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Losing a loved one is a difficult process in itself, but such a rapid loss feels like your heart has been torn out and stomped on from one day to next. My dad was in the hospital for two weeks before being diagnosed with cc, one week after being diagnosed he passed away. He was only 45 and very fit. I know how hard it is to see someone so important in your life just slip away so fast. Although the pain will never go away, God will find ways to help you heal. It has been 5months since my daddy passed and there are moments when i can almost hear him laughing along at our jokes. Just remember the good times… my heart fills with sadness to know that so many people have to go through something horrible like this. My condolences and prayers for you and your family.
-Viviani am so sorry to hear about your sister. i really don’t know what i would to without my big sister- she is my best friend! This disease is claiming the best people around us and it seems like it goes by so so fast. My dad just passed away in november, and he was 45 as well. He’d only been showing signs for about 2 months and had only been diagnosed with cc a week before he passed away. i cant express how much my heart goes out to you and your family. *much love
-VivianIt’s always difficult to stay strong in a situation like this… and even then, you ask yourself if you should be strong or show them how much it hurts you because you love them. I watched my grandpa die of thyroid cancer in july, and i felt helpless. then four months later, the three most intense weeks of my life ended with my dad’s death to cc. it is so hard to understand why these things happen, but God will provide you and your family with comfort. I think this message board is a great opportunity to vent… and you should definitely take advantage of it. My prayers are with you and your family and I wish you the best of luck. *much love
-Viviani have truly found relief in this site, to be finally be able to share my story and have other people to relate to. Alan reminds me of my dad… *heh, he was always going to gym and constantly playing soccer games, trying to keep his “studly” shape. And when people would tell him he was losing weight, he’d be completely offended and flat out deny it or return an insult like- well, you look a little heavier. Such a jokester…
although it was fast, i really felt like i had sooo much time with him. My parents had only been divorced for about 2 yrs and we didn’t spend much time with him. However, the week we were all in houston were some of the best memories that i have of my dad. and it might have been painful, and i’d wished he’d never had to endure something so horrible- i’m glad we had the ending that we did. What’s wierd is that a month after my dad passed away, i got married and now, i’m pregnant. Turns out my due date is on the date my dad passed away. God is always with us, giving us hope, giving us life, and giving us the miracles he sees necessary to keep on living.
I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I myself had a similar experience.. my dad was diagnosed with extrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma on 11/16/2006- after having been in the hospital for two weeks. Two days after he was diagnosed we transfered him from our local hospital to MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston,TX. Which we’d heard was the best cancer treatment center in the world. Although, the staff was awesome and definitely gave my dad hope- the cancer was an inevitable and a horrible experience. On 11/25/2006 at 8:00am my dad passed away- he did not undergo any treatment, other than a shunt to relieve abdominal buildup. The cancer was too advanced for anything to be done- the day before Thanksgiving my dad fell into a coma and would sparingly come back to us. My dad went from being a young 45 year old, athletic, and extremely fit guy to a weak and fragile person within the course of 2 and a half weeks. It was completely unexpected. Doctors continuously asked us how we couldn’t have noticed his pain or anything previously because his cancer was so advanced, it should have taken years to develop! The fact was that we’d noticed the jaundice, but never thought anything of it. He’d complained about a back pain and went to see over 10 doctors and had several blood tests done- everyone told him the same thing, your bilirubin levels are a little high, but it’s nothing to worry about. So that’s what we did- not worry. From what i have read, it is suppossed to be a really slow growing cancer, but EXTREMELY aggressive. Also, depending on where the cancer started the symptoms will often take longer to arise. For example with extrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma, there is the symptom of jaundiceness, but no pain until it has metastasized into the liver. Where intrahepatic is the opposite. After my dad passed, I went crazy trying to figure out ways that I may have known that something was wrong with him. I read so many articles on the subject and still feel like i know absolutely nothing. I am sorry for the loss you have suffered and I hope that everything works out for you and your family. *much love
– Vivian
