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Hi Kelly,
My husband passed away from CC on the 15th February after being diagnosed late November last year. It is a terrible disease with virtually no symptoms until it is too late.
I will be thinking of you and your family.
Jenny
Hi Fran,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to CC on the 15th February 08.
I saw him not long after he died. My last image of him alive was that he was sleeping peacefully after being in so much pain. I miss him terribly and wish he was back with me.I’ll be thinking of you and everyone else who has suffered the loss of a loved one.
Jenny from Australia.
Hi Michele,
I can understand how you feel. I feel the same way. I even said to my husband before he died that I wanted to come with him and he told me I had to go on for him and our family – that my time would come when it was my time. It doesn’t help the feelings of lonliness and despair and the what if’s. I have plenty of those.
My husband was only 57. His mother is still alive and is 87 this month. She is taking it hard and has dementia and sometimes forgets he has passed on and tells me he took her to the doctor etc. when it was really his older brother who took her there.
We had gone through a lot of trauma the last few years with drought on our farm and selling it just over 12 months ago to retire and “enjoy” life and now I am alone to try to enjoy my life. He went through so much and now can’t reap the benefits of finally being rid of the farm that was dragging us down.
If makes you wonder what life is all about and why it can be so cruel but we have to move forward as hard as it can be. My Mum died from multiple myeloma 4 years ago and my cousin died a week ago from myeloid leukaemia. It is a harsh world we live in but we have to find strength to carry on as hard as it seems.
That stairway to heaven will open for you when it is your time. I wish I could be with my husband but I know he is with me in spirit and that helps.
Thanks Kris
I take some time but there is so much to sort out since he died that it adds to the stress of it all
Jenny
Hi thecdr
Thankyou so much for your remarks. I hope you can get more help for CC than Alan was able to get. It is a pity that doctors don’t know enough about it. What gall bladder surgery did you have? I have read that sometimes CC can be found by accident in the very early stages and the gallbladder is taken out and sometimes the bile ducts before it gets to the stage of affecting the liver.
I miss my husband so much and I wish I had told him more things now but we don’t seem to tell them enough until it is too late.
I will be praying for you as well
Jenny
Hi Jeff,
Thanks for your remarks. I must admit too that I have been beating myself up about it all as I can’t understand how Alan got such a cancer especially when statistics say that it is very rare in the western world. Can I get it perhaps? Is it in the environment or is it genetic? No one seems to know for sure how people get it? Is it from the food we eat?
That is hard as well – the not knowing why??
I won’t let it rob my future but it is hard at this stage to consider enjoying a future without Alan as he was to be my future but I will try with God’s help.
His was so quick – He had very few symptoms before diagnosis except that he was tired a symptom which I also have because I have CFS and so nothing to pin cancer on.
Jenny
Hi Jesse
Hope all is well with you. My husband died from this three months after diagnosis. (died 15th February 08) Some of the treatments mentioned weren’t offered to him as his condition was so far gone on diagnosis.
All the best!Jenny
Hi Peter & everyone
Sadly my husband Alan passed away from this dreadful disease on the 15th February. There wasn’t enough time for the alternatives to work. He had breathing difficulties towards the end and though he had faith in the alternatives, there wasn’t enough time for him.
Jenny
Hi everyone,
My husband Alan passed away from this cancer on the 15th February this year. He was dignosed only 3 months before that. No one can tell us how he got it. I can beating myself up thinking I could have done more or persuaded him to have regular check ups at the doctor but he was always too busy helping in the community to worry about himself. It seems so unfair as we had just retired from our farm and looking forward to more time together.
He was only 57. I miss him terribly. Easter was sad and his borthday is coming up soon. I know it will be sad for me again and our two children.
Our grandchildren are sad as they miss their poppy.
At least he didn’t suffer for too long and was able to spend Christmas and New Year at home.
Kind regards,
Jenny from Australia.
Hi everyone,
How is Colin Fran. I feel so much for you. My husband went through the fevers etc. and he went blue in January, had DVT etc. and was hospitalised for 10 days until he died on 15th February. He was only 57 and we had been married for 33 years. This is a horrible cancer that is called the silent killer as it seems by the time people know they have it, it is only a matter of time in most cases as it affects the liver and lungs.
I miss my husband Alan so much. It is so lonley and my life is so different now. I am probably not looking after myself as well as I could be at the moment either but will have to try and live on for him. He would want that.
I live in Queensland Australia. Teresa sorry to hear about your Alan.
Jenny
