feel what he was feeling, and I don’t wish that on anyone. It was the most heartbreaking time of our lives. Hopefully starting it now means that your Dad will never have to face any pain… one small victory against this awful disease.
All my love, thoughts, prayers and energy are with you – stay strong Andrea, and know that we are all here for you…
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