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Good to hear from you, LD. Yes, do stay with us. This site is so helpful.
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Natasha: I am sorry you are going through all this…..first your dad and now your mother. You don’t speak of any brothers and sisters than can help you? My mom passed away about 3 years ago. They never put a catheter in her, so we had diapers the whole time. Also, she didn’t have any BM problems. It’s been 3 weeks since your last post. How are you doing?
I, too, thought perhaps those 2 men were angels sent to watch over you. They will probably leave when they know you are strong again. If in doubt, the next time they appear in your dreams, instead of running away, approach them and ask “what is your message?”
Marjo
Lina: I am sorry. Please be sure to stay with us. This site understands all too well. Someone is always here for you.
Marjo
Carol: I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad he was surrounded with his loving family. We are with you.
“Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die. “—by Mary Frye
Lainy! Are you kidding me? What native San Franciscan has not eaten at Alioto’s. It’s an icon. Cold on the wharf though. I am thinking of you and Teddy basking (baking?) in that Arizonan heat. After Ahwatukee, I moved up to Fountain Hills for a couple of years. 10 degrees cooler. 107 instead of 117.
Marjo
Ms. Roma 35: You may have seen this link. It is beautiful.
http://www.simpletruths.com/dash/index.html
I have my arms around you. I am sorry for your loss.
Marjo
Hello and welcome! I, too, am like you in that I found this site after my mom had passed away. But, reading all that people shared gave me additional insight. After awhile, I began to feel maybe I should/could share some of my experiences in the hopes that someone else can benefit. People here really do understand.
Marjo
Hi Lainy: Was Teddy a “regular” at any particular golf course? If so, maybe you could talk to them about letting the old regular guy ride the path in the golf cart. I think prices will start dropping because of the heat. He’d be out in the warmth and having great memories. You could freeze some water in a plastic zip-lock and put that on yourself.
Marjo
Hi Lainy! Can you put Teddy outside (maybe not in direct sunlight) with plenty of water so he won’t dehydrate? My mom used to love it when the sun shined through our car window onto her.
Marjo
Hi again Lainy: My mom loved her electric blanket. But unbeknown to us, it was one of those up-to-date brand that would shut itself off after 10 hours for safety. Well, she was in bed ALL DAY and so we wondered why she was still shivering sometimes. That d_mn thing was off!. When did we find out finally about this safety feature?…..oh, about a year after she passed on. Yes, guilt, guilt, guilt. (picture me slapping the side of my head). Thanks goodness, when we changed her bedding (daily), we always “turned it off” and then turned it back on…..so, she had warmth at least 10 hours at a time. Sigh.
Marjo
My mother had the itchiness on her arms and face. So bad, she used a mini-hairbrush to scratch. This went on for a couple of years before she was ever diagnosed or darken in skin color. After diagnosis, the M.D.’s suggested it was the bile backup from blocked bile duct. Atarax helped her a lot. I wish I had known about the SARNA. It would have been good to glide it on her skin like a gentle massage. soothing and caring and loving.
Marjo
Ahh, Lainy: I used to live in Ahwatukee and will never forget the heat. Hmmm. And, it’s only April.
Back here in S.F., during a summer, I was sweating bullets in the car and my mother was shivering from being cold. Then, she asked if I could blast the heater higher! I had to put a napkin around my neck to catch the drips. Never figured out if it were the chemo or cancer causing her coldness. So, if Teddy never had chemo…..maybe it’s the cancer?
Marjo?
