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This is great news! (And an affirmation that prayers do indeed work!) I am so thrilled for you and your Daddy!
I will hold you all close in my thoughts and prayers!
Hugs and much love!
Pam
Sue!
What a day to celebrate!!! You rock!!!
You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!
Hugs!
Pam
tseward,
My Mom’s CC wasn’t found until she had a lung CT to rule out a blood clot from a bout of pleurisy. She had numerous (hundreds) of small lung tumors. This led the doctors to look at the liver. She was stage IV with mets to the lungs when diagnosed. Lungs are a very common place for CC to travel.
I know you are disappointed with the scans and will hold you and your Mom close in my prayers. There is such a bond between Mothers and their daughters!
Hugs and much love coming your way!
Pam
Jennifer,
I’m in the medical field and work as a cytologist in Pathology. Here is a great website that gives an overview of the clinical laboratory tests. It’s a very reputable site with accurate information and very user friendly.
http://www.labtestsonline.org/
Hope this can help.
Hugs!
Pam
ejhern,
A warm welcome to you and your wife. I’m sorry you had to find us but am very glad you did!
I’m glad you’ve decided to stay with us! I believe knowledge is power and you have to be proactive when dealing with disease. You will find a wealth of knowledge and some of the most caring and compassionate people on the planet here on this site!
There is a search engine at the top of the page that you can use to search questions, key words and even posts of individual posters.
We are here for you and your wife! Come often and NEVER hesitate to ask anything.
Many hugs and much love!
Pam
I am so sorry to hear about Brian.
I lost my Mom to this disease April 3, 2009. I’ve been learning first hand how hard grief can be. I thought all of the anticipatory grief I experienced in the year leading up to her death would have prepared me. It doesn’t.
You wlll find that unless a person has experienced grief first hand they will be empathetic but unable to truly comprehend how overwhelming grief can be. Grief is not only emotional but physical as well. Please be gentle with yourself. There is no timetable for how you move through your grieving. It will become less intense eventually but remember every person is different and the process of grieving is different for everyone.
I’ve had some well meaning people tell me that grieving won’t bring Mom back and I need to focus on other things. (this came about two weeks after Mom’s death). Probably a good thing that I was grieving because if I’d had the strength I would have killed the jerk.
The depth of your grief is a personal thing. You’ve been a caregiver and watched the one you loved most in the world die. You are exhausted mentally, emotionally and phyically. Please take any and all of the time you need and if possible ask for help from those around you. You will find that grieving is the hardest job you will ever have.
Your Brian must have been a remarkable man to inspire such love. I know you will find your way to a point in the future when you will be able to only remember the good things and the bad things will fade.
I will hold you close in my thoughts and prayers. Please come back here whenever you need. We truly understand and are here for you.
Much love and hugs,
PamA warm welcome to you Isisman!
I would like to echo all of the above and tell you that by the time you read a “5 year statistic”…..it’s already 5 years out of date!
I can also tell you that because of Margaret (mylepp0416) we have all dropped our pants and verified that we have no visible expiration dates on our collective butts!
When my Mom was diagnosed I decided it was a good time to invoke the “5 minute rule” (The rule states that you do 5 minutes then move to the next 5 minutes!)
This is a scary time for you but it will get better. Take a page from Devoncat’s book, get sassy and be positive. Your husband has already sucessfully come a very long way!
Hugs and lots of prayers coming your way!
Pam
Hi Courtney and welcome to the family!
I would like to echo what Marion said about talking to his attending or primary nurse. It’s very good advice.
I would also like to mention that most hospitals have a patient advocate person that you can also contact. It’s tough not to be there but you’ll find it possible to get the answers and information you need. I would suggest that you get listed on your Dad’s ‘HIPPA” forms at the hospital. It will make getting information easier. I also had my Mom’s “medical power of attorney”.
I’m sending you lots of prayers and good wishes! You sound like a remarkable daughter and a credit to your Dad. He’s lucky to have you!
Hugs!
Pam
A warm welcome to you TK.
Don’t hesitate to ask ANY questions…depressing or not! We believe that knowledge is power and we are all here to help each other. We know how scary this is for you and your family. I know in the beginning I had a million questions flooding through my brain.
We are a loving family of caregivers, patients, cheerleaders and advocates! No matter what the question, the mood or just a need to vent….you’ll find it all here.
There is a search function you can access at the top of the page. You can search subjects, topics and even posts from various members. It’s a good place to start with your questions. You can also post questions (and read his answers) to Dr. Giles. (See this under Patient Support above)
I was a caregiver to my Mom who was diagnosed at age 76 with Stage IV CC with mets to the lungs. I’m in the field of Cytology and was the one who diagnosed her disease.
I’m sending good thoughts, lots of prayers and good wishes to you and your family.
We’re glad you found us!
Hugs,
Pam
Ahhh Sharon,
Your post has brought back memories of my Mom’s last days. It will be a year in April. It is such a bittersweet time. You have every right to be morose and sad. You are tired, fearful and probably mad right now, but you are doing everything right.
Your Mom has raised an amazing daughter and you are passing all of that love and knowledge along to your daughter. There is such a bond between a Mom and her daughter!
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. These coming days and weeks will be tough but you will come to treasure these moments and you will find a deep strength in yourself you never knew existed.
I will pray for courage and strenght for you.
Much love and hugs,
Pam
Janet,
I’m finding as you are that the grief process is a series of steps, of “firsts”, of memories and that it is so much harder than we ever thought it would be.
Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as we navigate these “uncharted” waters.
Hugs and much love to you,
Pam
Sharon,
Beautiful post. I lost my mom on April 3, 2009. Your post brings back memories for me. These are precious hours and minutes that you are being gifted with. Hold on to them tightly.
Hugs to you and your family,
Pam
Hollie,
One of the things recommended by the Duke chemo nurses was a line of mouth products named “Biotene”. They have mouthwash and toothpaste and other oral products. We found it at Walgreens, Harris Teeter grocery stores, and I think Walmarts. I got these for Mom as she started chemo and they were great.
Also in regards to the large pill, check with the pharmacist to see if it comes in any other form. Also check and see if the pills can be cut to make them smaller.
You are being a wonderful advocate for your aunt!
Hang in there and come back often! You can also use the search engine on the top of the page and maybe search “mouth sores” for additional information.
Hugs to you and your aunt!
Pam
Ahhh Beth!
What wonderful news….prayers are indeed heard!
Have a truly Happy New Year!
Hugs to you both!
Pam
