sharonlee

My heart breaks for you. To have been so young and have to leave the children behind. My Mom passed after only 1 chemo treatment having been diagnosed 6 months earlier. I will pray for you and the family.

Jeff;

I am sorry about your Mom. I read your post about all the things you learned while taking care of your Mom. What a wonderful son you are. I too learned so much while taking care of my Mom. She passed at 76 just this February, she started feeling a little stomach pain and turned jaundice. It was only 6 months from the time of diagnosis in which she passed. Caring for her in the home was not an easy thing to do as I had to watch her suffer. But this was my Mom, and oh such a good friend. I would do it again if I had to. Nothing would stop me from taking care of Mom. My heart goes out to you.

Amy;
I am sorry your Mom is having so much trouble with the stents. My Mom had a few of them mostly metal, one plastic, but each time it needs to be changed out it’s another proceedure and perhaps all this works on the body as something foreign being introducted and makes the body more prone to infection. My Mom passed at 76. Six months after first sign of illness. When she was first diagnosed suregons said there was no spread. They said she should have chemo and then review the case again for possible surgery. Well after the first chemo treatment that was it. She went downhill. It began with elevated liver numbers, weight loss, jaundice. She would get filled up fast after eating. She began to have low grade fevers which they said came with the illness. I cared for her at home. Loved her very much. Miss her every day. She was very active before the illness. Danced, cooked, worked in the yard. We are all here for you. It’s all very confusing and hard to figure out HOW are loved ones got the cancer in the first place. Do your best to have the doctors explain what is happening. Keep after them. Bless you.

Dina;

I am so sorry to hear your about your Mom. It’s terrible when you don’t know exactly what the illness is. Gallbladder or bile duct. I started researching pancreatic cancer when my Mom became sick and then it went to bile duct. Still never knew exact stage of the disease. Love you Mom and be there for her. We pray for you.

Elsie;

I am so sorry to hear about Jim. I don’t know any of the people on this board, but that does not stop the sorrow I feel when I hear of another passing. Jim’s body perhaps was so weakened with the illness that his heart could not be stong. I still cannot believe how fast the illness took my Mom. I joined the site when Mom got sick and still visit daily. The people who fight, the people who give advise, the people that have hope and all the love that is shared. I wanted my Mom to live longer and I know you wanted that for Jim. We couldn’t make that happen, but we loved them.
Bless you and your family.

Percy;

I am very sorry. This is so hard to deal with. Good people and so very young. Both of you were blessed to have each other; giving so much love. Please stay strong.

I find it very difficult to send this email to you because it is so sad what your entire family is dealing with. I recently took care of my Mom and had hospice come in when Mom said she did not want any more chemo. She only had one treatment and then became very, very weak and just wasn’t herself. I do not believe you will have any problem with the oncologist setting up hospice. Be sure to check what your health insurance coverage is. There was no reason for my Mom to ever see the oncologist again, although they offered that she could continue to go there for fluids which she did not. She had enough with doctors. There was a nurse (no doctors) who came to my Mom’s 1-2 times a week to check her. Aids would come for one hour a few times a week to assist. All medications that were required were sent to the home and kept on hand. Most of the time I had to give my Mom the meds. I was able to call the hospice nurse any time day or night with questions. If necessary, they were on call to come. My Mom did not have lots of pain, but did have lots of anxiety. I hope this helps you. I pray for you.