dragonflyandbutterfly
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Jennifer, well you and I have the almost the same sad story. My mom also passed away too fast. She waited too long, when I went through all her papers and cabinets, it seemed as though she knew something was wrong. She was suppose to have tests done a long time before she was admitted. When I cleaned out her cabinets I found every possible, stomach medicine you could buy over the counter. She was a very private person when it came to her health. It wasnt like she was going to call me and say ” gee, my stool is black as coffee grounds!” or I am so itchy I am scratching my skin right off. I loved my mom so much that sometimes I think I was boarder line possessive. Till this day I feel like the chain had been broken and there is a piece of me that is floating around trying to come home. This year I am going to try to make an effort to sit out on my deck like I did everyday with her. She loved my home and the peacefullness. You see, I live in a small community with forests, lots of trees, frogs, wildlife. I have my own pond out back that she would just watch things swim back and forth. I know it is hard to think of the day she passed and the hell she went through, but the one thing but the one you will always have are the good times.
If he can not get a second opinion, I would get his records and scans and show it to the docs there in Japan. Hopefully they will see a positive solution. Good Luck to you and your future wife. She will need you more than ever now. My husband is still my rock when I lost my mom.
Be assertive with the doctors. Ask for the scan that will show any masses. Tell them its your brothers life not theirs and just do it. Of course with a sweet smile on your face.
Like a commercial I seen the patient went to the doctors to only find out they had cancer. The doctor gave them a limited time frame. They went to another doctor and that doctor said to them. “I did not see a time frame for your life stamped on your foot”
Please try to see it that way. Just because someone tells you have so many months to live, that is how it is? Would you jump off a cliff because they said it was the only way? Heck NO!!!
When my mom was sick, I would be the one to keep her going, I refused to let her get down. She was laughing and walking and trying to dance the night before she passed. Was I selfish to make her not give up? maybe but I am willing to be selfish for you.
Keep in touch as much as you can, maybe I can try to lift your spirits.
hugs from dragonflyandbutterfly
Thank you so much for the support. I suspect that it will always be difficult to understand why the ones you love are taken way too early. I am more of a spiritual person than religious and I truly believe that you experience different things to learn and teach others. Right now my lesson to learn and to pass on is that to appreciate every living being, don’t take one thing for granted. Of course I am getting a big fat “D” in this lesson.
On a more humouros note, when it was time to make funeral arrangements, I did something a bit different. I decorated the parlor with all my mom’s favorite things. Egyptian statues from her home, her ever loving red wings jersey, I had “KISS” rock group t-shirts plastered everywhere and of course her ever devotion to the MIA organizations. I also had the funeral parlor play only her favorite songs, which by the way were KISS and ZZ Top. She did not ride in a hearst, she was pulled by a Harley Davidson glass carriage that was pulled by a Tri-Harley.
Needless to say I had family members from other funerals coming to my mom’s room just to get away from the sadness. Then I was asked why I did not make it a business on planning funerals!!! Go Figure.
Thank you again, and I am sure when I remember other goofy things I did with my mom I will share.
You all have given me a bright spot to think about, oh my mom was only 61 when she passed.
Love to all
Tracy
