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This reminds me of a fundraiser we had when I was in college. We bought a junker car and charged folks $1 a whack with a sledgehammer. Might be a better approach than racing for a cure?
Post gallbladder removal, my husband has experienced what can only be described as resonant and long-lasting flatulence episodes.
I think that marinol is worth a try, beyond the “lightheadeness” described as side effect. It worked wonders for my husband. He also tried marijuana, and found it most helpful – helped him “remember what it feels like to be healthy”. This from a man who would not accept that his 33-year old multiply pierced and tattooed son (former rock band drummer) had ever tried the stuff……..
This is grief in slow motion.
I know that it will happen, he will die. Probably from cancer, probably sooner rather than later.
I don’t know when. I don’t know how long it will be. I don’t know what he (we) will go through to get to the end.
I do know he will leave grieving children. And me, grieving the love of my life. And others who love him grieving his absence.
When we first told our son that his daddy’s illness would cause his daddy’s death, he cried. “I will miss him”, “who will take care of me?”. I will always be with you. There will always be someone (mommy, uncles, older brothers) to take care of you.
I will always be with you. He will always be with me. Mercifully, he is still here right now. I will enjoy and appreciate the time that we have – be it one or many years.
What we have right now is all that we really have. Each one of us (and our loved ones) could be hit by a truck (or a meteor, for that matter) tomorrow; and be gone. We have no control over the future, only our reaction to the events that occur in the future. Or the present. Slow motion grief. He will not be here as long as I want. Or he wants. but he is here now.
My fiancee was given Gemzar every other week for 18 weeks (9 treatments). He was quite miserable by the 4th treatment; the Dr finally prescribed Marinol, which is a drug based on substances in marijuana that quell nausea and stimulate the appetite. This med was a godsend – he was able to eat more, and more regularly, and basically just felt better not being nauseauos all the time.
