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Dear Julia,
I think when you get to the time of year when things were tough it does come back at you a bit,quite unbidden,you can be trying to distract yourself but the memories are a bit too strong and break through and make you feel a bit ordinary.
……But time eases it .For me the Christmases have been pretty awful as thats when our worst time was and Joel died early January but this last christmas I enjoyed the day and I thought “Well now this is progress”I had tried to enjoy the others even booking into a very expensive restaurant for us all one year-
I enjoyed the food but it was still a very average day.
Darla is right about these feelings coming in waves and we surf through them and get past them.So just keep doing what you enjoy and what makes you happy and sometimes it will work
Janet xxThat is great news Pam and nice to have it before they go on their holiday to Mexico ….. all good Janet
Hi there,
A difference in BP on the different arms(or legs ) can be related to the aorta or heart.Blood pressure is usually higher on the dominant arm(usually the right) normally so depending on which arm it was it might not be a huge difference.
If it is related to tumour pressure that would be unusual and I dont think we have had that presentation before.
I hope your mum picks up quickly and is able to go home
JanetI remember him on the horse! he seemed like a game for anything sort of bloke.I doesnt feel like 3 years ,although we have all been through a lot together in these last few years
love from your friend Janet
Good luck from me to you both..from the other side of the planet .., we are a big worldwide family here
Kindest regards JanetI still miss her a lot,she was so funny always and so interested in all of us and our families.We both loved swimming in the ocean.
My kindest regards to you Hans
Janetps Lainy,Im not sure if sweet is the right adjective for Kris,she was pretty outrageous really!…and we loved it
Mandy it certainly is difficult as a partner and rather overwhelming at times and when you have a busy household with kids you do feel this huge sense of crippling responsibility and concern for the future.
I think counselling is really helpfull ,as a couple or separately.I t is important that he goes to the important apointments but for the chemo and some of the others perhaps a friend or other family member could go with you.You need to access as much family/community support as you can because your family needs it and your husband needs support too,he may be feeling a bit burnt out.
Hopefully your marriage will evolve and strengthen as this all plays out…but it will never be the same,you will all be changed as a result of your experiences but you will come through together
JanetHi there Mandy and welcome.We do have a few members from Australia here to keep you company.I think you have done pretty well,what hospital were you treated in? its good to know for any future enquiries we might have.
The treatment you have had sounds all good,what the future brings who knows but the surgery gives you a good chance
JanetAlla,
I dont wear my wedding ring now.My husband has been gone for three and a half years and I dont remember when I took it off,after a couple of years perhaps…I just felt like removing it at that point so did so. My mum at age 80 still wears all her rings and my dad has been gone for 10 years AND she has a man friend these days…..so it is very individual really.take care Janet
Hi there,
I think it is time to step back and think about what is happening here.Chemo is a harsh treatment and also a treatment that does not work with maybe up to 70% of cc sufferers and then it will not cure just buy more time.Let your sister decide honestly what she wants to do,it is not a time for pushing her to do anything,this is precious time for you all.
Take care JanetDear Ilias,
I think you should talk to your brother in law the GP and ask him to explain truthfully what the situation is.The switch to the different chemo is apropriate because of the new growths which have occurred when your mum was on the 5fu.It would be best to cross our fingers and hope it has a good effect rather than worry ahead of time.
Ilias the chemo is not a cure,it just delays the progress of the cancer ……as to how long for is very individual and cant be predicted but realistically this is a terminal illness for your mother.
I agree with the oncologist to steer away from alternative treatments while on chemo apart from those that bring comfort,a massage is wonderful.
Discuss with your family the idea of a second opinion but I think the current regime probably would not be changed.
Take some time off work and spend some quality time with your mum and dad Take care JanetHi Alla,
that was great that you had that time,as I said you get these windows here and there and can make the most of them.Clearly he was very happy to see his son.
I think you should stop the TPN,I dont think it has a place,that is my nurse opinion and my carer experience opinion.I am happy you have family support to help you through this.Take care Janet
