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Dear Phil,

I am so sorry to hear of Gerry’s passing. It sounds like his last days were very similar to my husband Jim’s, so I do know hard this all was on you and your children. I know there are no words that can help you right now, but please try to take comfort in the fact that Gerry is no longer suffering or in pain and is finally at peace. For those of us left behind it is not so easy. Try to remember him before CC entered your lives keep him near you in your heart and those wonderful memories. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. The support of this group is the best and you will need it now more than ever. Take care and know I am thinking of you and your family in your time of grieving.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

I agree with the others, I would go anywhere else that is recommended and has some knowledge and experience with CC, but would not recommend CTCA. This is just my personal opinion based on what I have heard about CTCA from others, not on personal experience. I have been told by others who have gone there or checked into it, that if you don’t have insurance that they accept and don’t have enough money to pay your own way, you are not even considered. To me this sounds like they are more about the money than the treatment of people. Once again, just my personal opinion. I’m hoping you find the right fit and the best help for your husband.

Darla

Dear Prudence,

I am so sorry to hear of Gerard’s passing. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Gaby,

You and your family have my deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear father. I am sorry for what you all had to experience in the end. Try to take some comfort in knowing that he is no longer suffering and is now at peace. Keep him forever in your heart and memories of him before CC. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this sad and trying time. Take care.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Ladies,

Jim has been gone almost 4 years and we too were together pretty much 24/7 for 45 years. I was told at one point something to the effect that the stronger the love the strong the grief and I believe that is so true. I still have good and bad days, but we just have to keep going on, moving forward one day at a time.

Janet, I like the thought that tears are the water of love. There is nothing wrong with breaking down and crying. It does seem to cleanse and comfort. Deep breathing is also good.

Take care everyone.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dear Asunrae,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. My husband passed in much the same way. Very quickly. It is hard to accept that someone so active and healthy and in her case also so young can be taken so quickly by this horribly disease. Our only consulation is that they did not have to suffer for a long time and are now at peace. My husband was 62 and I thought that was too young to lose him but to lose a child and at such an early age I can’t even imagine.

I know how it feels to feel helpless or that you could have or should have done something differently, but there is nothing you did or didn’t do that would have changed things. I felt the same way in the beginning and still do sometimes, but realistically I know I did the best that I could with the situation that was given to us. It is nobody’s fault it just is what it is. It’s not right, it’s not fair, but it was out of our control.

There is no rhyme or reason to this disease and we are seeing more and more younger people being diagnoised. There are so many questions and hardly any answers, but hopefully that is slowly changing. Although it is too late for us, hopefully others will benefit from our experiences and with more awarness and research, some day we will beat this cancer.

You have my deepest sympathy. My thoughts are prayers go out to you and your family on the loss of your dear daughter.

With Love & Hugs,
Darla

Kandre,

I am so sorry to hear that Andre has passed. You have my deepest sympathy. Try to remember him before all of this. Keep him forever in your heart and memories. Andre is now at peace and no longer suffering. Try to take some comfort in that. Know that I am thinking of you and that I share your pain.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

DCMAC,

I am so sorry for your loss and truely understand your pain.

My story is so much like yours. It has been almost 4 years for me and I am still struggling with the loss and miss him more everyday. We were married 41 years and he died less than 2 months from when we first suspected something was wrong. His only earlier sign was a soreness in one of his legs and being tired a lot. He was always very active and healthy until then, or so we thought. For us this came out of no where and ended so quickly as it seems it also did for you and your husband.

You have come to the right place. Everyone here knows what it is like to deal with this horrible disease. We all understand and care. This board and the people on it have gotten me through these past four years.

Take care and keep coming back. It does help.

Love & Hugs,
Darla