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Barbara,
I too have to say that I admire your strength & passion. Thanks for making the effort to attend the conference & making our presence known. I think that all of us feel as you do that we don’t want the loss of our loved ones to be in vain. We need to raise that awareness any way we can & fight for a cure. Thanks again. You are a very brave, strong women. You deserve all the praise you are receiving. I am hoping your day is getting better & you will have as good of a week as you possibly can.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Natasha,
I am so sorry for your loss & the sadness you are feeling. You have my sympathy and understanding. To lose both parents in such a short time is truely a great loss. Atleast they are now together again & your Mom does not have to suffer the pain of this horrible disease any longer. She is now at peace. They will both be with you forever in your heart & memories. Hopefully that will give you some comfort and peace. You are right, it is a surreal time. I am glad that you have found a lot of support and love around you. Remember there is also a lot of love & support for you here. My thoughts & prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Irene,
You have a wonderful attitude and I think that is so important. What you said is all so true. It is a mixed bag, but take it and live your life to the fullest. From our experience with this cancer & what I have since learned from everyone here, I fully support you and the decisions you have made. You are a very courageous lady. You are so right, with this site & everyone on it none of us, patient or caregiver, are alone in our struggles.
I am hoping for only the best for you in the future.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Jane,
I am so sorry that Caroline has lost her battle with this horrific disease. I too know the pain and sadness that you are now experiencing. I lost my husband almost 8 months ago in a very short time. By the time we knew what we were fighting it was already too late. We can only take comfort in the fact that they are all now at peace, in a better place, no longer suffering or in pain. Caroline will always be with you in your heart and memories as will Jim be in mine. That is what helps me to go on. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, hoping that you will find the strength you need to get through this very sad and trying time in your lives. Remember that we are all here for you and that all of us here do truely understand.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaCarol,
What a beautiful tribute and loving remembrance of Charlie. It brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts & prayers will be with you and your family as you continue your sad journey.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Everyone,
Just checking in.
Sue, It does sound as if your holiday was successful. It is interesting that there were so many that were in the same situation as you. I am so glad that you had such a good time and that everything worked out so well for you.
Joyce, I hope you and Sharran are also having a good time together and enjoying each others company.
Pauline, I am glad you are keeping busy. It doesn’t make it all go away, but it does help a little, doesn’t it?
Janet, I am also thinking of you and hoping that your weekend went OK.
Everyone take care and try to have as good a week as is possible.
Love & Hugs To You All,
DarlaDear Cyndi,
Please know that you are not alone in your grief. I too know that nothing anyone can say right now is going to make it any easier. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, your soul mate. I can totally relate as I lost my husband & partner of over 45 years (married almost 42) almost 8 months ago under very similar circumstances. He was in what we thought was very good health at the age of 62 and only sick for 7 weeks. Diagnoised with CC 1 week before he passed on. He also had blood clots that the blood thinners could not prevent. He was first given 6 months then 1 month & he passed on 1 week later. So much of your story is so similar to ours that I find tears in my eyes and my heart aches for you. This is such a hard way to lose a loved one. We too were on the verge of retirement and hoped for many happy years together, but that was not to be. Try to hold on to the knowledge that at least he is no longer suffering or in pain & is in a better place. It is us who are faced with life alone without them who must learn how to deal with the pain & loneliness & try to go on. Remember that he is still here in your heart & memories. That is not much consulation right now, but it does help. I have a copy of the poem that Patsy posted above & read it every morning. I found this site shortly after my husband passed on & am so grateful for all the wonderful people here. They are always here for you and I have gotten much comfort & support here. You have found a safe place to come where everyone understands what you are feeling & going through. Please come here whenever you need to even when you just need to vent all the feelings you have inside. We are all here for you. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers. Please keep in touch & let us know how you are doing.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Carol,
I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that Charlie is no longer suffering. He is in a better place smiling down on you & your family. He will be in your hearts & memories forever. Hold on to that. As you said, now all you can do is take things one day at a time. As all of us who are going through the grief of losing our loved ones to this terrible disease know, it is not easy, but we are all here for you to help give you strength & comfort. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDeborah,
I also am glad that you have found this site but sorry for the reasons that have brought you here. The help and support here is awesome. You are in good hands. I will be hoping for the best on the results of his scans.
Darla
Dear Barbara,
I also wish to extend to you & your family my condolences and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this sad time. Try to be comforted by the knowledge that his passing was peaceful & that he is now free of all the pain and suffering of this terrible disease. Remember that he will always be with you in your heart and memories.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Lainy,
I have to agree with you & the others. I thought that the Pet Scan was the best indicator for this and most other types of cancer, especially interahepatic. Jim never had chemo or any other treatments and the last few weeks he was always freezing no matter how warm it was. (It was over 90 degrees the beginning of September when he passed away.) So although I am hoping it is not the case, it could be the cancer or possibly an infection. What ever it is, it is not normal. I too will be hoping for the best & that it is only another bump in the road for Teddy & you. Good luck tomorrow & talk to those doctors. Don’t leave until you get answers.
Darla
Hi Everyone,
I hope things are going well for all of you.
Pauline, I hope things are going better for you this week. I know exactly how you feel. I think it is exhausting trying to figure this all out and wondering what is the point of all this. It truely is a lonely, hard seemingly pointless life we are living right now. As pointless as it seems, I do believe we need to carry on as we would probably go crazy if we didn’t. I like you know I need to make the effort for myself as I also do not feel comfortable relying too heavily on others. I think a lot of self pity is no good for anyone, but a little can’t hurt. I think we are deserving after what we have all been through.
I also have made some efforts to try to help others at least that seems to give me some sort of purpose and it does help.
Janet, We really do need to lean on each other for strength, comfort & support, don’t we and we are as happy to be here for you as you are to be there for us & others.
So, as you once said Joyce, we will just carry on living this “altered reality” of a life.
Everyone try to have a good week. I will be thinking of all of you as the week goes by.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
