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YEAH! We love good news and how wonderful that you and Jamie got to meet. I tell ya there is nothing like meeting someone from this Board! Keep up the good work!!!

Welcome and sorry you had to find us. First and foremost is to get under the care of a good Oncologist. He will take care of the rest. Don’t feel bad looking for “signs” that is extremely important. My guess would be that you need to speak with her heart doctor about the chemo tolerance. And no, we do not believe in expiration dates. We have some wonderful “miracle” stories on here. Please keep us posted and feel free to visit often with questions or advise.

Dearest Ashlea, of course your dad knew how much you loved him, he even saw this beautiful post. Because you questioned heaven I am repeating my little dad’s story:

My dad at the age of 93 had gall bladder surgery. Came home and was fine. The next day he went in to a very deep, peaceful sleep. We could not wake him. I called the paramedics and they could not wake him. They did the infamous breast rub and he jumped awake. Mom sat on the bed and said, Norman, I was so scared you wouldn’t wake up!”
At this point I have to interject that my dad believed in nothing he could not explain. Heaven, magic etc. He also was not very descriptive.
He answers mom, “I just had a beautiful dream, I saw Heaven.” We went to ER and my daughter joined us there. She said “Grandpa, I heard you had a dream.” He said, “Yes, Robin, I saw Heaven and it was so beautiful.” He came home and passed the next day. If I never believed before I sure did after that. Heaven is Beautiful!

Then….this last month I have been caring for mom who is now 93, mild dementia and falls. Its been very, very stressful. One night I woke up coughing, you know dry throat…so I knew I was awake. Laid there for awhile and all of a sudden I felt the strangest feathery light touching all over my face. Then it stopped. I truly believe my dad was thanking me.

What I am trying to say is your dad will be all around you, sometimes it just takes time and you have to be open to looking for the signs. I suggest reading Sylvia Browns first 2 books about the beyond. Very interesting and soothing.

So sorry about your baby but at least your dad has his grandchild with him.
Be patient your “teddy” will come around, he’s just still unpacking!

Hi Kimmie and welcome. I believe all your thoughts a excellent as is the advise already given. I would like to look at this from the patient’s views, which could also help. This is the patient bill of rights and I think every now and then we all need to be reminded:

If I should express anger or depression,
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Welcome, Rick, to the best little club in the world that no one wishes to join. You are at one of the best hospitals with the best doctors. Not sure about the Cystic Duct. My husbands was in the bile duct valve and he had a Whipple 4 years ago this month. He is now 77 and doing very well. It is always so scary when the diagnosis is first given. After all who has ever heard of this? Please try to read up on this as much as you can as to be fore warned is to be for armed. We have a search engine at the top of the page.Honestly, soon the fright will turn to fight and then you become your own best advocate. Everybody is different with this monster so no one really knows for sure that they may only have months to live. Don’t think that. Instead try to program your mind to have HOPE and your spirit to have ATTITUDE. Please let us know what the doctors say and feel free to visit here often to ask, vent or advise.

Heather, after Teddy’s Whipple I was amazed that they had him sitting up in a chair the next morning. What a feeling to walk into the room and see that. Somehow you just move along. This was cute and all those who have come to know Teddy through my posts can relate to this: Every morning he had the nurses clean him up and he shaved himself as he would always say, “I have to look nice, my wife will be here soon and I want to look nice for her!” God’s honest truth. See what I mean about attitude? One other thing about attitude. When he was back on the Oncology floor recouping, he started getting visits from other cancer patients and he would say. “How do you like that. They are much worse off than I am and they are visiting me?” Attitude everyone, attitude.

Oh my goodness, Janet. Thank-you. At least I keep telling Teddy that I am very wise! Really, all he ideas here were very good. Isn’t this Board the absolute greatest? Now if only none of us had to be here….that would be really great.

Please accept our deepest sympathies for you and your family on the passing of your Dad. You are an exceptional daughter to have taken this journey with him and have walked by his side to the end. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.